San Francisco Bay Times - August 24, 2023

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LGBTQ News & Calendar for the Bay Area CELEBRATING FOUR DECADES (1978–2023)

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We Are One! Be Part of the LGBTQ+ Community’s Response to the Tragic Fires in Maui

In early August 2023, several wildfires broke out in the state of Hawaii. The fires were mainly centered on the island of Maui.

On August 8, wind-driven fires prompted evacuations, caused widespread damage, left thousands homeless, and killed at least 115 people in the town of Lahaina. Over 1,300 people remain missing. The spread of the wildfires was caused by extreme hot dry conditions, strong winds— exacerbated by Hurricane Dora’s passing to the south—and the proliferation of non-native vegetation. There is evidence that the fires were sparked by aging, live power lines that were blown down in the winds. The Lahaina fire is the deadliest U.S. wildfire in over a century. The pain and loss experienced by our brothers and sisters in Maui is something we in Northern California especially understand.

The belief that we are all one human family is fundamental to Rainbow World Fund (RWF).

We are unified with our world community in the concern for the people of Hawaii. Like so many people on the mainland and across the world, our staff has many personal connections to the island. Long-time RWF volunteer Keith Sjoholm’s sister Ellen has lived on Maui for over 40 years. Fortunately, his sister was not physically harmed by the fire; but her employer, the Pacific Whale Foundation, suffered the destruction of its office and two large teaching boats. Twenty of her coworkers are homeless.

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Lahaina was originally called Lele in Hawaiian, which means to jump or fly. The term then referred to the region jutting out from the sea, but now it captures the hopes of many who envision this oncebeautiful beach town rising like a phoenix from the ashes of the devastating August 8–9, 2023, wildfire that as of this writing has destroyed at least 80% of Lahaina and led to the known deaths of 115 individuals. Hundreds more are still missing.

Although Lahaina is over 2,350 miles away from San Francisco, the Bay Area’s ties to the Maui hub run deep and particularly within the LGBTQ+ community. The percentage of adults who identify as LGBTQ+ in the Hawaiian Islands has for decades been among the highest in all of the U.S., according to the census, Gallup surveys, and more. Our community’s history in the region goes back even further, to the pre-colonial era with the Māhū, or third gender Native Hawaiians and Tahitians. While the term as slang has be used pejoratively, the Māhū continue to hold a place of respect within Hawaiian culture and community.

The Hawaiian concept of ‘ohana, or family, is universal. Just as we may maintain strong emotional ties to relatives who live away from the Bay Area, so too do we often feel connected to LGBTQ+ community members from outside of this region. The problems we face as well, ranging from an aging infrastructure to climate change, are also sadly all too familiar. In helping the survivors of Lahaina, we therefore help to strengthen our extended community and take steps toward addressing challenges that hit very close to home, thinking of the fires that in recent years tore through the California towns of Paradise, Concow, and much more.

Via the organization Give ( https://give.org/ ) and the Better Business Bureau ( https://www.bbb.org/ ), donors can research and evaluate charitable organizations. Please also consider attending the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence’s Ohana fundraiser at Lookout on Thursday, August 31, and supporting other local grassroots efforts to help out at this time of urgent need.

While struggling to hold back tears, Keith told me, “Maui is like a second home for me. I have so many magical memories. Being there always reminds me of the true importance of family and friends—the people who always have your back and

that you can ‘talk story.’ You know, ‘ohana is a Hawaiian word meaning family ; it includes bloodrelated, adoptive, and your chosen family. It also means that we are as strong as the community we keep.”

Besides the loss of human lives, animal lives, housing, businesses, and infrastructure, the impact on Hawaiian cultural legacy is devastating. The fire has destroyed hundreds of artifacts, thousands of historical records, and many culturally and spiritually important sites. Many of the victims were elders and leaders in their families and communities.

On a macro level, Maui’s challenges are enormous. It is easy to look at Lahaina and feel overwhelmed. But on a micro level, progress is already being made—and that is where you find the hope. There has been an outpouring of support from around the world. People are opening up their homes to the survivors. Visitors are changing their plans to avoid getting in the way and to allow all resources to be dedicated to the survivors. At Rainbow World Fund, we have learned that the foundation for change and long-term recovery after a natural disaster is always on the micro level. One to one. Community by community.

Aloha is the Hawaiian word for love, affection, peace, compassion, and mercy. It is commonly used as a simple greeting, but has a deeper cultural and spiritual significance to native Hawaiians, for whom the term is used to define a force that holds together existence. Please know that your generosity and efforts will not only provide needed aid but also will create and share the hope that is essential to our survival, our healing, and humanity. That is true Aloha spirit.

We invite you to be part of our ‘ohana and make a donation to Rainbow World Fund’s Hawaii Fire Emergency Fund. Right now, the best way for

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Sending Love and Help to Maui

Lahaina may be 2,350 miles from San Francisco in travel time, but it is clearly much closer in the hearts of so many here who have deep roots on Maui. When news of the tragic fires became known, an outpouring of love, grief, and memories was unleashed around the Bay Area. Many locals have strong ties to Maui, and Lahaina in particular. Immediately on the heels of shock and grief, the Bay Area did what it does best when disaster strikes: people sprang into action to help.

The need is overwhelming. Countless people lost everything: homes, businesses, neighbors, pets, loved ones, and whole communities. The Hawaii Community Foundation mobilized immediately, creating the Maui Strong Fund to provide financial resources that can be deployed quickly, focusing on rapid response and recovery for residents.

See the links at the end of this piece.

As each day passes, we are learning of other on-the-ground efforts that are doing heroic work under the most challenging circumstances. Another organization providing material assistance is the Maui AIDS Foundation, which has posted a wish list for critically-needed supplies: https://tinyurl.com/2u8rvswj

The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence are also planning Ohana, a fundraiser for Maui AIDS Foundation’s relief efforts, on August 31 at the Lookout. See the ad in this issue and Sister Merry Peter’s article for additional details.

Here is another link that you can follow to help; every dollar counts. Hawaii Community Foundation’s Maui Strong Fund: https://tinyurl.com/HFMS23

Joanie Juster is a long-time community volunteer, activist, and ally.

Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence to Present ‘Ohana Fundraiser for Lahaina on August 31

The voice on the phone cracked as she replied, “ We’re very lucky that we are all safe. Mahalo for asking. We’re trying to help each other each day.” Then she paused, and her silence conveyed her exhaustion and grief. But after a moment, she continued saying, “ We need tarps, storage containers, toiletries, and diapers.”

One week on from the devastating wildfires that ravaged Maui and burned Lahaina to ash, Auntie Jamie, at the Maui AIDS Foundation, conveyed the unimaginable scope of the crisis, but also the intimate, personal loss, and the resolve of the island’s MVPFAFF*/ LGBTQIA+ community to come together and help. Like many Kānaka Maoli (Native Hawaiians), Jamie, and the Foundation team pivoted, drawing on their skills and tapping their networks to build supply chains, deliver relief, information, and compassionate care.

With a total population of 165,000 (compared to 800,000+ in San Francisco), no one is untouched by these wildfires, including Maui’s MVPFAFF/LGBTQIA+ community where personal relationships and shared experience knit people together and deepen the feeling of ‘Ohana (family). Facing spiraling costs of living, an acute affordable housing shortage, growing impacts from climate change, neglect from government agencies, and exploitation rooted in colonialism and predatory capitalism, many draw on the Na Waiwai (treasured values) of aloha (respect), laulima (cooperation) and malama (care and stewardship) to nurture and sustain ‘Ohana. In response to these wildfires, people are making a way where there is no way. That is the Hawaiian way.

In San Francisco, many of us have deep personal connections to Maui and to Hawaiʻi. Our powerful historic and cultural ties and contributions of Kānaka Maoli living here enrich our community. COVID, housing shortages, inflation, and the growing threat from wildfires, drought, and sea-level rise remind us we are connected to Maui in very real ways. We are part of the same ‘Ohana called to support each other.

Please join the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence at ’Ohana, a fundraiser for the Maui AIDS Foundation’s wildfire relief effort at the Lookout on Thursday, August 31, from 9 pm–1 am. The evening will feature DJ Bugie, Nā Lei Hulu I Ka Wekiu National Hula Dance Company, pop-up performances, and special guests. Suggested donations are $5–$100 with 100% of the benefit proceeds going towards wildfire relief. Disasters like the Maui wildfires can leave us feeling powerless. But that is when showing up matters most and we can draw strength from being part of a deeply connected family. Mahalo for showing up!

*Fakafifine activist Phylesha Brown-Acton coined the acronym MVPFAFF, meaning M āhū, Vakasalewalewa, Palopa, Fa’afafine, Akava’ine, Fakafifine, and Fakaleiti/leiti, to recognize identities that do not necessarily align with the “ LGBTQIA+” acronym and are specific to Pacific communities. We include it here out of deep respect.

Sister Merry Peter, SPI, is a long-time member of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.

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most people to help is to donate funds. We are sending emergency and life-sustaining supplies to the Maui AIDS Foundation; they are on the frontlines distributing the items and providing support to the community. 100% of your donation will fund lifesaving and improving actions. Designate the “Hawaii Fire Emergency” when you donate at www.rainbowfund.org

Or do so when sending a check to Rainbow World Fund, 4111 18th Street, San Francisco, CA 94114.

As always, I am proud that our community is stepping up to help those most in need. Gary Virginia and Krewe de Kinque held a fundraiser for Maui at Midnight Sun last weekend. The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence are holding a fundraiser on August 31 at Lookout in the Castro. There are many ways that you can help.

Jeff Cotter is the Founder and Executive Director of Rainbow World Fund: https://www.rainbowfund.org/

The Gay Gourmet

David Landis

Paradise burned. Within minutes.

I couldn’t believe it. My friend Michael had friends in Maui who told him about the fires even before the news media reported it. And I was in shock.

How could the place that we remember as a tropical refuge be gone— and so quickly?

So many lives lost; so many homes destroyed; so many families upended, even if they’ve survived. As someone who has been visiting Hawaii since 1960, it was an emotional roller coaster. I cried. And cried. And cried.

Remembering Maui

But I want to remember the good times. When my editors Betty and Jen asked me to write about Maui, how could I refuse?

So here goes.

My first trip to Hawaii was in 1960, but my first trip to Maui was in the early ‘80s. It was the heyday of gay liberation, I was single, and I met Ken. He is a marvelous man from Powell River, British Columbia, and we had a lovely romantic affair that made me also fall in love with the island. That was my first exposure to the magic of Maui, and I won’t forget it.

I stayed that trip at the Kaanapali Shores condominiums, with a direct view of the aquamarine ocean. It was before Kaanapali is what it is now. I don’t remember the walking trail lined with cafés and bars and other hotels, but it was still quintessential Hawaii.

Ken and I did all the touristy (but fabulous) things: sunrise at the Haleakala Crater, where you are suspended more than 10,000 feet above sea level, watching the glorious daylight break over the island; driving the road to Hana, a twisty, lush, and annoying, nearly 3-hour drive that deposits you (finally!) at the seven sacred pools with waterfalls that are a slice of heaven; and most of all, visiting Lahaina—a small but historic fishing village filled with independent restaurants, hotels, and shops that beckoned visitors from all over the island.

No one knew Lahaina back then—but it’s known worldwide now. The attractions (the old

Pioneer Inn, the Lahaina Grill, and more) were all significant, but the most important and iconic destination was the 150-year-old Banyan Tree in the middle of town. We still don’t know the fate of that beautiful tree, but we’re hoping it survives to signify rebirth for this beautiful burg.

My next memory?

Our dear friends Robin and Tommy got “Maui’d” (married) at the Fairmont in Wailea. We weren’t there, but they have since regaled us with the stories of a wedding on the beach and abundant mai tais to celebrate.

I didn’t travel back to Maui for a long time (Kauai and Honolulu were our Hawaiian destinations for a long time), but I recently traveled back a couple of times with my dear husband, Sean. It was a revelation. The Fairmont in Wailea was our first port of entry, followed by the amazing Westin Hotel in Kaanapali.

For our first trip, we met up with dear friends Keri and Neil, who live in Kihei—a favorite, authentic town on the west side. They opened up their home to us and even invited us to Thanksgiving dinner (he’s a famous chef)—so representative of the Aloha spirit of the islands. That trip, we visited the upcountry organic O’o farm, where we helped pick the produce for our lunch and the resident chef cooked us a communal repast worthy of a Michelin star. We also took the ferry from Lahaina to Lanai to lunch outdoors at the Four Seasons (owned by Larry Ellison), a relaxing break from the excitement of Maui. Another favorite outing was venturing off to the ‘Īao Valley, where a long, narrow

mountain dominates the landscape, and the views are astounding. Although we’ve never made it there when they’re in residence, our friends Leeza and David also own a condo in Kapalua. Because of that, on our second recent trip back to the island, we traveled up north and along the windy, coastal road past Kapalua on the way back to Kahalui. It was also a vivid experience because we rarely encountered anyone on the road—just tropical grandeur, gorgeous ocean views, and the occasional light, Hawaiian rainstorm.

Other memories? Visiting with Tommy and Robin and their dear friends Aubrey and John, who are lucky enough to live and work on the

island; eating at the enormously popular Mama’s Fish House, which even though it’s touristy, is worth the splurge; and the phenomenal passion fruit foam-topped mai tais at Monkeypod (two locations, one in Wailea, and one in Kaanapali). We’re also big fans of Waicoco, the upscale restaurant at the Westin Kaanapali, helmed by San Francisco’s Mourad Lahlou and chef Chris Kajioka. Another must dine option? Honu Oceanside, where you dine al fresco munching on tasty ahi bruschetta, all while watching sea turtles frolic in the water directly in front of you.

Sadly, on our last trip, Sean and I were remarking how dry and

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desolate the island looked. It’s partly because the sugarcane trade “dried up,” due to the escalating costs of doing business in Hawaii. What was left were large swaths of brown land. As it turned out, when native grasses re-grew, they became fodder for the recent wildfires.

