San Francisco Bay Times - February 23, 2023

Sports

“Humans need more playtime, fresh air, connection, and laughter. San Francisco Gay Softball League leadership encourages team managers to be inclusive of bodies of all abilities and players from all backgrounds and identities. At a time when lawmakers are working to exclude trans kids from youth sports, I feel pride in seeing our community set an example for prioritizing fun, sportsmanship, and intergenerational community.”

—Dom Brassey, San Francisco

Gay Softball

League Player, Team Knockouts, Women’s+ Division

I remember that, when I first moved to the Bay Area in 1999, I looked for a sport where both my new boyfriend (now husband) and I could play together. And just as importantly, we wanted to make friends and feel like we were members of a greater community, although we are polar opposites when it comes to athletic prowess and accomplishments—I am, let’s just say, well-seasoned; and someone who shall remain nameless has two left

San Francisco Gay Softball League 50th Anniversary (1973-2023)

SF Gay Softball League Celebrates 50 Years of Competition, Camaraderie, and Inclusion

feet. Yet, we were able to play softball together in the San Francisco Gay Softball League (SFGSL). San Francisco softball welcomed us and introduced us to a world of camaraderie, support, fun, and inclusiveness like no other.

Vincent Fuqua has been the unquestioned SFGSL leader since 2008. “I joined SFGSL since I was 20. This will be my 33rd year and 16th year as league Commissioner,” Fuqua told me for the San Francisco Bay Times. “From my knowledge— and I don’t have all the details— our league started some 50 years ago when a group of gay men and women brought a bat and a ball to a picnic where they played softball and had so much fun that they entertained the idea of forming teams. A few years later, that group of friends, picnic and bat and ball gave birth to SFGSL.”

Fuqua continued, “[SFGSL] started with about six teams and grew as big as 73 teams. Our league has evolved to now having more women, transgender, Black Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC), and allies than ever. Throughout our history, we had and still have all sober, transgender, and drag teams. We currently have a Women’s + division and are looking to reach as many LGBTQ+ people as possible.”

“As I reflect on our 50th year, it warms my heart to know that collectively, including all former and current volunteer leaders, SFGSL has created and continues to create an environment where anyone and everyone can come out and have fun playing a sport regardless

T-Rex: A Trans/Queer & Friends Softball Team in San Francisco

T-rex is a Trans, Queer, and friends’ softball team that was created to have a safe, all-inclusive space for people with like minds and to have a connection with our community. Starting T-Rex ten years ago, I would never have imaged that we would still be around today. We have had over 60 players of all different backgrounds throughout the years. Some have moved away and some have stopped coming, but we have always been there for those who needed it at the time. After playing in junior college, I played with many different straight co-ed teams for a couple of years as a female before I medically transitioned. I was told many times over that there would always be a spot for me, but that was not the case. A friend of mine asked me to come play in the San Francisco Gay Softball League for a team called Horney Toads, a true gay man team; as much as they were welcoming, I did not feel like it was the right team for me. Friends approached me about starting a new team that would feel more inclusive. T-Rex was born, and has been going strong ever since.

Tony Padia is the founder of T-Rex Softball Team & Friends: https://tinyurl.com/mr4d7eab

of their skill level,” Fuqua added. “We ensure that everyone has the opportunity to play because a lot of us understand what it was like growing up being picked last or not picked at all.”

Fuqua also proudly pointed out, “Besides playing softball, our league is about building and supporting our community and family.

To thousands of LGBTQ+ players over the years and even if they no longer play, SFGSL is and always will be family. We cheered and celebrated every effort both on and off the field. We congratulated every accomplishment whether athletically or interpersonally. We cried together, laughed together, held together, and stuck together. We are our own strength. I believe that these are the reasons why we continue to be the largest and most popular LGBTQ+ sports league in the Bay Area. Celebrating our 50 years with all of our current and past players and supporters is a huge honor and a milestone, and a testament of our commitment to build a space for all to feel welcome.”