But, let’s remember the fun times. Here’s to Maui—and to its rebirth. We know that Maui is strong, and Hawaiians even stronger. It will come back, and we must do everything we can to support Maui’s regeneration. So, here are a few places where we all can help. My husband and I have donated to these causes. We encourage you to do the same:

Maui Strong Community Fund: https://tinyurl.com/mt2sf29r

American Red Cross Hawaii: https://tinyurl.com/4dazw8k8

Maui Humane Society: https://www.mauihumanesociety.org/donate-olx/

Kokua Restaurant and Hospitality Fund: https://tinyurl.com/sud2zumf

Signia by Hilton San Jose (donating 100% of brunch proceeds through October 1): https://tinyurl.com/5a2pk8rc

David Landis, aka the San Francisco Bay Times’ “The Gay Gourmet,” is a foodie, a freelance writer, and a retired PR maven. Follow him on Instagram @GayGourmetSF, or email him at: davidlandissf@gmail.com

Or visit him online at: www.gaygourmetsf.com

Faces from Our LGBT Past

When Charles Warren Stoddard (1843–1909), San Francisco’s Lavender Boy Poet, visited the Hawaiian Islands in 1868, he was immediately taken with the beauty and the boys of Lahaina. For him it was not simply a whaling outpost that “had but one broad street,” but a place where “the sea lapped over the sloping sands on its lower edge,” a place of “soft night-winds” where “you could almost hear the great stars throbbing in the clear sky!” For Stoddard, Lahaina was much more than “a little slice of civilization, beached on the shore of barbarism.” It was also a paradise where he could see “a young face that seemed to embody a whole tropical romance.” He had not intended to spend much time there,

Joe of Lahaina

expecting “to catch a passage in a passing schooner.” The schooner, unfortunately, “flashed by us in a great gale from the south, and so I was stormed in indefinitely.” He soon had no regrets about remaining, however.

He found himself a “villa ... built of dried grasses on the model of a haystack, dug out in the middle, with doors and windows let into the four sides thereof. It was planted in the midst of a vineyard, with avenues stretching in all directions, under a network of stems and tendrils.” Here he “inhaled the sweet winds of Lahaina, while the wilderness of its vineyards blossomed like the rose.”

Stoddard was equally infatuated with the people of the place. One night, he wrote, “when a lot of us were bathing in the moonlight, I saw a figure so fresh and joyous that I began to realize how the old Greeks could worship mere physical beauty and forget its higher forms. Then I discovered that face on this body—a rare enough combination—and the whole constituted Joe, a young scapegrace who was schooling at Lahaina, under the eye—not a very sharp one—of his uncle.”

Stoddard determined to know this young man better. He visited his uncle and “gave bonds for Joe’s

irreproachable conduct while with me. I willingly gave bonds—verbal ones—for this was just what I wanted of Joe: namely, to instill into his youthful mind those counsels which, if rigorously followed, must result in his becoming a true and unterrified American. This compact settled, Joe took up his bed—a roll of mats— and down we marched to my villa, and began housekeeping in good earnest.”

Their life together was idyllic. “I used to sit in my veranda and turn to Joe (Joe was my private and confidential servant), and I would say to Joe, while we scented the odor of grape, and saw the great bananaleaves waving their cambric sails, and heard the sea moaning in the melancholy distance—I would say to him, ‘Joe, housekeeping is good fun, isn’t it?’” Indeed, it was. “We would take a drink of cocoa-milk, and finish our bananas, and go to bed, because we had nothing else to do.”

The two spent a great deal of time together, including “a night when we two walked to the old wharf, and went out to the end of it, and sat there looking inland, watching the inky waves slide up and down the beach, while the full moon rose over the superb mountains where the clouds were heaped like wool, and the very air seemed full of utterances that you could almost hear and understand but for something that made them all a mystery.”

Joe wanted to impress his employer in every way possible, which included dressing in the latest fashions. On the day Stoddard finally left Lahaina, “Joe came to the beach with his new trousers tucked into his new boots, while he waved his new hat violently in a final adieu, much to the envy and admiration of a score of hatless urchins ... . When I entered the boat to set sail, a tear stood in Joe’s bright eye, and I think he was really sorry to part with me.”

Stoddard first told Joe’s story in the July 1870 issue of Overland Monthly, edited by Brett Harte (1836–1902), then included it in South-Sea Idyls, published in 1873. His accounts of Hawaii, wrote William Dean Howells (1837–1920), then “Dean of American Letters,” were “the lightest, sweetest, wildest, freshest things that were ever written about the life of that summer ocean,” completely ignoring their steadfast homoeroticism. Of course, Stoddard could not be explicit about his relationship with Joe—or anyone else—but those searching for his truth could find it.

Were he and Joe intimate in every way? Stoddard certainly was with other young Hawaiians he met. “For the first time I act as my nature prompts me,” he wrote about his visit in a letter to Walt Whitman in 1869, something that he claimed was impossible “even in California, where men are tolerably bold.” He never named names, however. As late as 1901, when DeWitt Miller asked him whether any of his island companions had been “Greek,” he simply replied that Joe had “seemed that way.” Joe would not have been so coy about their love affair. The Hawaiians understood and enjoyed Nature’s infinite diversity and saw no shame in intimacy between two women or two men, known as aikāne. According to legend, same-sex relationships were an important and accepted part of Hawaiian life at least since the time of Wākea, the Sky Father, and Papahānaumoku, the Earth Mother, the forbears of the noho ali‘i o Hawaii (ruling chiefs of Hawaii). Many of the island nation’s rulers, including Kamehameha the Great, enjoyed aikāne in their households.

The Europeans, of course, were shocked, shocked that the Hawaiian royal family retained and enjoyed male concubines. David Samwell (1751–1798), ship’s surgeon during the visit of Captain James Cook (1728–1779) to the islands, wrote in his journal on January 29, 1779, “[It] is esteemed honorable among them and they have frequently asked us on seeing a handsome young fellow if he was not aikāne to some of us.” By the time Stoddard visited Lahaina, the American missionaries were

working very hard to suppress all such relationships.

Stoddard remained enamored with Lahaina throughout his life. Deeply sentimental, he remembered it as a place:

Where the wave tumbles; Where the reef rumbles; Where the sea sweeps

Under bending palm-branches, Sliding its snow-white And swift avalanches; Where the sails pass

O’er an ocean of glass, Or trail their dull anchors Down in the sea-grass.

Perhaps not a great poet, he always evidenced a great heart, which the beauty and romance of Lahaina captured completely.

Bill Lipsky, Ph.D., author of “Gay and Lesbian San Francisco” (2006), is a member of the Rainbow Honor Walk board of directors.

Long Live Lahaina

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Liam P. Mayclem

Lahaina, the charming little town on Maui that gifted memories to the many millions of people who have visited over the years, is now just that, a memory. For Native Hawaiians, Lahaina had deep history so this hits home hard. The recent Lahaina fire, (August 9, 2023) has reduced this historic town to ashes, leaving thousands without jobs and homes. More than one hundred people have perished and hundreds more remain unaccounted for. It’s recorded as the deadliest U.S. wildfire in more than 100 years.

Lahaina was a popular place for LGBTQ+ visitors who came for the indigenous history, the chic art stores, inviting beach bars and restaurants, and the unrivaled milliondollar coastal views. The annual Maui Pride event has been pushed from this October to June 2024 ( https://tinyurl.com/4ma5znda ).

My Maui memories go back to 2003 when I first visited the island, explored Lahaina, and instantly fell in love. I was in awe of the massive and historic Banyan tree, dined at sunset at Fleetwood’s, bought a ukulele from Ravi guitars, and sat on the beach, rendered speechless at the sheer beauty. It is hard to imagine that all but the beautiful beaches and ocean views are gone. I am left speechless once again, this time with a hole in my heart.

There are massive relief efforts underway in Maui now. Many Bay Area chefs are in Maui helping to feed those in need. Among them are Chef Ravi Kapur (LiHo LiHo), who flew there straight away to be on the frontlines. As we filed this story, Chef Kapur was getting ready for the arrival on Maui of President Joe Biden & First Lady Jill Biden.

Chef Mourad Lahlou’s Waicoco restaurant at The Westin Ka’anapali is closed for now. The Westin hotel is hosting those who lost their homes in the fires. “It’s truly heartbreaking

and demoralizing for the people here,” Chef Mourad said.

“We will come back, but it will take time.

Stay tuned for info on some fundraising dinners for Maui in San Francisco soon.”

Top Chef Leanne Wong lost her beloved Papa’aina restaurant at Old Lahaina’s historic, 122-year-old Pioneer Inn, but that has not stopped her from feeding people. “Our community mobilized right away,” Wong said of volunteer efforts to make 10,000 meals a day at the University of Hawaii Maui College.

So many of my other friends have Maui memories too and they kindly took a few minutes to reflect and share them with me for the San Francisco Bay Times

Chef Jen Biesty (Shakewell, Oakland) told me Maui is a very special place for her family.

“[It is] my favorite place on earth; we have explored the island many times. Kaanapali,

ken for the lives lost and suffering of their loved ones. Hoʻomalu.”

Sammy Hagar

“I remember when my wife Kari and I first went to Maui together. We rented a house in Makena and stayed for a couple of months. Then we met a realtor at Shep Gordon’s house. We asked if he had any properties with a lot of acreage, with privacy and ocean views, and with an extra house for a studio. We were leaving the next day on the way to the airport. He showed us a property out in Waipio Bay. We had 40 minutes to look at the property and we bought it on first look, loved it, and lived there 27 years. It was home.”

He added, “I hope they rebuild Lahaina as close as possible to the original Island Village with all of its charm.”

Chef Tanya Holland

“My favorite Maui memory is enjoying dinner at Mama’s for my 50th. Maui is truly my happy place and where I feel most at home.”

Regarding her hopes for the future of Lahaina, she shared, “Respect for the indigenous culture—may the aloha continue, but give space to heal. Hoping all will support, but don’t exploit. Mahalo!

tion to so many lives, tragically and painfully lost, so has been so much history of the island and its people.”

He continued, “I hope that they rebuild the museum and the Pioneer Inn exactly as they were, and as much of historic Front Street, too, as a tribute. It won’t be the same, but it will hold the space and hopefully new artifacts can be donated to tell the story of this special place, its architecture, heritage, and people.”

Jan Wahl and Her Sister Susie

Jan Wahl said, on behalf of her and her sister Susie, “I have spent wonderful times on that magical island. Lahaina so historic and unforgettable, will live inside our hearts always. The air is alive with the spirits telling to be brave and rebuild, nurture, and love. Mahalo to Hawaii and brave Hawaiians; we are with you.”

David Landis

“Maui will always represent to me a place in America where culture, food, the tropics and music bring out the best in everyone. I’ve been traveling to Hawaii since I was 4 years old, visited Maui since the ‘80s, and fondly remember

Hana, Kihei to Lahaina are all magical places. We honeymooned or Maui-mooned there. I have a deep connection to the ocean and sea life. It’s absolutely devastating to see the destruction.”

Sister Roma

“My friend David McGrath and I visited Hawaii in 2018 to release his late husband’s ashes at sea. Maui was serene, the people were friendly, and I saw the most beautiful sunset I’ve ever seen in my life. I’m heartbro -

David Perry and Alfredo Casuso

David Perry said, on behalf of himself and his husband, Alfredo: “The first time I was in Lahaina was 1999 when I worked my way around the world aboard ship. I was captivated. Alfredo and I have been back together, most recently in 2014. We said it reminded us of Guerneville on the water: charming, funky, and real. Also, as we both love history, knowing that in addi-

The Pets and Other Animals of Lahaina Need Our Help Too

From animals severely injured during the Maui wildfires to beloved family pets lost in the chaos, the toll to animals in Lahaina and nearby as a result of the August 2023 blaze will likely never be fully known.

Groups such as the Missing Pets of Maui and Maui Fires Pets Help Group are now working 24/7 to help reunite pets with their families. The Maui Humane Society posted that they have an “inundation of hundreds of animals who have been burned, lost during the evacuation process and those in need of critical care due to smoke inhalation.” They are asking for help as the island grapples with “the unprecedented and catastrophic impact” of the Maui fires.

Katie Shannon, Director of Marketing and Communications at the Maui Humane Society, told Euro News: “We have seen animals come through our shelter that have severe, severe burns. We have seen dogs that have essentially had their paws all the way burnt down to the bone from running from the fire.”

She continued, “We have had chickens, love birds, guinea pigs, rabbits, dogs, cats. We even have a pig here.” As she spoke, a cat was brought in with singed fur and spots of leg burns. A chicken was simultaneously treated

for severely scorched claws that were being wrapped with thick, blue medical tape.

Shannon and her team estimate that 3,000 animals remain missing.

Please consider donating to help with the overwhelming rescue effort that is underway. Here are just a few of the organizations that are working now to save the animals of Maui.

Maui Humane Society https://tinyurl.com/y2hk88jm

Hawaii Animal Rescue Foundation https://tinyurl.com/4m7dtmny

the beaches, the waterfalls, the road to Hana, and Haleakalā Crater at dawn—along with our fabulous handpicked organic lunch cooked especially for us at O’o Farms. My hope for Lahaina is that it will be rebuilt to honor its architectural and cultural heritage and that the beloved Banyan tree will survive.”

Marc Benioff

The Salesforce boss and Maui resident was among the first to take to social media soon after the fires destroyed much of Lahaina. He wrote, “Lahaina resembles a ghost town after fire tore through Maui. There are urgent demands where government support will not be available in time. I am asking you to join our ongoing support of World Central Kitchen’s immediate relief to victims.”

Please keep Maui and the people of the island in your heart and mind. Treasure the aloha memories and pray that this community will rebuild, recover, and thrive once again. Maui needs your help now!

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Black Out

Social Philanthropreneur

On July 29, O’Shae Sibley was brutally attacked in Brooklyn. His attackers used racial and gay slurs during the violent incident. Shortly after the initial confrontation, the argument escalated, and one of the attackers stabbed O’Shae. Otis Pena, one of O’Shae’s best friends who witnessed the assault, pressed on his wound to stop the bleeding before O’Shae was taken to Maimonides Medical Center, where he was pronounced dead. A 17-year-old was charged on August 5, and the incident was treated as a hate crime. O’Shae, 28, was a Black, gay, professional dancer and choreographer who lost his life dancing at a gas station in New York.

This tragic story caught the attention of some national media outlets, but I was curious about why this story, in particular, got the media coverage it did when so many other stories do not. Was it the video that captured the attack? Was it the age or religion

of the attacker—who identified himself as Muslim? Was it something else that made this horrific incident more newsworthy? I observed very few people on gay social media networks even discussing the killing, and none of my white gay friends ever mentioned the incident to me or attempted to engage any discussion.

The LGBT community has endured discrimination and bias for decades, and this bias and homophobia is particularly amplified when looking at police and media bias against Black gay men. Studies have found that Black men face significantly higher rates of violence than other members of the LGBTQ+ community, and the media often ignores or downplays coverage of their cases.

Additionally, when cases involving Black gay men receive coverage, they tend to be sensationalized or portrayed as drug-related, or there’s a presumption of guilt because of some unacceptable activity or behavior the victim must have engaged in to warrant the violence—like dancing/ voguing at a gas station to a Beyoncé song. On some deeper level, there’s a belief that the victim probably deserved their fate, and we shouldn’t take the time to care.

Over the years, when these violent incidents happen to LGBTQ+ people, very little effort is made to spread awareness or ensure justice is served. It’s worse for people of color within the community, and there’s even more apathy and indifference if you are Black. It’s tough to accept that this bias exists within LGBTQ+

communities and in major metropolitan areas with liberal media outlets in 2023. Even today, with all the gay rights progress, the results indicate that Black gay men who go missing, are victims of serious crimes and domestic violence, or are murdered do not receive the attention, support, or justice they deserve. Often, we see a different media treatment of hate crimes along racial and ethnic lines.

According to a July 2018 Washington Post article, “Unequal Justice,” about 26k murders went unsolved over a ten (10) year period in the U.S. About 18.6k of those victims were Black or 28%. The Black population in the U.S. is about 13.6%. According to FBI 2019 statistics, Black males are more likely to become homicide victims than any other racial group. The probability increases if you are within the LGBTQ+ community. With the technology available to us today, the lack of reliable information about missing persons and crimes against LGBTQ+ people is frustrating to say the least. The absence of an up-to-date universal database is unacceptable and must be resolved. Here are ten (10) other names and cases most people in the LGBTQ+ community have never heard about:

Marco McMillian , a Black gay mayoral candidate, was beaten, dragged, and set on fire in 2013 before his body was dumped near a river in Mississippi. Mark Carson was shot in the face in 2013 and killed by Elliot Moralas, who was later charged with a hate crime in New York. Terrance Davis sus -

piciously vanished from his hometown of Chicago in 2018. Jonathan Dailey was reported missing from his home in Palms Springs in 2018.

Trevontae Gray left his home in Victorville to pick up an item from a friend, but never returned in 2019.

Gemmel Moore and Timothy Dean , two Los Angeles African American gay men, suffered druginduced murder in 2017 and 2019, respectively, by a high-profile Democratic donor, Ed Buck, who was finally convicted in 2022. Diamond Hodge, a Black transgender man, was last seen in Nashville in 2019.

Donnell Rochester, an 18-yearold Black gay man, was shot and killed by Baltimore Police in 2022.

DeAndre Matthews, a college student, was found on the train tracks in New York with a gunshot wound to the head and his body burned in early 2023.

The mentioned victims represent just a minuscule number of cases that have received little to no news coverage. They have gone unsolved, or have been forgotten. They reflect the continued police and media bias towards Black men, as well as transgender people, who are often victims of serious crimes, go missing, or are murdered. This bias means their cases are often ignored, minimized, or downplayed. Minimal effort is made to ensure justice prevails, and this casual discarding of people must stop.

This year marks the 30th anniversary of the March on Washington for LGBT Equal Rights and Liberation, where one million people, including

myself and many friends, descended on the nation’s capital. While significant advancement has been made in terms of LGBTQ+ rights and acceptance since the march, more must be done to ensure that all community members receive equal attention, protection, and justice. I hope these words shed light on a painful and lingering issue within the LGBTQ+ community—the underrepresentation and media bias against Black people who go missing, become victims of serious crimes, or are tragically murdered.

Despite progress in promoting inclusivity, equity, and equality, the violence reported, and experiences of Black gay men and transgender people, often remain marginalized, leading to a lack of public awareness, limited media coverage, and unsolved cases. Municipal financial gaps in cities like San Francisco and Oakland can exacerbate the challenges of providing adequate resources to protect communities and solve these crimes. By examining the factors contributing to this bias (inter- and intra-community), our collective goal is to increase attention, awareness, conversation, and action to address the continued disparity.

Derek Barnes is the CEO of the East Bay Rental Housing Association ( www.EBRHA.com ). He currently serves on the board of Homebridge CA. Follow him on Twitter @ DerekBarnesSF and on Instagram at DerekBarnes.SF

Late August Events

The SF Queer Film Festival is coming back August 24–27, and at a new location: Landmark’s Opera Plaza Cinema. The festival opens on August 24 with what is sure to be a wild, raucous, and packed-to-the-rafters

tribute to Heklina: Filthy Gorgeous: The T-Shack Story. Director Sean Mullens and producer Deena Davenport are expected to attend, and they promise some never-before-seen footage of Heklina. Get your tickets now; this one will definitely sell out quickly.

In Case You Missed It

Annual Photo Show at Harvey Milk Photo Center

The Harvey Milk Photo Center is featuring its annual Member, Staff, & Volunteer Show through September 2, and it’s always worth a visit. The show, which is free to the public, features current works by 67 photographers created in the Center’s darkrooms and digital lab. The photos encompass a broad range of subjects, and were curated by the staff, members, and volunteers.

Associated with the San Francisco Recreation & Parks Department, the Harvey Milk Photo Center has served the San Francisco community since 1940. It houses the oldest and largest community wet darkroom in the U.S., as well as a full digital lab for members. It is located at 50 Scott Street, within Duboce Park. Since the Photo Center is a multi-use space with limited staffing, call ahead to see if the exhibit space is open for viewing. More info:

https://tinyurl.com/HMPCshow

Third Annual SF Queer Film Festival Returns August 25–27

Days 2 and 3 of the festival will include multiple programs from 12:30–6 pm each day, with each program featuring a number of films ranging from very short to feature-length. There are plenty of programs and films to choose from, so peruse the festival program and take your pick.

https://tinyurl.com/sfqff23

Third Annual San Francisco

Transgender Immigrant Symposium

On August 25, The LGBT Asylum Project and Parivar Bay Area are hosting the third annual San Francisco Transgender Immigrant Symposium at Strut, at 470 Castro Street in San Francisco, from 4–7 pm. This free event aims to provide immigrant resources and community networks for transgender immigrants, in an effort to help them build their new lives in the U.S. It also fosters transgender intersectional unity, bringing together trans immigrants from different cultures and providing a sense of community. Bringing immigrants together with the organizations to serve them helps further empathy and understanding, helping organizations have a better

understanding of the challenges that transgender immigrants face, so they can make sure their programs and services are transgender-friendly.

The symposium includes a full program including keynote speaker Bamby Salcedo, a 45-minute screening of Belonging: A Trans Indian Immigrant Story by Amir Jaffer, an art display by Parivar co-founder and drag artist SNJV, and a resource fair featuring organizations providing support and services to transgender LGBTQ+ immigrants and refugees. Admission is free, but for security, registration is required:

https://tinyurl.com/3SFTIS23

Sunday’s a Drag, and José Sarria Enters the California Hall of Fame

On August 6, Donna Sachet opened

the new incarnation of her longrunning drag brunch, Sunday’s a Drag, at historic Club Fugazi in North Beach. Pre-pandemic, Sunday’s a Drag had enjoyed a 15-year run at Harry Denton’s Starlight Room at the Sir Francis Drake Hotel. Then came the pandemic, and the hotel was sold. But Donna, ever the optimist and creative spirit, has found a new home for the beloved show, and it’s an inspired fit. While the Castro may now be known as the center of LGBTQ+ life in San Francisco, North Beach was actually the original epicenter of queer life in the city. It was where José Sarria performed at the famous Black Cat Café, and where for decades Finocchio’s featured a cabaret revue with accomplished female impersonators that attracted tourists from all over the world.

Donna skillfully and lovingly weaves much of the city’s drag history into

this lively show. And by happy coincidence, during the course of the show’s run, it was announced that legendary queer activist José Sarria was finally to be honored by being inducted into the California Hall of Fame, an accolade his supporters have been seeking for several years. Sarria was not only the first openly gay candidate for public office, but also the founder of the Imperial Court system. His induction took place on August 22.

Besides emcee and star Donna Sachet, Sunday’s a Drag features a rotating cast of some of the city’s top drag performers, including Holotta Tymes (who used to perform at Finocchio’s), Khmera Rouge, Mini Minerva, Mercedes Monroe, Cassandra Cass, Ruby Red Munro, and Dulce De Leche. I went on opening day, and the packed house was having a ball. I was seated next to a quiet-looking young woman from North Carolina. She had just arrived in San Francisco, and thought Sunday’s a Drag sounded like fun. It was her first-ever drag show, and she was having the time of her life. This show is for everyone. This four-week trial run at Club Fugazi ends August 27. It is hoped that the show will be able to return on a more permanent basis in January. In the meantime, get your tickets for the final show while you can!

For tickets:

https://www.clubfugazisf.com/

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COVID-19 for the past three years has affected everything in our lives including how we socialize, work, travel, and more. With the introduction of vaccines, usage of masks, and complying with health guidelines, we have thus far been able to reduce the infection rate and the conditions of the COVID-19 pandemic substantially. Meanwhile, over the past few years, there have been other significant events that have complicated our lives.

Among the multiple unprecedented events, I note five major ones in the U.S. that continue to dominate the news media and our concerns. These include:

1) four indictments of a past U.S. president and national leaders, with many more federal and state indictments likely to come; 2) over 500 anti-LGBTQ+ legislative bills being considered throughout the U.S.; 3) the U.S. Supreme Court’s overturning of Roe v. Wade last year, reigniting the fight for women’s rights; 4) the largest wildfires in our history occurring in Maui that destroyed one of its major tourist cities, residential sites, and

businesses leaving thousands homeless; and

5) the increased number of people—now in the thousands, and mostly from Central America—at our southern borders attempting to immigrate and seeking political asylum.

These major events are complicated by

• historically high levels of homelessness throughout the country;

• an increasing number of burglaries in homes and stores;

• shoplifting throughout many stores with no apparent consequence; shortages of police and teachers;

• economic impacts as a result of the pandemic affecting our inflation rates and threatening an economic recession;

• increased random usage of firearms leading to shootings that wound and kill individuals;

• car break-ins throughout the country;

• more hate crimes that are racebased and that target LGBTQ+ individuals;

• and the warmest summer in history across the U.S., affecting various regions and increasing the temperature of the oceans to threatening levels.

The combination of these stressors compels us to determine the best ways to cope so that we can better manage our lives. There are vari-

ous common suggestions for reducing stress that include getting proper rest and relaxation, exercising, meditating, engaging in the arts, seeking out new hobbies, reading, gardening, cooking, taking vacations, traveling, and sharing concerns with others to help release tension and obtain social support. Consider making a list of the activities that you enjoy and find to be stress reducing.

As responsible citizens, it is important for us to stay informed of major news events, but we must balance that information with our own physical and mental well-being. We are living in unprecedented times, at least for many of us here and in recent generations, given all the challenging events that are happening concurrently. Maintaining a balanced lifestyle and putting things into perspective are worthy goals

that help us to manage stress. It can also help to directly engage with the problems at hand, enabling us to feel and actually become more empowered, which can be one of the greatest stress reducers of all.

Eduardo Morales, Ph.D. is a Professor Emeritus, retired Distinguished Professor, and current adjunct professor at Alliant International University. He is also a licensed psychologist and a founder and current Executive Director of AGUILAS, an awardwinning program for Latinx LGBTQ+. Of Puerto Rican decent, he has received numerous distinguished awards and citations, including being named a Fellow of 12 divisions of the American Psychological Association.

GLBT Fortnight in Review

Where Woke Goes to Die

I was going to lead this column with the story about Lauri Carleton, the (straight) California shop owner who was shot dead August 18 by a man who resented her rainbow flag. Sadly, I expected this murder to go unnoticed by the mainstream press, but I have been gratified to see that the news went national.

I’m also unsettled by the grim satisfaction I took in learning that the killer himself, 27-year-old Travis Ikeguchi, was shot and killed by police. Since when did I start reveling in anyone’s loss of life? I’m not claiming to be an outstanding example of compassion, but I’ve always opposed the death penalty and glimpsed some humanity in even the worst of my fellow beings, with the possible exception of Hitler. Is today’s toxic atmosphere dissolving what I had thought of as a positive attribute?

Maybe.

Tide Turning Against Us

I’ll leave you to read about Carleton elsewhere and move along to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Eleventh Circuit, one of the more conservative federal appellate courts, which just reversed an injunction against Alabama’s ban on transgender youth healthcare allowing the ban to be enforced while the law is challenged in lower court. The lower court had put the law on hold during the litigation, and while several courts have ruled in favor of transgender plaintiffs challenging these damaging blockades, this three-judge panel, all nominated by Trump, went in the opposite direction.

Notably, a divided panel from the Sixth Circuit also ruled against transgender plaintiffs in a similar motion out of Tennessee last month, which will be reviewed in depth and again decided by early September.

I haven’t read the latest decision, handed down August 21, because it’s too early in the morning to overload my fragile brain with 60 pages of dense legal rationales. But I gather the court relied, in part, on the High Court’s abortion decision, which took a baseball bat to the Due Process Clause, dictating that the Constitution requires a law be “deeply rooted in [our] history and tradition” and “essential to our Nation’s scheme of ordered liberty” in order to survive review (I simplify, because as I mentioned, it’s early). That test, when used loosely, can serve to defeat almost any modern premise. Is “the right to marry a member of the same sex” deeply rooted in American history? Is the “right to change your gender” essential to the Nation’s scheme of ordered liberty? You get the picture.

Note that, unlike others, Alabama’s statute imposes a felony charge on medical personnel who transgress.

The previous day, a Sunday, a federal judge in Georgia put a temporary stop to the Peach State’s trans health ban. Since Georgia is also in the Eleventh Circuit, this ruling will not stand for long. Like the bans on transgender athletes, the anti-trans healthcare laws will be heading to the High Court in two shakes of a bunny’s tail.

For some reason, the voice of Brenda from The Closer just popped into my head as I was finishing that para-

graph. I know none of this is amusing, but sometimes it feels as if I’m several different people writing as one.

Battle of Gettysburg

Speaking of Trump judges, on August 14, a couple of them got together on the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit and ruled in favor of a trans-friendly school policy out of Maryland. The two-judge majority told a group of conservative parents that they lacked standing to challenge a Montgomery County Board of Education provision that allowed teachers to withhold information about transgender students from parents when a student wished the information to remain private.

As you know, under our system, a plaintiff must have an actual dispute in order to bring suit, and since none of the parents had transgender kids, their suit was nothing more than a philosophical disagreement.

A George H. W. Bush appointee dissented from the ruling, reasoning that, in theory, all the parents might have transgender kids who were keeping their lives secret with the help of their teachers. He didn’t say that exactly, but that’s essentially how he got around the standing issue.

Even though we get a few good rulings here and there, the dam has broken on the surge of anti-trans laws and court decisions and our country is being flooded with ill-will. On August 21, in a personal example, my step-daughter was one of three dozen or so residents who testified at a Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, school board meeting on behalf of a trans -

gender tennis coach who is under attack by some “Moms for Liberty,” along with a handful of anti-GLBT school board members including Michelle Smyers.

The coach, Sasha Yates, transitioned a couple of years ago with the support of the administration at Gettysburg High. She is widely popular and well-liked by everyone, except for the Florida-based Moms, Smyers, and a couple of bad apples on the board who are trying to nullify her contract. At issue, aside from the simple fact that she is trans, are two bathroom incidents, one in which she changed her shirt in private in the locker room, and another when a student entered the ladies room that Yates was using. Yates agreed to use a staff room after these events, but the blowback from the right has become relentless.

In an August 16 letter to the school district on behalf of Smyers, America

First Legal warned that Smyers would sue the district if she did not receive “a copy of all reprimands issued to Yates and any other relevant documentation ... related to Yates’ employment” by close of business August 17. I have no idea if this threat was successful, although I haven’t read about any lawsuits as yet. It’s just a glimpse of what is going on throughout the country below the radar while we’re watching the chaos going on above it.

Because of my personal connection, I listened to an hour of testimony from parents and residents in favor of Yates, who was praised over and over again as a dedicated coach, devoted to players and to her sport. On the other side, we had two or three nutcases bashing transpeople as unstable

and ranting about “men” in bathrooms. When will this become intolerable?

Lesbians Behaving Badly

Let’s have a complete change of pace and delve into a story from Front Page Detectives. I have a rule against reporting news from bizarre websites and other mysterious online sources, but the rule is always set aside when something gruesome comes along. It may be a total fabrication, but I’m covering it anyway! The headline reads: “Gwen Graham and Catherine Wood Used Murder to Boost Their Sex Life,” and emanates from the “FPD CASE VAULT.”

According to VAULT records, the lesbian duo met at a nursing home in Walker, Michigan, in 1986 when in their 20s. They soon realized they both had a penchant for sexual asphyxia, which was fun for a while but soon paled in comparison to the thrill they got from murdering old people and having sex while preparing the victims for burial. (Since when is that a job for the nursing home aides?) At one point, we learn, Graham insisted that Wood kill someone to prove her love, but Wood refused and Graham moved to Texas with another woman. Later, Wood confessed all to her ex-husband, who told police, and the two murderers were convicted and sentenced to long prison terms.

This all happened decades ago, but the story was just posted online, so it’s fresh as far as I’m concerned. And it turns out to be true. Graham has been locked up for life, but Wood was paroled a couple of years ago and

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Pioneering LGBTQ Activist José Julio Sarria Inducted Into the California Hall of Fame

One of the LGBTQ’s most legendary iconic trailblazers and heroes, the first Empress of the Americas, José Julio Sarria, was inducted into the prestigious California Hall of Fame during a live-streamed virtual ceremony held on August 22, 2023. The six other new inductees are Carrie Fisher, Maggie Gee, Etta James, Vin Scully, Shirley Temple Black, and Archie Williams.

Sarria, a proud Latino and World War II veteran, in 1961 became the first openly cay candidate to run for public office as a candidate for the San Francisco County Board of Supervisors, placing fifth among a field of 29 candidates. Sarria’s courageous run for public office put “Gay Power” on the political map and paved the way for over 600 elected LGBTQ officials now in public office.

In 1965, Sarria was crowned “Absolute Empress 1 of San Francisco” and established the first Royal Court in North America. Now there are over 65 city court chapters in the United States, Canada, and Mexico.

Seventeen years ago, Sarria crowned her heir and successor, longtime Latino/ LGBTQ activist, San Diego County/City

Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez, who 11 years ago officially nominated Sarria to be inducted in the California Hall of Fame on behalf of the International Imperial Court System.

“José Julio Sarria was the Rosa Parks of the LGBTQ Civil Rights Movement,” said Commissioner Ramirez, who is Empress Nicole the Great known as “Queen Mother 1 of the Americas.”

“It is very symbolic of Governor Newsom to name José into the California Hall of Fame during this time when drag queens/transgender people are under attack by the Radical Right Wing,” added Commissioner Ramirez.

Indeed, Empress 1 José was a proud drag queen and, following his distinguished service in the U.S. Army and honorable discharge in 1947, he returned to his beloved San Francisco. He soon became the hostess of the infamous Black Cat bar where he became known as the “Nightengale of Montgomery Street” and would end his campy live opera performances with “God Save Us Nelly Queens.”

Commissioner Ramirez and then San Francisco Supervisor Bevan Dufty led the campaign that resulted in Sarria being the first openly gay man to have a street named after him by the City of San Francisco. He was also inducted into the National LGBTQ Wall of Fame located in the historic Stonewall Inn in New York City, as well as being honored as an historic figure on the Rainbow Honor Walk in the Castro.

“Though we of the international Imperial Courts led this effort, it definitely took a village to accomplish this honor and I want to especially thank California State Senate President Toni Atkins, State Senator Scott Wiener, former San Francisco Supervisors Mark Leno and Bevan Dufty, and former State Assembly Whip and now Mayor Todd Gloria of San Diego. Also, the National LGBTQ Task Force and the LGBTQ+ Victory Fund who were major cosponsors of our campaign,” said Commissioner Ramirez.

The International Imperial Courts have had major success in their national letter-writing campaigns and lobbying that have resulted in a Harvey Milk U.S. postage stamp and the USNS Harvey Milk “And I want to also thank Amanda Meeker, the Executive Director of the California Museum, for working closely with the International Court Council and the Imperial Court of San Francisco on this historic honor for our beloved José,” added Commissioner Ramirez.

was then living in South Carolina.

Uh oh.

And why are we covering this?

It’s because I think it’s important to recognize that, although gay women are usually exemplary citizens, far above the general public in both style and intellect, we’re not all perfect! Further, despite what you may have gleaned from these pages, not all badly behaved lesbians are British.

Sorry, Mitt!

If I weren’t tired of legal news, I’d cover the ruling by the New Jersey Supreme Court, giving the thumbs up to a Catholic school that fired an unmarried art teacher for getting pregnant, based on the school’s insistence that everyone behave as if it were 1950. I might also cover the weird judge who ordered lawyers for Southwest Airlines to take a refresher on religion in law from the farright attorneys at the Alliance Defending Freedom. But I am tired, so we’ll leave these intrigues unexamined.

How about the BBC reporter who asked the captain of the Moroccan soccer team whether she had any gay teammates and, if so, what is it like for them in Morocco?

Homosexuality is a criminal act in

Morocco, with sentences between six months and three years, along with fines, so the question was inappropriate to say the least.

When the moderator told the unnamed reporter to “stick to football,” he insisted the question was not political, but “about people” and kept blathering on, suggesting cluelessly that the moderator “let her answer the question.” Later, the BBC sort of apologized, saying there was “no intention to cause any harm or distress.”

Then there’s the head of Hezbollah in Lebanon, Hassan Nasrallah, who said that gay people “even if they do it once ... are to be killed.” And, of course, continuing delights from Russia, where the parliament has banned any and all transgender medical interventions or change in documentation, annulled all marriages involving a transgender person, and banned transgender citizens from becoming foster or adoptive parents. I see that I already told you about that development, but it bears repeating. I want to send a mental apology to Mitt Romney, whom I ridiculed in 2012 when he said Russia remained one of our country’s main adversaries.

Like many of my fellow yellow dog Democrats out there, I was a passionate opponent of George

W Bush, John McCain, and Mitt Romney, and we won’t even discuss the men of the 20th century. It’s not as if I would support any of them if I went back in time, but how admirable they all seem in comparison to the Republicans of today.

WSONTFAMW ? Inquiring Minds Want to Know

Now, I’m torn. There are two lesbians who have been producing a “true crime” podcast aimed at getting to the bottom of who took a dump on the floor of the bathroom at their wedding in 2018. The program, Who Shat on the Floor at My Wedding, or WSOTFAMW, includes 13 episodes and is reportedly a big hit. The women have interviewed many guests, recreated the crime scene, speculated on logistics and pursued many leads. If the topic wasn’t so inherently repellent, I’d be tempted to check it out, but it’s just too much for me. I gather it’s been established (somehow) that the incident wasn’t an accident, but a deliberate act.

So, I’m torn because I have a lot of material on the WSOTFAMW story, but I also have an article about a Georgia teacher, booted out of her job for reading a harmless book to her fifth-grade class about a non-binary child who has

a purple shadow instead of a pink or blue one.

I also have a piece about a rightwing couple in Massachusetts who were rejected by the state’s foster parent and adoption program on account of their conservative views. The couple, Michael and Catherine “Kitty” Burke, have filed a complaint against the state Department of Children and Families after flunking the various tests given to see if couples are suitable to become parents to wards of the state.

When asked about GLBT kids, Kitty Burke allegedly said “let’s take the T out of it,” and called trans health services “chemical castration.” Michael Burke said he “might” attend the wedding of a gay adopted child, while Kitty said a gay or lesbian child would be okay, provided they were chaste. Oh, and they both promised not to kick a gay kid out of the house.

I haven’t read their complaint, but what the hell? You can’t tell in advance if a kid is gay or straight or trans. Sending an innocent child into such a household would be gross negligence on the part of Massachusetts officials. Or have we all gone crazy?

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Five minutes after I met my friend’s puppy, the little fur ball had broken the skin on the bridge of my nose and the back of my hand. Thankfully, fingertips are much tougher and mine survived relatively unscathed. Skin is interesting like that, growing thick and thin in various places to provide a barrier between you and the environment (needle-sharp puppy teeth notwithstanding).

Barriers usually conjure up a roadblock between us and our goals. But some barriers—such as skin—actually protect instead of restrict us. A barrier between you and your riches could be a beneficial defense too.

That’s because it’s hard to be dispassionate about money. Fear of losing it, guilt from making it, frustration at not having enough of it, desire to do something important with it—these barely scratch the surface of the passions that money stirs up. And feelings can be unconscious, stemming from early experiences with your family’s financial situation. But making money decisions based on emotion instead of cold, hard numbers may not be the best route to Millionaire’s Row. In fact, behavioral finance is big business these days because it helps bring to light

This is one of my favorite tactics because it’s easy to initiate and requires next-to-no effort—and very little willpower—to maintain. Saving for a goal? Schedule a set amount to be deposited each month into an account that you won’t easily tap. Want to increase what you’re putting away? Have the amount automatically increase in manageable increments every month or quarter. Invested too heavily in a particular industry or stock? Sell off a portion of your largesse every month. Setting up these actions to happen automatically keeps you from finding other uses for that money and helps overcome the inertia humans are prone to. Since we’re also programmed to like routines, saving or selling regularly can become a comfortable habit that happens in the background of your busy life. And it has another big advantage called dollar-cost averaging. As any good financial pro will tell you, time in the market not market timing is key to success. Rather than trying to guess market moves, investing/selling a fixed amount at regular intervals—regardless of share price—puts you at the door when opportunity knocks. That might mean being able to buy more shares in down markets when prices are low, or selling shares at a higher price when the stock is up. And, of course, it takes your emotions out of the equation so you don’t unintentionally undermine your portfolio by going in and out of the market.

Mutual Funds

This may seem an odd choice for a financial barrier, but not compared

Safeguarding Digital Assets

Understand digital asset laws and terms of service.

Familiarize yourself with the laws governing digital assets in your country or state, as they can vary significantly. Read and understand the terms of service for each platform or account to know how they handle digital assets after the owner’s demise.

Appoint a digital executor or fiduciary.

Trust Essentials

Digital assets refer to any electronically stored information or data owned by an individual, including cryptocurrencies, online accounts, digital files, and social media accounts. Digital assets encompass a wide range, such as Bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies, email and social media accounts, digital photos and videos, digital documents, and online subscriptions.

Identify and inventory digital assets.

Start by making a detailed inventory of all your digital assets, including the respective platforms or accounts where they are held. Ensure you document the login credentials, security keys, and any other necessary information required to access each digital asset. Clearly specify who owns each digital asset and outline your desired beneficiaries or heirs.

with individual stocks. Mutual funds give you microshares of many different companies versus putting all your eggs in one basket with one company. While anyone who invested in Apple in the ‘90s might brag about their ability to pick a winner, how many of those same investors tried to repeat that glory with crypto golden-child FTX? Mutual funds help take the ego out of investing, while enabling you to invest in what you believe in, such as emerging technology.

Index funds and ETFs can be winners while minimizing risk since indices and exchanges tend to go up over time versus the rise or fall of any one stock. Funds based on time horizons can also be a great choice because they automatically rebalance based on how close you are to your goal.

Professional Guidance

If you want a barrier as thick as the palm of your hand, turn to a financial pro. An industry-trained, thirdparty opinion is one of the best ways to distance yourself from financial decisions that don’t really work for you. A financial planner or coach can point out when your thinking isn’t supported by the numbers or can point you toward new opportunities.

In summary, being emotional about money isn’t the issue. It’s how you act on those feelings. You might find it easier to invest more rationally by erecting a few simple barriers— just like the chew toy I intend to put between me and the puppy the next time I see her.

Brio does not provide tax or legal advice, and nothing contained in these materials should be taken as such. The opinions expressed in this article are for general informational purposes only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual or on any specific security.

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outline how your digital executor should access and distribute your digital assets. Regularly review and update your estate plan to include any new digital assets you acquire.

Create a digital asset authorization document.

Choose a trusted individual or professional to act as your digital executor, responsible for managing and distributing your digital assets according to your wishes. Clearly name the person you want to fulfill this role in your estate plan. Provide detailed instructions on how you want your digital executor to handle your digital assets, including accessing and distributing them.

Secure your digital assets.

Enhance the security of your online accounts with strong and unique passwords, multi-factor authentication, and encryption where possible. Store passwords and other access credentials in a secure and passwordprotected manner, using tools like password managers or encrypted files. If you own cryptocurrencies, consider using hardware wallets to securely store your private keys offline.

Include digital assets in your will or trust.

Make sure your will or trust explicitly includes provisions for the distribution of digital assets. Clearly

Create a document that grants specific individuals or fiduciaries the authority to access and manage your digital assets. Clearly define the level of access the designated individuals should have to avoid unauthorized use. Keep the authorization document in a secure location, informing your digital executor and trusted individuals of its existence.

Provide instructions for social media and online presence.

Determine whether you want your social media accounts to be memorialized or deleted after your passing. Appoint a person to handle your online presence, respond to messages, and follow your wishes regarding your digital legacy. Specify any posthumous messages or memorial preferences you may have for your online accounts.

Discuss your digital estate plan with family members.

Communicate with your family members and loved ones about your digital estate plan’s existence and its purpose. Ensure your family knows who will be responsible for handling your digital assets. Be open to addressing any concerns or questions

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Message from Leadership

GGBA’s Volunteer President Tony Archuleta-Perkins Shines on National Stage: Presenting 50th Anniversary Gala at NGLCC Conference

In a remarkable moment that stands as a testament to the dedication and vision of its members, the Golden Gate Business Association (GGBA) achieved an impressive milestone when its volunteer President, Tony Archuleta-Perkins, was given the prestigious opportunity to present the upcoming 50th Anniversary Gala to the Corporate Advisory Council at the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) conference in Denver. The significance of this moment goes beyond celebration; it is a powerful recognition of the GGBA’s illustrious history and a pivotal steppingstone as it sets its sights on the next 50 years.

Scheduled for June 7, 2024, at the aweinspiring Rotunda at City Hall, the 50th Anniversary Gala promises to be a landmark event, uniting the Bay Area’s LGBTQ+ business community to honor the legacy of the GGBA and set the stage for an even more prosperous future.

Archuleta-Perkins’ role in presenting this monumental event at the NGLCC conference underscores the strength of the association’s leadership and its dedication to promoting inclusivity, entrepreneurship, and collaboration within the LGBTQ+ business ecosystem.

A Champion of Progress and Unity

Archuleta-Perkins has been an unwavering advocate for the LGBTQ+ business community. His journey to the national stage is a testament to his dedication to advancing the cause of diversity, equity, and inclusion within the business world. With a strong commitment to fostering connections and nurturing entrepreneurship, he has played a pivotal role in shaping the GGBA’s direction and ensuring

its continued relevance in an everevolving business landscape.

NGLCC Conference: A Platform for Inspiration

The National LGBT Chamber of Commerce conference is a prestigious event that brings together LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs, business leaders, and advocates from around the nation. It serves as a dynamic platform for exchanging ideas, forging connections, and celebrating the achievements of LGBTQ+owned businesses. The GGBA’s participation in this conference speaks volumes about its stature within the community and its commitment to leveraging its influence to inspire others.

The Rotunda at City Hall: A Venue of Significance

The choice of the Rotunda at City Hall as the venue for the 50th Anniversary Gala is deeply symbolic. This iconic location has witnessed countless historic moments and has served as a beacon of progress for the LGBTQ+ community. As the GGBA gathers at this remarkable site, it is not just celebrating its own accomplishments but also paying homage to the trailblazers who have paved the way for LGBTQ+ individuals to thrive in the world of business.

Honoring the Past, Building the Future

The 50th Anniversary Gala is not just a retrospective event but also a visionary one that sets the stage for the GGBA’s future endeavors. As the association commemorates its rich history, it is also reaffirming its commitment to the LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs who will lead the way in

GGBA Member Spotlight

the decades to come. The event serves as a bridge between the GGBA’s legacy and its aspirations, uniting generations of business leaders under a shared mission.

A Call to Action: Embracing Collaboration and Diversity

As the GGBA embarks on this momentous journey, it extends an invitation to all members of the LGBTQ+ business community to join in the celebration. The 50th Anniversary Gala is not just a single event but also a rallying point for collaboration, inspiration, and progress. It reminds us that our differences are our strength, and together, we can overcome challenges, create opportunities, and build a brighter future for LGBTQ+-owned businesses.

The GGBA’s journey from its inception to its 50th Anniversary Gala is a story of resilience, innovation, and unity. Archuleta-Perkins’ presentation at the NGLCC conference marks a pivotal moment in this narrative, underscoring the association’s commitment to promoting inclusivity, diversity, and entrepreneurship within the LGBTQ+ business

GGBA CALENDAR

Thursday, August 31

Lunch & Learn: Retirement Protection

Strategies

12 pm–1 pm

A free course with lunch provided for small business owners on protecting their business retirement value.

The Academy SF - East Wing

2164 Market Street

A remote access option will also be made available. https://tinyurl.com/5a2py4dp

Tuesday, September 12

Annual Member Meeting & Make Contact

6 pm–8 pm

Chase for Business

560 Mission Street, SF

A remote access option will also be made available. https://tinyurl.com/yzt4bnah

Wednesday, September 13

LGBTQ+ Real Estate Investors Monthly Meetup

6–7:30 pm

Castro Community Meeting Room

501 Castro Street, San Francisco https://tinyurl.com/2x2xtv9y

Thursday, September 21

Chase for Business LGBTQ+ Series: Managing Your Cash Flow In Person or Online

9:30 am–12:30 pm

Chase for Business Oakland Office 3005 Broadway, Oakland https://tinyurl.com/5s84tk85

community. As June 7, 2024, approaches, the anticipation for the gala grows, and with it, the excitement of honoring the past while forging ahead into a future brimming with possibilities. The GGBA’s legacy is a testament to the remarkable progress achieved, and its future promises to be even brighter as it continues to champion the cause of LGBTQ+ entrepreneurs across the Bay Area and beyond.

https://ggba.com/

Joy Baucom of Diligence Security Group

vide quality services by people from the community because they understand the community and, therefore, will care about the community.

GGBA: Why did you decide to create DSG?

“The company treats their employees like family.” That is just one of the positive Google reviews for Diligence Security Group, an Oakland-based security guard service founded by Joy Baucom over a decade ago. Her prior extensive experience included serving as the Global Manager of Security and Loss Prevention Operations for Levi Strauss & Co. Here she explains more about her present work and business.

GGBA: What are the mission and values of Diligence Security Group?

Joy Baucom: Diligence Security Group (DSG) provides armed, unarmed, and patrol security services throughout the state of California. Our mission is to pro -

Joy Baucom: DSG was created to make a direct impact on the community we serve by maximizing the experiences of the leadership team and security officers whom we have in place. Our experienced team members who come from various diverse backgrounds contribute to the success of DSG. Many organizations like to say they are diverse, but then try to put diversity in a box. There is value in being “you” in security, and there is value in being able to relate to the community you serve.

GGBA: Who are some of your role models, and especially those who helped to influence your business?

Joy Baucom: Throughout my life, I have had many role models and great examples, specifically from the church I grew up in and some of the dynamic leaders in Corporate America. I realized that the common characteristic of all of them who made an impact was [that they were] people who were passionate about their

mission and who valued service leadership. As a business owner, you cannot drive change or your mission without passion. Leaders cannot be true leaders without knowing how to serve others.

GGBA: Why did you decide to join the GGBA, and how long have you been a member?

Joy Baucom: I recently joined GGBA because I wanted to be a part of an organization that represents a diverse part of a community that is not as much of a focus for organizations’ diversity initiatives. I want to be a part of something that represents who I am as a business owner. In addition, there are issues involving the safety and security of the LGBTQ community and I would like to be a valued resource to all GGBA members.

GGBA: How has being a member of GGBA helped your business so far?

Joy Baucom: So far, being a member has been great. I have been able to meet and connect with people and other businesses that are also part of GGBA. I look forward to future networking opportunities.

GGBA: What advice would you give to someone who is thinking of starting their own business?

Joy Baucom: First, start a business in something that you are passionate about. It makes it easier to deal with the hard times it may bring. Second, spend time on (continued on page 22)

The GGBA page is sponsored by Anne Sterling Dorman

By the time you likely read this, Sunday’s a Drag at Club Fugazi will be a thing of the past ... or will it? After four sell-out crowds and multiple standing ovations and exuberant social media posts, we can confidently write that we are currently in negotiations with Club Fugazi for a 2024 renewal! It seems that those who enjoyed Sunday’s a Drag at Harry Denton’s Starlight Room for nearly 15 years are ready for a return of this popular show in a new and larger venue with endless possibilities! Thank you for that unqualified vote of support! Watch this column for timely updates.

The show at Club Fugazi on August 13 was particularly meaningful for us, as we celebrated Erik Nickel’s birthday with his partner Michael Loftis and friends in attendance. Many of the enhancements that you see in this version of the show can be directly credited to Michael, our roommate of years ago at The Imperial Palace on Castro Street and our very best friend. We recently read a phrase about true friendship that really stuck in our mind. “True friends want things FOR you, not FROM you.” Here is a friend whom we no longer see every day or week, sometimes being separated geographically for months, but a friend who truly wants us to be the best we can be. If that means supporting an idea that you don’t necessarily share or even understand, but know that your friend is committed to, so be it. If that means collecting hundreds of feathers and sequins and meticulously attaching them to a headdress for a stunning entrance, so be it. If that means simply listening when a friend needs a sympathetic ear, non-judgmental perspective, and constructive suggestions, so be it. Everyone, especially those who are in the public eye or as busy socially as we are, finds themselves

surrounded by people with a great variety of agendas, but recognizing those who want the very best FOR us, not FROM us, is a lifelong task. And more importantly, being that kind of friend is truly the highest calling.

The biggest news of the week and maybe the year is that Governor Gavin Newsom announced that José Sarria will be inducted into the prestigious California Hall of Fame. In 2006, California First Lady Maria Shriver conceived of this way to recognize state residents who “embody the spirit of California and the California Dream while also making a lasting, significant contribution to the state, nation, and the world; and have inspired others to further their own dreams.” The first group of 13 included politicians, athletes, entertainers, an architect, an astronaut, and a philanthropic family. Anyone reviewing Sarria’s biography will certainly agree that he more than qualifies for this great honor. This is a man who became well known as a drag performer at The Black Cat in North Beach, helping to organize the Tavern Guild and Society for Individual Rights, forming the Imperial Court, and running for City Supervisor, the first openly Gay person to do so in the United States. And this is just a short sampling of his accomplishments.

In San Francisco, Sarria has been recognized with a street renamed José Sarria Court and a bronze plaque in the Castro placed by the Rainbow Honor Walk. His inclusion in the California Hall of Fame has been a dedicated project of Queen Mother Nicole Murray-Ramirez and the International Court System for over 10 years, eventually gaining the attention and support of other organizations, including the Grand Ducal Council, the Victory Fund, and National LGBTQ Task Force, and elected officials, notably SF Supervisors Bevan Dufty and Rafael Mandelman, State Senators Mark Leno and Scott Wiener, State Senate Pres

ident Toni Adkins, San Diego Mayor Todd Gloria, and so many other individuals. In addition to the success of this long campaign, the Imperial Court can claim remarkable success getting a U.S. Postage Stamp and U.S. Navy ship honoring Harvey Milk.

The 16th class of honorees were inducted by Governor Gavin Newsom and First Partner Jennifer Siebel Newsom at a virtual ceremony on Tuesday, August 22, at 6 pm. This year’s honorees were all recognized posthumously: actress Carrie Fisher, pilot Maggie Gee, singer Etta James, L.A. Dodgers broadcaster Vin Scully, actress and public servant Shirley Temple Black, Olympic gold medalist Archie Williams, and civil rights activist and pioneer José Sarria. To refer back to the qualifications this honor requires, Sarria has certainly inspired us to further our own dreams.

Saturday’s Empresses’ Tea at Beaux served as a wonderful opportunity to celebrate this good news, attended by SF Emperors and Empresses galore, visiting Queen Mother Nicole Murray-Ramirez, Reverend Don Fox, and many other supporters.

Hosted by Absolute Empress XLI Galilea and emceed by Absolute Empress XXXIII Alexis Miranda, this was truly a family reunion with a spirited show and touching stories about Our Founder and the many memories shared among the group.

Many dashed from there to Herbst Theatre at the War Memorial Building for the annual GAPA Pageant, one of the most entertaining events of the year, filled with creativity and energy. Nguyen Pham and Jezebel Patel served as the perfect emcees, as they have for years, combining humor, respect, and a deep sensitivity for the Asian Pacific Islander Community. The fantasy portion of the 11 competitors was over the top, followed by evening wear and question-and-answer.

Just when you think you’ve seen it all, GAPA opens new doors, surprising us with elaborate costuming, thought-provoking vignettes, and heartwarming speeches. The illustrious judging panel had no

“This Donna Sachet Cookie is awfully sweet!”

“What did you expect?”

Overheard at Hot Cookie in the Castro

Friday, August 25

Divas & Drinks @ The Academy

Celebrating Transgender History Month

The Klipptones, DJ Page Hodel, Emcee Donna Sachet, the Bacardí team of mixologists, Transgender community leaders, and more

The Academy SF, 2166 Market Street $15, free for Academy members

https://www.academy-sf.com/

Saturday, August 26

The Greatest Showman

Sing-Along film screening at the Castro Theatre

Costume contest

Doors 7 pm, Film 8 pm $22.50–$24.50

https://tinyurl.com/32yb7s2t

Sunday, August 27

Sunday’s a Drag at Club Fugazi Classic San Francisco Drag

Italian brunch by Tony Gemignani of Tony’s Pizza

With Donna Sachet, Holotta Tymes, Mercedez Munro & Dulce de Leche Club Fugazi, 678 Green Street 11 am doors, Noon show $75 www.sundaysadrag.com

easy task! The results seemed to delight the capacity audience: Miss GAPA Mx Kiki Brunch and Mx GAPA Lotus Party. In addition to the competition, there were beautiful last walks, anniversary numbers, and in memoriam tributes, most notably to dedicated GAPA supporter Ken Hamai. This event says volumes about the health of this organization, its encouragement of youth, its respect for the past, and its ability to entertain an audience, all while giving special attention to the often excluded or underrepresented Asian American segment of our community. If you see a GAPA event being promoted, get your tickets and go!

Donna Sachet is a celebrated performer, fundraiser, activist, and philanthropist who has dedicated over two decades to the LGBTQ Community in San Francisco. Contact her at empsachet@gmail.com

MILLER (continued from pg 18)

It is only intended to provide education about the financial industry. To determine which investments may be appropriate for you, consult your financial advisor prior to investing. Any past performance discussed during this program is no guarantee of future results. Any indices referenced for comparison are unmanaged and cannot be invested into directly. As always please remember investing involves risk and possible loss of principal capital; please seek advice from a licensed professional.

Brio Financial Group is a registered investment adviser. SEC Registration does not constitute an endorsement of Brio by the SEC nor does it indicate that Brio has attained a particular level of skill or ability. Advisory services are only offered to clients or prospective clients where Brio Financial Group and its representatives are properly licensed or exempt from licensure. No advice may be rendered by Brio Financial Group unless a client service agreement is in place.

Brandon Miller, CFP®, is a financial consultant at Brio Financial Group in San Francisco, specializing in helping LGBT individuals and families plan and achieve their financial goals. For more information: https://www.briofg.com/

GGBA MEMBER SPOTLIGHT (continued from pg 19)

developing your business program and processes. This will help grow your business faster in a healthy way. And finally, partner, hire, and do business with others who understand your vision or who have the same vision for success.

GGBA: Is there anything else that you would like to share?

Joy Baucom: There are many concerning issues in the safety and security space in the Bay Area. Now is the time to come together and not be divided. We all need to work together on viable solutions to solve the root causes of these problems. All politicians, first responders, law enforcement professionals, business owners, and community leaders should unite and not point fingers. It’s easy to blame and look for scapegoats, but real leaders become a part of the solution and not the problem.

For more information about Diligence Security Group: https://diligencesecuritygroup.com/

GREENE (continued from pg 18)

your family may have regarding your digital assets and estate plan.

Regularly review and update the digital estate plan.

Plan regular reviews of your digital asset inventory and estate plan to keep it upto-date with changes in your digital life. Update access credentials and authorization documents as needed due to password changes or other security updates. Stay informed about any changes in laws and regulations concerning digital assets to ensure your estate plan remains legally compliant.

If you are looking for help with your own estate planning needs, or would like to discuss how we can help your loved ones with their plans, please feel free to contact us at obed@greenelawfirm.com or call us at 415-905-0215.

Statements In Compliance with California Rules of Professional Conduct: The materials in this article have been prepared by Attorney Jay Greene for educational purposes only and are not legal advice. This information does not create an attorney-client relationship. Individuals should consult with an estate planning and elder law attorney for up-to-date information for their individual plans.

Jay Greene, Attorney, CPA, is the founder of Greene Estate, Probate, & Elder Law Firm based in San Francisco, and is focused on helping LGBT individuals, couples, and families plan for their future, protect their assets, and preserve their wealth. For more information and to schedule an assessment, visit: https://assetprotectionbayarea.com/

San Francisco Bay Times & The Academy Invite You!

DIVAS & DRINKS x3 @ The Academy

2166 Market Street (between Sanchez & Church)

Three months of live music!

Announcing the first ever Divas & Drinks concert series at The Academy SF! In addition to emcee Donna Sachet, DJ Rockaway and DJ Page Hodel presented by Olivia Travel, and the Bacardí team of talented mixologists, D&D will be featuring:

Friday, August 25

Transgender History Month Celebration with The Klipptones

The Klipptones will make their Academy (D&D) debut on this special evening celebrating Transgender History Month! Numerous leaders from the transgender community will also be in the house on this night marking the 57th Anniversary of an historic act of trans resistance: the Compton’s Cafeteria Riots that took place just blocks away in 1966.

Friday, September 29

Women’s Music Stars Shine for Linda Tillery

A galaxy of Women’s Music stars will perform at The Academy to honor legendary singer/songwriter and Grammy nominee Linda Tillery, whose career includes leading the psychedelic rock band The Loading Zone in the 1960s, being a pioneer of Women’s Music, co-founding The Cultural Heritage Choir, backing everyone from Santana to Huey Lewis, and so much more! This night will also celebrate the Bay Times Pride Parade contingent volunteers and participants who brought to life the theme of “50 Years of Women’s Music.”

Friday, October 27

Halloween Party with Shake It Booty Band

A super group of top Bay Area women musicians, Shake It Booty Band will be making their D&D debut! These women comprise one of the most entertaining, rollicking, funky, disco-down dance bands to hit the scene. Mark your calendar and plan your Halloween outfit now!

Celebrating 50 Years of the Grand Ducal Council of San Francisco

When a candidate campaigns to become a Grand Duke or Grand Duchess, there is always a representation of colors that allows voters to know whom they are voting for. In most cases, candidates will also have a “catchphrase” and a coronation theme for their step-down.

We have taken a look at the last 44 Royal Houses and have gotten to know a little about each of them. Now, I am featuring the remaining Royal Houses one at a time with each leading us to the current Reigning Monarchs and to the candidates of The Grand Ducal Council’s 50th Reign. Here is a spotlight on the 46th Royal House:

2018–2019

The 46th Royal House of The Glittering Court of Nectar and Honey.

Grand Duke XLV: The Phoenix

Native God of Glitter Ken Harper

Colors: purple and padparadscha

Symbol: golden phoenix

Catchphrase: “Busy bees!”

Grand Duchess XLVI: The Leopard

Printed Lady of Courage, Community, and Crass MGM

Grande

Colors: hot pink and black

46th Royal House

Symbol: leopard Catchphrase: “Make that honey money.”

Coronation Theme: “Pansies in Russia: A Garden Party at the Hermitage”

Their Court consisted of:

• Royal Crown Prince: Scroto T. Bagginz

• Royal Crown Princess: Taryn

Uranas

• Prince Royal: Sol’d Out

• Princess Royale: The One and Only Rexy

• Miss Debutante: Coco Buttah

• Royal White Knight: Anubis

• Mr. Royal Baby: Joe Richard

• Miss Royal Baby: Monty Quilla

• King of Hearts: Holden Cox

• Queen of Hearts: Tanya Tuck-it

• Mr. Royal Bunny: Anthony

Hydron

• Mx Royal Bunny: Militia Towers

• Royal Daddy: Element Eclipse

• Royal Daddy’s Boy: Jeffry Arcam

• Royal Dominatrix: Menorah Manischevitz

• Miss California Gold: Elsa

Touche

• Mr. California King: Jota

Mercury

This Royal House stems from (HoG) The House of Glitter, which was mentioned in previous articles. The mother of the House of Glitter is Grand Duchess XXXVI Landa Lakes.

As evidenced in their crest, they modeled their court after bees. Like bees, they were united in purpose, gathering nectar, and, in their case, gathering donations and producing honey aka money. Their Court endeavored to exemplify

the values of compassion, inclusion, and renewal. It was diverse in talent, ethnicity, age, background, and identity. They looked to the traditions and customs of the Ducal Court and contributed some new things to the tradition by choosing to support organizations that expressed the deepest levels of compassion for the human condition in their mission:

• MAITRI, which provides a respite to those still suffering from AIDS;

• Castro Country Club that offers safe space for those in recovery;

• Larkin Street Youth Services that provides a refuge for homeless youth;

• The Transgender Program of the San Francisco Department of Public Health, which helps individuals in navigating their transition;

• And the Bay Area American Indian Two-Spirits that creates artistic, cultural, and spiritual forums for our LGBT Two-Spirits American Indian community.

I spoke with Grand Duke Ken Harper on behalf of the San Francisco Bay Times about what inspired him to join the Grand Ducal Council (GDC). He replied, “What inspired me to join the Grand Ducal Council was the fun drag shows—the creative artistry and friendship put to the purpose of raising money for local nonprofits serving the LGBTQI+ communities.”

Grand Duke Ken has been involved with the GDC since 2008 under the

reign of Grand Duke XXXV Carlos Medal and Grand Duchess XXXVI Landa Lakes. Grand Duke Ken has received the Joe Cote Memorial Court Member of the Year 2009, and was Royal Baby in 2009 and Royal Crown Prince to Grand Duchess Paloma Volare St. James and Baron to the Native Goddess of Glitter Grand Duchess XXXVI Landa Lakes.

I then asked him to share a special memory about his reign. Grand Duke Ken said, “I decided to run for Grand Duke because I wanted to raise money for nonprofits dear to my heart and the memory of my recently departed partner, Chad Litz, who was a teenage runaway. He received help in his youth from Larkin Street Youth Services and at the end of his life from MAITRI, which provided him hospice care as he battled cancer and AIDS. I was gratified to know that by the end of our year, with the help of many, we raised over $130,000 for local charities—perhaps the most of any court. I learned so much that year about diversity and the talent in our community. There’s so much we can accomplish when things are done in the spirit of camp and cooperation.”

Grand Duchess MGM Grande received the Trixie Trash Memorial Workhorse Award in 2021. She has been involved with the GDC since 2014, when she served as Royal Crown Princess to Grand Duchess XLII Roxy Cotton Candy, and as Miss Debutante in the XLIII Royal House of the Diamond Eyed Ebony Panther and the Lady of the Giving Red Heart Grand Duke XLII Aja Monet-Ashton and Grand Duchess

XLIII Olivia Heart.

I asked Grand Duchess MGM Grande what inspired her to run for the office of Grand Duchess, and if she would share a

special memory. She said, “After being involved with the Court, I was inspired to continue the work itself of using the events and performances to continue to raise money for charities and to continue in the building of strong community. We chose the name of our court, “The Glittering Court of Nectar & Honey,” partially in reference to the fact that both Ken and I belonged to the San Francisco Drag House ‘The House of Glitter.’ In my heels I towered over Ken, who is rather petite, and so during our reign I began to affectionately call Ken my ‘Fay Wray.’ I have wonderful memories of traveling to various Courts and coronations throughout the country cultivating friendships and sisterhood across the court system that endure to this day. I am especially proud of the legacy of relationships I developed with the Grand Duchesses of San Francisco. I started a Facebook thread that continues to this day and we continue to meet and have meetings that continue to connect us.”

On September 22, 2023, the Grand Ducal Council of San Francisco will celebrate 50 years of Camp and Fundraising. The celebration will take place at the Academy of Sciences in San Francisco. Please consider becoming a sponsor.

Inquiries:

50thanniversary@sfducal.org

Ticket sales for this event have been extended to September 1, 2023, ($60) and are on sale now through September 1, 2023, with a hard stop on that final date. Save the dates both for your ticket purchases and for this once-in-a-lifetime historic event!

https://www.sfducal.org/

Kippy Marks is Grand Duke XL of The Grand Ducal Council of San Francisco. He is the first ever elected African-American Grand Duke.

Barbie Rocks the House!

“America Ferrera speech in Barbie.” If you haven’t yet seen the film then I can hear you saying, “Jan, are you kidding me? All this about a movie about Barbie?” Yes, and so much more.

Off the Wahl

Jan Wahl

Once in a while a movie absolutely surprises, shocks ... blows your mind. It is so unexpected that it takes days to stop thinking about it. CODA, Brokeback Mountain, The King’s Speech, My Favorite Year, The Celluloid Closet, A Woman’s Face ... to name just a few. But who would have ever thought that list could include Barbie, a movie about a doll that I used to torture in the fifth grade. Yes, I admit it. I was a little girl who didn’t like the Barbie. My friend Donna and I would draw pictures on her and twist her legs and head and throw it all in backyards. I always liked the fashions and I still do. But the unattainable image and the message drove me crazy even in my preteen years.

Let’s fast-forward to the very popular movie Barbie. There’s a good reason it has grabbed so many of us. There is so much going on in the screenplay by Greta Gerwig and Noah Baumbach that it sometimes feels like a PhD paper on the patriarchy. There is a long and richly detailed speech given by America Ferrera toward the end of the movie that is so brilliant it is worth checking out over again on Google. Just search for

From the 2001: A Space Odyssey opener through a candy-colored trip to Barbieland, from a diverse world of Barbie to Ken’s need for manhood, this film dives deep. It’s also fun enough for a ten-year-old since the dance numbers, vibrant animation, and whimsical visuals will keep the interest. The big ideas may go over some young minds, but those viewers will eventually come back and understand that this is a radical movie about feminism, harkening back to the beginnings of the women’s movement. In Barbieland the females are in control, and soon Barbie finds out the real world has a different structure. This is where the fun really begins, and the intelligence of the movie is evident then too.

Barbie’s inventor was a Jewish woman named Ruth Handler. She hoped that the doll would allow girls to aspire to something other than marriage and motherhood. Mattel is all over this movie, and they must be somewhat of a hip company or they would never have approved of this kind of strong satire. Having doofus Will Ferrell play the CEO is perfection; he is as lost as Ken is at the beach. Speaking of hunky Ken, where did Ryan Gosling get that body? One of the many mysteries of Barbie!

Ibsen’s A Doll’s House gave us a woman trapped. Barbie the movie sends her out into the world. We have a new doll’s house, and director Gerwig stayed true to her vision. How this movie got made with its revolutionary ideas is beyond me; I guess some of the people greenlighting it missed the fire. But it’s there,

and we are still struggling. Thanks for joining us, Barbie. In other entertainment news: If you have Netflix, there is an amazing series now called Painkiller. Billed as a fictional retelling of how oxycontin changed the lives of everyone involved, it stars Uzo Aduba, Matthew Broderick, and other fine actors who take us on this nightmarish journey. There is much information here of how the drug was promoted, sold, and marketed. Doctors play a big part in this, as does the FDA. Exploring the origins and the aftermath of this deadly drug, we see that the problems surrounding it persist. Peter Berg has presented us with a rough, remarkable, and frightening tale of the monster among us. Painkiller is an important and relevant series.

Jan Wahl is a Hollywood historian, film critic on various broadcast outlets, and has her own YouTube channel series, “Jan Wahl Showbiz.” She has two Emmys and many awards for her longtime work on behalf of film buffs and the LGBTQ community. Contact her at www.janwahl.com

After Amazing Outside Lands 2023 Performance, Dan Ashley & His Band Plan for Busy Fall

On August 12, 2023, Dan Ashley and his band helped kick off the weekend performances at Outside Lands with a set delivered from the Panhandle stage that has drawn rave reviews as well as new fans from festival goers, some of whom were only familiar with Ashley’s role as one of the lead anchors at ABC7 News.

As Music Junkie Press reported: “You might recognize Dan, he is a longtime ABC7 evening news anchor here in the Bay Area. Well, he definitely ROCKED the stage at Outside Lands. You couldn’t help but be held captive by his passion for his music, as he delivered songs that carried his emotion along with euphonious vocals.”

Ashley, in turn, said of Outside Lands, “It’s an incredibly cool and well-done festival with amazing acts, food, and activities. If you’ve never been, you should go next year—it’s fantastic!”

Hopefully he and his band will be invited back. He is not only incredibly talented, but is also one of the most considerate, interesting (did you know he used to teach figure skating?!), and generous broadcast journalists around. When the San Francisco Bay Times asked him to help celebrate the birthday of one of our team members last month, for example, he did not hesitate to say yes. He and his band have also performed in the Bay Times SF Pride Parade contingent over the years.

Outside Lands took his love of music to new heights, though, and that is

carrying over to a busy fall performance schedule.

On Friday, September 1, he and his band will be headlining the Rock the Block Concert. It will be a free show at the Hillsdale Shopping Center at 358 East Sailer Drive in San Mateo.

Dan Ashley and his band are also now one of the house bands at the Canyon Club Brewery in Moraga at 1558 Canyon Road. They will be performing there on October 1, November 5, and December 3. In addition to the house-brewed beers, the Brewery offers an enticing selection of food items, so you can chow down while rocking out.

On November 25, Ashley and his band will perform at the City of Martinez’s Holiday Tree Lighting at 525 Henrietta Street. For times and additional details about all of these events, please visit https://tinyurl.com/yc468nda

In addition to the new gigs, Ashley has released a new album, Out There It is the result of a powerful collaboration with his long-time friend, music producer, and writing partner Bill Bentley. The pair worked seamlessly together with a shared vision for what the album could be. Also contributing to the collection of 11 songs are well respected musicians such as internationally acclaimed soul artist Cornell “CC” Carter and longtime Y&T drummer Mike Vanderhule.

Out There can be previewed and purchased at https://tinyurl.com/23fcd4tv

Mutt Sensitively Depicts 24 Hours in the Life of a Transman

me happened after the film. I wrote Mutt about things I was afraid of— being loved and being accepted by my family and society—and that grew into this movie.

I wanted to immerse someone in what it feels like to be trans for 24 hours. I wanted this film to reach a lot of people and show a trans person being seen. But I also wanted someone who had never met a trans person to walk out feeling more connected to the subject matter and feel they have a trans friend.

and people watching. Shadows and silhouettes are a great way to show Feña go through spaces as a body. My trans lens has a lot to do with being watched and watching. When you see me, are you seeing the version of me that I see and feel? That’s important—being seen the way you want to be seen. I also like stealing glances, and little moments like the father in the bedroom. It is a gift to sit with someone in such an important moment of their life.

Trans writer/director Vuk LungulovKlotz makes an auspicious feature debut with his sensitive, moody drama, Mutt. This compelling film depicts an emotional 24 hours in the life of Feña (Lîo Mehiel), a Latinx transman in New York City. While in a bar with friends, Feña spots his ex, John (Cole Doman). Their meeting is awkward at first, however, as they spend some time together, they consider recoupling. Feña’s life is further complicated when his estranged sister, Zoe (MiMi Ryder), wants to spend the day with him—she has run away from school. Feña is also preparing to pick up his father, Pablo (Alejandro Goic), who is arriving from Chile, for what is sure to be an intense reunion.

Mehiel’s lived-in performance won an acting prize at Sundance, and Doman provides solid support as John, a man grappling with his desires for his ex. Lungulov-Klotz spoke with me for the San Francisco Bay Times about Mutt Gary M. Kramer: What prompted you to tell this story and in the way that you did—the day in the life of a transman who has three very significant encounters?

Vuk Lungulov-Klotz: Why tell this story? Isn’t it obvious? There aren’t that many trans stories. I was starving for one. Not only for myself, but for other people around me and kids. Seeing yourself on screen within our culture gives you the right to exist in some capacity, so I really wanted to give myself and everyone else around me that right and show a transguy being sexy and messy and whatever he wants to be.

There are a lot of things in the film that are similar to my life. I have a Serbian father and a Chilean mother and a split-up family. I have a little sister and I have complicated relationships. Some things that happened to

Gary M. Kramer: Can you talk about your visual approach to the film? You create moments of intimacy, as if we are eavesdropping on the characters. It is very compelling, and the look of the film is quite striking with dark tones and shadows, golden light, and scenes that are shot from above, or afar but also in extreme closeup.

Vuk Lungulov-Klotz: I’m a big voyeur. I really like looking at people

Gary M. Kramer: What decisions did you make about depicting Feña’s transness in the film? This goes beyond showing his body, or the way he was deadnamed, denied access at the bank because of his ID, or his having to explain transness is not a “choice.” I appreciated how the film talked about transness, trans bodies, and the trans experience.

Vuk Lungulov-Klotz: A lot of queer films that are not made by

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queer people end up pushing out the queer audiences. I wanted to make a trans film that mirrors reality. I say “trans” a few times a day, whether it is with friends or someone new. Explaining yourself is part of being trans right now. It is a heavy burden to have, and I put Feña in these specific situations—with an exboyfriend, a father, and a little sister, where he gets different points of view thrown at him and he has to navigate that, which is like codeswitching. That’s something queer people do all the time.

I think a very “trans lens” scene is the laundromat scene. There was a divided debate—a few trans people thought it was the sexiest scene, other people were terrified John was going to hurt Feña. Some didn’t think it was sexy at all. It was a trans person inviting you to look at them; “You can touch my body,” and feeling powerful in the way of being looked at, and that John has lingering feelings about Feña. It’s a trans-gaze scene. I never saw a trans guy be sexy on screen. That’s why the laundromat scene is so important for me to feel powerful and seen.

Gary M. Kramer: What informed all of the obstacles Feña encountered during his day?

Vuk LungulovKlotz: It’s such a subtle thing, but a lot of queer people—trans, gay— who have to come out in some capacity build up so many walls that I wanted to have Feña have people who are not in the queer community—like a little sister, like a dad, and an ex-boyfriend, and they are trying to reach out more and he’s the one being prickly. I also really wanted to show a transman having to take the day after pill, and remind people that [many] transmen have uteruses. Once you start passing or are out as trans, people want to erase your body anatomy and past knowledge.

Gary M. Kramer: What about the theme of change in the film? Feña’s interactions with John, Zoe, and his father all have consequences.

Vuk Lungulov-Klotz: I wanted to show a father who was complex and not saying the right things, but at the end, you understand all of his fear is misinterpreted love. Some parents kick their kids out when they are gay because they are terrified they will be killed, and they would rather erase that person from their mind—and it’s awful—but all of those things do come from love. You get his father’s story at the end.

It is about understanding that when someone transitions, you immediately have a “before” and “after” moment. Everyone has to edit the version of “you” they have in their head, and it’s a pretty cathartic experience to question—did I see this person right when they were growing up? Even though it is one person transitioning, everyone has to change, and Feña is starting to understand that they have to mourn the person they knew. And that is a hard thing. Their parent is losing something; meanwhile, you, as the trans person, are finally feeling yourself and nothing has changed.

Gary M. Kramer: We can’t help but root for Feña, but is he his own worst enemy?

Vuk Lungulov-Klotz: All the obstacles are Feña trying to prove he is not a f---up. The privilege of being an antihero on screen is reserved for very few people. Feña is sweet but he is selfish. He wants to have sex with an ex instead of taking care of his sister. He is very selfish, and I love him for that.

© 2023 Gary M. Kramer

Gary M. Kramer is the author of “Independent Queer Cinema: Reviews and Interviews,” and the co-editor of “Directory of World Cinema: Argentina.” Follow him on Twitter @garymkramer

Lit Snax

This is a decadent bisexual disaster story featuring the daughter of Jewish Russian immigrants, her complicated family relationships, and her hard partying lifestyle. It’s absolutely binge-worthy.

We love all of Beukes’ deftly told stories of darkly political magical realism, and this one is true to form—weird, feminist, and also queerer than her previous works.

The 19th century’s most famous work of queer literature—a highly readable tale of youthful corruption admixed with copious amounts of philosophizing—has been restored to its original splendor with the re-inclusion of graphic homosexual content.

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Year of the Tiger (nonfiction/ memoir - paperback) by Alice Wong

Wong for Year of the Tiger draws on a collection of original essays, previously published works, conversations, graphics, photos, commissioned art by disabled and Asian American artists, and more. She uses her unique talent to share an impressionistic scrapbook of her life as an Asian American disabled activist, community organizer, media maker, and dreamer. From her love of food and pop culture to her unwavering commitment to dismantling systemic ableism, Wong shares her thoughts on creativity, access, power, care, the pandemic, mortality, and the future. This groundbreaking memoir offers a glimpse into an activist’s journey to finding and cultivating community, and the continued fight for disability justice from the founder and director of the Disability Visibility Project.

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Upcoming Events

Saturday, August 26 @ 1 pm (freeFerry Building store) Micah and Joshua Siva, authors of 1,2,3 Nosh With Me (This event is presented as part of the 2023 Travel Writers & Photographers Conference.)

In 1, 2, 3, Nosh With Me, authors and spouses Micah and Joshua Siva offer a fun romp through traditional Jewish foods with an educational twist for toddlers, preschoolers, and early readers— and their admirers! Following Buckwheat, a very hungry and curious dog, kids will turn the pages and count a variety of “yummy in the tummy” treats—matzo balls, bagels, kugels, knishes, and more. While practicing their numbers, from one golden challah to celebrate Shabbat to ten crispy latkes served by candlelight on Hanukkah, little ones will be introduced to cherished Jewish foods rich in cultural meaning.

Saturday, September 9 @ 6 pm (free - Corte Madera store) Lara Love Hardin, author of The Many Lives of Mama Love

New York Times bestselling author Lara Love Hardin recounts her slide from soccer mom to opioid addict to jailhouse shot-caller and her unlikely comeback as a highly successful ghostwriter in this harrowing, hilarious, no-holds-barred memoir. The Many Lives of Mama Love is a heartbreaking and tender journey from shame to redemption, despite a system that makes it almost impossible for us to move beyond the worst thing we have ever done.

Wednesday, September 13 @ 5:30 pm (free - Ferry Building store) John Manuel Arias, author of

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Auto

This is a tricky time for electric vehicles. Up until now, they’ve been bought by early adopters, the folks who hop onto the forefront of new technology. These people accept unforeseen variables as part of the deal.

Who Wants an Electric Car?

By contrast, mainstream buyers are more provincial. They like their changes in steps, and that’s just in regard to styling. Mess with refueling habits and add in some range anxiety, and most buyers will tuck back into their shells like spooked hermit crabs. That’s what Ford and others are learning as EV acquisitions lag behind dealer inventory figures. Business Insider reports that once-scarce Mustang Mach-E and F-150 Lightning models now have deep benches. Ford reportedly has built 150,000 Mustang Mach-Es so far, and it appears that many thousands of them are waiting on showroom floors like hopeful pups at the animal shelter. And like a puppy, an EV requires some lifestyle modification.

The electric Mini Cooper SE has its own historic market story: it’s the last subcompact hatchback on the U.S. market. Now that Mitsubishi has canceled the Mirage, a crude guilty pleasure of a car if there ever was one, the last of the sub-$20,000 cars has left the U.S. new-car market, seemingly for good.

The Mini has defined its premium vibe off the backs of cheaper competing hatchbacks—there’s an actual brand heritage here—and now in 2023, the two-door stands alone. And, judging from the frequency of electric-Mini lease deals in my phone’s ad feed, the company would really like to sell these Cooper SEs.

Those who take the bait will love their

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Take Me Home with You!

“My name is Uma! I am a seven-yearold, playful, female shepherd, who loves outdoor adventures. I respond well to basic commands like ‘sit,’ ‘look,’ and ‘touch,’ so I am sure to be an excellent walking partner. I have made significant progress in my behavior while in the care of the San Francisco SPCA. Volunteer Dina even praised me by saying, ‘Uma had a great time walking and hanging out. Such a sweet girl!’ If you think we might be a match, come say hello!”

For the entire month of August, the SF SPCA is offering free adoptions for adult pets (+5 months) like Uma! Come visit the SPCA’s Adoption Center to meet your new family member. Another bonus! Visit the SF SPCA’s Community Event on August 26 and receive a special gift with your adoption.

Uma is presented to San Francisco Bay Times readers by Dr. Jennifer Scarlett, the SF SPCA’s CEO. Our thanks also go to Paradise Osorio for helping to get the word out about lovable pets like Uma.

To meet Uma in person, visit the SF SPCA Mission Campus @ 201 Alabama Street. It is open for appointments from 10 am–6 pm (Monday–Wednesday, Friday–Sunday) and 1 pm–6 pm on Thursdays. For more information: https://www.sfspca.org/adoptions/

Fitness SF Trainer Tip

Dara and Ashley at Fitness SF Filmore

“Trainers join the fitness industry so they can place personal growth at the forefront of their lives. They want each and every one of their clients to succeed in the same effort.”

Tore Kelly, Director of Creative & Social Media for Fitness SF, provides monthly tips that he has learned from professional trainers. For more information: https://fitnesssf.com/

Sister Dana Sez: Words of Wisdumb from a Fun Nun

indictments, Trump remains the GOP presidential frontrunner. Sister Dana sez, “Put this in your ‘hugely’ ironic files: Trump promised more election lies after being indicted over election lies. Whaaat?!”

Sister Dana sez, “I am losing sleep watching the continuing soap opera that is ‘Trump Indicted on Criminal Charges for the Fourth Time.’ I don’t want to miss any episodes of this ongoing drama!”

RED, WHITE & ROYAL BLUE is now playing via Prime Video. Alex Claremont-Diaz (Taylor Zakhar Perez), the son of the first woman President of the United States (Uma Thurman), and Britain’s Prince Henry (Nicholas Galitzine) have a lot in common: stunning good looks, undeniable charisma, international popularity ... and a total disdain for each other. Separated by an ocean, their long-running feud hasn’t really been an issue, until a disastrous—and very public—altercation at a royal event becomes tabloid fodder driving a potential wedge in U.S./British relations at the worst possible time. I’m not giving anything away, but no one should ever order a giant wedding cake! Going into damage control mode, their powerful families and respective handlers force the two rivals into a staged “truce.” But as Alex and Henry’s rivalry unexpectedly turns into a tentative friendship, the friction that existed between them sparks something deeper than they ever expected. They are now “lovesick homosexuals,” as one character proclaims. Based on Casey

McQuiston’s critically acclaimed New York Times bestseller, Red, White & Royal Blue marks the feature film writing and directing debut of Tony Award-winning playwright Matthew López (The Inheritance). At the special press seating on August 9 at the Kabuki theatre, Liam Mayclem lovingly introduced the film. After the film was over, we got free cookies embellished with half an American flag and the other half the flag of Britain. Sweet!

Sister Dana sez, “I just found out what IJBOL is, but I didn’t actually Just Burst Out

Laughing—having a beef with LOL and her younger sister, ROFL. Can’t we just laugh with the ancient HaHaHa for real laughter on the internet?!”

Trump is facing 91 criminal charges across four cases. And despite four

On August 14, Governor Gavin Newsom and First Partner Jennifer Siebel Newsom announced that San Francisco LGBTQ rights icon JOSÉ SARRIA would be included in the 16th class of inductees to the CALIFORNIA HALL OF FAME

The Hall of Fame is a set of leaders in public service, sports, music, entertainment, and more maintained by the California Museum that embody the state’s trailblazing spirit. The nominees were inducted during a ceremony on August 22.

Sister Dana sez, “Congratulations and thank you, Ohio voters, for rejecting Republican-backed Issue 1 in a key victory for abortion rights!”

In 2009, a small group of compassionate young entrepreneurs came together at GLIDE to inspire a new audience of young professionals across the San Francisco/Bay Area about GLIDE’s mission to alleviate suffering and break the cycles of poverty and marginalization. GLIDE invited us to join them for the 14th annual GLIDE Legacy Gala at Terra Gallery in San Francisco on August 18. It was a night of dance, celebration, and music, with performances from the GLIDE Ensemble and Change band, DJ KingMost, and the fierce singer Newoncé. At the Gala, the GLIDE Legacy Committee honored two people who embody GLIDE’s mission and the spirit of its Co-Founders, Cecil Williams and Janice Mirikitani. Veteran Bay Area journalist and Bay Area resident Priya David Clemens returned as host.

This year’s Gala honored two awardees, Eddy Zheng and Honey Maho gany. Eddy works to mobilize resources to support Asian American, Native Hawaii, and Pacific Islanders (AANHPIs) harmed by violence and the unjust immigration and criminal justice systems. Eddy is the subject of the award-winning documentary Breathin’: The Eddy Zheng Story. He’s a TEDx speaker, a SXSW featured speaker, and a contributor to the book, Contemporary Asian American Activism: Building Movements for Liberation

Honey is a co-founder and served as the inaugural Executive Director of San Francisco’s Transgender District. She is a founding queen of Drag Story Hour, a co-owner of the Stud Bar, a singer with nu-metal group Commando, and recently ran a historic campaign for District 6

Supervisor in San Francisco. Currently, Honey is working as the District Director for Assemblymember Matt Haney and serves as the first transgender Chair of the San Francisco Democratic Party. This event typically connects and mobilizes changemakers to honor GLIDE’s legacy of love, compassion, and community. More than 800 guests attended to help promote the power of unconditional love for creating social impact in San Francisco and beyond.

Sister Dana sez, “We can’t wait for the new bar and nightclub, Brut, to be opening at 500–504 Castro Street. It’s the site of the old bar, Harvey’s, plus the property next door for expansion! Cheers, queers!”

GAPA Runway 2023: Into the Looking Glass was held on Saturday, August 19, at Herbst Theatre. Originating in 1988 as an underground house party for LGBTQ Asian & Pacific Islanders, RUNWAY was a chance for the community to gather in safety, solidarity, and celebration to crown new GAPA Royalty as representatives of GAPA and the QTAPI community. The event has grown to become widely recognized as one of the longest continuously running QTAPI pageants, drawing celebrity judges from all over the world. As generations of contestants have battled it out through rounds of fashion, talent, and Q&As, Runway has always stayed true to its roots. Runway envisions a powerful queer and transgender Asian and Pacific Islander (QTAPI) community that is seen, heard, and celebrated. In 2021, with a unanimous vote from the board and overwhelming support from the membership, the organization renamed itself as the GLBTQ ASIAN PACIFIC ALLIANCE to commit to greater inclusion of the full spectrum of the GLBTQ community.

At the VIP reception, we honored the late, great Ken Hamai with official GAPA Immortality—as well as a Certificate of Recognition from the SF Board of Supervisors. Ken Hamai was a long-time fan of Runway, having attended every single one since its inception. I always looked forward to seeing him at every Runway. He was a tremendous LGBTQ community bridge builder. Ken’s husband, Jack Henyon, was on hand to receive the Immortal Decree as the guest of honor. They also honored Miss GAPA 1994 Barbarella, Mr. GAPA 1994 Joey Pineda, and Miss GAPA 2003 Pussy Catwalk, in memoriam. Runway was an amazing show filled with glamour, drama, and good oldfashioned fun! Contestants from all walks of life demonstrated their talents, showed off their evening wear, and answered questions from the judges to compete to become GAPA Royalty. The reigning Mx. GAPA 2022, Obsidienne Obsurd, and reigning Mx. GAPA 2022, Siam Pussie, stepped down and welcomed the next generation of titleholders.

Our witty and lovely emcees were Mr. GAPA 2013 Sir Whitney Queers and former Miss GAPA Jezebel Patel. There were 11 contestants but only the top two get to wear a crown: Ms. GAPA 2023 is Mx Kiki Krunch and Mx GAPA 2023 is Lotus Party

Nobody won Mr. GAPA, but Gerald Ong was the audience’s favorite fantasy (loved the jockstrap) and was voted Most Congenial. GAPA is a 501(c)(4) nonprofit social welfare organization. Their new affiliate, GAPA Fund, is a 501(c)(3) organization that focuses on funding cultural activities and the arts. For more information, visit www.gapa.org

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Mommenpop Spritzers and Oaxacan Cuisine at Market Hall Foods Oakland

Just steps away from the Rockridge BART station in Oakland is Market Hall Foods, which has been hosting a number of special events this summer.

On August 12, for example, Jared Kent Murray of Mommenpop California citrus apéritifs hosted a spritzer tasting with the help of Christine Falconer and Kate Wikender of Market Hall Foods. The beverages offer a “fresh twist on the spritz” with locally grown ingredients. San Francisco Bay Times columnist David Landis, aka “The Gay Gourmet,” recently praised Mommenpop, whose apéritifs are not only for sale at Market Hall Foods but also are featured in cocktails at the nearby ACRE Kitchen and Bar. (Don’t miss the Varsity Hour at ACRE from Monday–Friday, 3 pm to café closing, when they serve a delicious Mommempop Spritz—Seville

orange or ruby red grapefruit—along with $5 martinis and beers.)

On July 29, restauranteur and author Bricia Lopez signed copies of her book Asada: The Art of Mexican Grilling Market Hall Foods also sold dishes made from recipes included in the book, such as succulent flavorful ribs, a bean dish with nopalitos, an herbinfused rice, and more. There was a tasting of micheladas, moles, and salsas. The meat market Marin Sun Farms, located in Market Hall, also sold marinated Carne Asada Clásica prepared from Lopez’s recipe in Asada

One of our favorite events at the Hall is on the horizon: the famous (infamous?) Crucolo Parade, where one of the largest wheels of cheese in the world is carried down the street with much music, dancing, and fanfare. That will take place on October 14. Mommenpop will also be back for tastings on September 10. For more information about these and other events at Market Hall, go to: https://tinyurl.com/23tkz5nc

Pot-Pourri in Berkeley Echoes Chez Panisse Ethos of Connecting Makers With

Just around the corner from landmark restaurant Chez Panisse in Berkeley, and down the hill from the original Peet’s Coffee in Walnut Square, is Pot-Pourri, a remarkable gift shop that carries on the tradition of the original Pot-Pourri, which for five decades was one of the largest stores in the nation featuring American handmade items.

The original Oakland-based, two-story emporium—founded by ceramic artists Andy and Julia Diez—sadly closed a few years ago, and Andy died in 2022. Their son Maxmillian, however, is presently managing the business that retains the same level of artistic integrity as the original. It is a magical experience to step into the store and peruse well-priced items that were clearly made with love and pride.

Many of the items are crafted from found objects, such as wood burl full of mesmerizing natural lines, multicolored sands from beaches around the world, sea glass, and even Roman glass dating to the 1st century A.D. Animals and botanical prints abound, but so too do nostalgic images—such as of old sewing machines, dancers, and more. The carved wooden salad bowls are museum-worthy, as are the earthy coffee cups that Alfred Peet himself surely admired back in the day.

Max, following in the footsteps of his father, also showcases some treasured items that are not for sale, turning the

Consumers

shop into a mini gallery as well. For example, the giant glass mounted whales were created by renowned artist Larry Foster. Foster also created Pheena, the life-size fin whale at the plaza of the Lawrence Hall of Science. Pheena is a noteworthy piece,

yet very accessible to the public. Kids even love to sit on her, as you can see here: https://tinyurl.com/z82bfm4h

That is not an option for the delicate, yet gigantic, glass whales at Pot-Pourri, which were transported

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Sister Dana sez, “Enough of the extreme right-wing agenda. No federal government shutdown!

No President Biden impeachment! Just say NO!”

Historical data provides us with a clear solution to sensible gun control.

The 1994 Federal Assault Weapons Ban was instrumental in reducing the risk of Americans dying from mass shootings by a staggering 70%. For the ten years it was law, both the number of deaths and the frequency of such incidents decreased significantly. However, Congress didn’t extend the ban after 2004, and the consequences have been dire. It is high time for Congress to take decisive action. We must reinstate the federal assault weapons ban and end this senseless violence. Sister Dana sez, “Oh, just shoot me!”

Dr. Hassan Zee presents his new film, SAN FRANCISCO COWBOY, about the struggles and triumphs of

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Where There was Fire, in conversation with Carolina de Roberits

The setting is Costa Rica, 1968. When a lethal fire erupts at the American Fruit Company’s most lucrative banana plantation, burning

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with great care from the original store to the present Berkeley one by a glass expert. Also transported carefully from the Oakland store was a stunning large-scale painting of a powerful and beautiful African scene by the late great California-based artist Jerry Kidd. He was known for metal work and nature-inspired art, often revisiting images of oak trees from the beloved ones he admired in Oakland.

Pot-Pourri is rich with such stories, as each item reflects not only its subject but also the values, talents, and characteristics of the artist. Just as Alice Waters at Chez Panisse has worked to connect consumers to the farmers and others who produce the ingredients used in the restaurant, so too

women and LGBTQ people, in a Red Carpet Gala at Balboa Theatre, 3630 Balboa Street on August 26, 5 pm. It runs through September 28. Film producer and director Doctor Zee is excited for the movie screening and promises fans who have waited eagerly for it, a great evening of fun, entertainment, Bollywood dancers, and Q&As with the cast and director.

Gorgeous lead actor Jimmy Darling will be present at the screening along with Bunny Stewart, Kristin Jacques, and Dano Jason.

Dr. Zee’s sixth feature film is shot on locations in the City of San Francisco, and will serve as a platform to provoke thought on pressing social issues of gender inequality, LGBTQ community, and women’s rights. Zee aims to challenge stereotypes, promote inclusivity, and champion the rights of marginalized communities.

The film tells the story through the eyes of Josh, a twenty-one-year-old naive cowboy hailing from a small

all evidence of a massive cover-up, the future of Teresa Cepeda Valverde’s family is changed forever. Now, twenty-seven years later, Teresa and her daughter Lyra are still picking up the pieces. Lyra wants nothing to do with Teresa, but is desperate to

does Pot-Pourri connect buyers with the human stories behind the items on offer. The care and respect that went into their creation then passes down to the owner, who hopefully will keep the objects to hand over to the next generation or a lucky friend. While at Walnut Square, visitors can also check out the Love at First Bite Bakery, which showcases cupcakes in many irresistible flavors. (Pro tip: You can usually buy day-old cupcakes by the half dozen that are still very good.) There is additionally FAVA, which serves an amazing Mediterranean-style lunch to nosh on before those decadent cupcakes. The Walk Shop is nearby, with attractive brand-name comfort footwear. The shoes will come in handy because

town in Nevada who goes on a journey to San Francisco in search of his long-lost mother, a secret concealed by his priest father until his final days. San Francisco, a city known for its progressive values and unwavering spirit, is the perfect backdrop for this tale of resilience and redemption.

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Once a year, tens of thousands of people gather in Nevada’s Black Rock Desert to create BLACK ROCK CITY. Also known as BURNING MAN, it’s a temporary metropolis dedicated to community, art, selfexpression, and self-reliance. In this crucible of creativity, all are welcome. This year, the annual event starts on August 27 and ends on September 4. Sister Dana sez, “I stopped going to Burning Man after the 2001 edition. I am now just too old and fussy to eat dust and sleep on playa sand!”

find out what happened to her family that fateful night. Brimming with ancestral spirits, omens, and the anthropomorphic forces of nature, this book by John Manuel Arias weaves a brilliant tapestry of love, loss, secrets, and redemption.

there are so many worthwhile destinations within walking distance of PotPourri.

Pot-Pourri

2108 Vine Street, Berkeley

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Cooper SEs as most owners love their Minis, because it is a certifiable kick to drive. If one hatchback is going to survive on our crossover- and SUVchoked roads, then I’m glad it’s the Mini. They are expensive to fix offwarranty, but driving a Mini connects you to an ethos that aims directly at your own core of enthusiasm.

The Mustang Mach-E is also a pleasure. It’s bigger and heavier than the Cooper SE, but it likewise turns into a corner with settled precision.

As for ranges, Mustang Mach-E estimates 226–250 miles across its trim levels, while the Cooper SE claims 114 miles. If you’re driving up and down San Francisco hills as I did with the air conditioning on and the radio blaring, you’d expect to chop at least 20% off those projections. More if you step into the sporty driving they encourage.

That means the Mustang Mach-E could reasonably be folded into a flexible charging schedule, while the Cooper SE would perhaps be a bit more rigid. I see the Mini as a terrific city car docking in a garage with Level Two charging, going from nothing to a full charge in four hours.

Mustang Mach-E also has Level Two charging, and it tracks that double the capacity would take eight hours to fully charge.

These are two very appealing EVs. Question is, who will buy them?

Philip Ruth is a Castro-based automotive photojournalist and consultant with an automotive staging service.

Leather Season Launches in San Francisco

Photos by Rink

As July came to a close, the Dore Alley Fair, held this year on Sunday, July 30, signaled the start of a series of activities and events leading up to the Folsom Street Fair scheduled annually on the final Sunday of September.

On Wednesday, August 15, the Leather & LGBTQ Cultural District hosted the LeatherWalk Launch Party at the historic Eagle Tavern. Speakers included the District’s Bob Goldfarb, Executive Director; and Eric See, Board Vice President. Caterer Michele Horn Davis presented a selection of hors d’oeuvres and additional menu items.

An appreciative audience applauded singer Ryan Patrick Welsh, who performed. Among the audience favorites was his rendition of “San Francisco.”

In addition to The Eagle, the district includes a total of seventeen establishments such as the Folsom Street Community Center, the Hole in the Wall Saloon, the Lone Star Saloon, Oasis, Powerhouse, The EndUp, and others.

LeatherWalk 2023 will be held on Sunday, September 17.

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Imperial Council’s Annual Empress Tea & Benefit

Photos by Rink and Bill Wilson

The invitation encourages everyone to wear a hat, and that is exactly why the Empress Tea, hosted by the Imperial Council of San Francisco, is a community favorite. Here at the San Francisco Bay Times we look forward to reviewing the selection of images submitted by our photography team just so we can see the hats!

Hosted by Empress Galilea and emceed by Empress Alexis Miranda, the event was held at Beaux Lounge in the Castro on Saturday, August 19. It honored the memory of Empress I José Sarria, who passed away ten years ago this year.

Notable attendees included Sister Roma, State Senator Scott Wiener, Nicole Murray Ramirez the Great of San Diego, and local empresses including San Francisco Bay Times columnist Donna Sachet, who is also the host and creator of Sunday’s a Drag at Club Fugazi https://www.sfimperialcouncil.org/

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Picnic Time Vista Outdoor Picnic Blanket & Tote

This rugged camping picnic blanket is fully machine washable and you can even put it in the dryer. Measuring 59 by 51 inches when open, it folds up into an easy to carry 12.8 by 16.5-inch tote with adjustable carrying strap and extra-large pocket to hold other items. $33.99

Tom of Finland Pool Float Nothing says summer like floating in the pool on this sexy Tom of Finland Pool Float for $44.99.

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