In celebration of their 50th year, SFGSL Board Member Orlando Diaz told me, “We are excited to announce that the SF Giants will be a key partner for us this season as we celebrate this historic milestone. We look forward to inviting all of our players, members, supporters, and fans to join us in numerous 50th anniversary events and festivities, hopefully including members of the Giants organization and team.”

Diaz provided me with an initial list of 50th Anniversary SFGSL

events and dates for the upcoming 2023 season and welcomes all to attend:

March 19, Opening Ceremony, 12–3 pm, Kimbell Fields

Highlights include a parade of teams, special performances, a “celebrity” softball game, and an afterparty

May 8, Last day to register as a player for the 2023 Spring Season

June 10, Pride Day Game at SF Giants

SFGSL Women's Division

Highlights may include a homerun hitting contest and shagging balls for Giants during batting practice

July 22 or August 6, End of Season Celebration

For more information on how to join SFGSL and all upcoming events, please visit http://www.sfgsl.org/

John Chen, a UCLA alumnus and an avid sports fan, has competed as well as coached tennis, volleyball, softball, and football teams.

Fifty Years of Softball in San Francisco

sions, championship finals, and cheering spectators that create community. For those not fearful of breaking a nail, playing the game provides its own pleasures and passions.

Faces from Our LGBT Past

Although for many gay men cruising, not baseball, is the “National Pastime,” baseball has been part of an enjoyable spring or summer afternoon for as long as anyone can remember. Both sports are rich in tradition, but only baseball has the competitive teams, organized divi-

Lesbian and gay San Franciscans had been playing “pickup” games of baseball at picnics and parks for decades when the Gay Softball League, the oldest in the country, began informally in 1973, the year Harvey Milk ran his first campaign for the city’s Board of Supervisors. Eight local bars—three still exist—each sponsored a team: Sutter’s Mill, Twin Peaks, The Mint, Toad Hall (on Castro Street), the Midnight Sun, the Roundup, the Mistake, and Missouri Mule.

At the end of the season, some thought it might be a good idea to have a special exhibition game: a gay allstar softball team from the newly formed league would play an all-star police softball team from Central Station. In an era when same-sex intimacy between consenting adults was still illegal,

Why I Became an SFGSL Umpire

I became an umpire because softball is in my blood and I have played it since I was 8. I thought it would be a fantastic way to be involved with the game even after I stopped playing. I’ve been involved in gay softball since I turned 18—the minimum age allowed.

As a Co-UIC (Umpire in Chief), I feel it’s important to identify with the community and believe the league appreciates having someone that “bats for their team” in charge of the umpire duties. Players as well as coaches regularly reach out to us asking informed questions.

I must say that the players in the GSL are the most informed (regarding the rules) players of any league I work— fast or slow pitch. I take pride in watching novice players getting better each season. Their dedication to practicing is unmatched at every level except college ball.

Stacy Stobo is an Umpire in Chief (UIC) for the San Francisco Gay Softball League.

San Francisco Gay Softball League’s umpires, Stacy Stobo and Alex Alexander, were married at San Francisco City Hall in 2014.

Read columnist John Chen’s account of their fascinating love story in the San Francisco Bay Times, January 24, 2019: https://tinyurl.com/mwkbur4c

relations between the police and members of San Francisco’s gay community were not good. Perhaps a friendly game of ball would improve understanding and camaraderie.

The teams faced off at Funston Playground on December 8, 1973, in front of a crowd that included members of the LGBT community— who brought their own cheerleaders, fashionably attired—the wives and children of the policemen, and curious passersby. San Francisco’s Chief of Police Donald M. Scott threw out the first ball. Even with Jack “Irene” McGowan, manager of the Twin Peaks and one of the League’s founders, coaching of the gays, they lost to the police 11 to 3.

Originally seen as a one-time event, a second annual game was held on June 29, 1974. Once again Chief of Police Scott, whose son Walter also was there, playing for the police, threw out the first ball. This time-honored tradition

now sported a new look, however: befitting the occasion, the ball was lavender and covered with glitter. Some 2000 spectators, including State Senator and future San Francisco mayor George Moscone, watched the gay team, sponsored by the Twin Peaks, win 9 to 4.

By the time the third annual game took place on August 10, 1975, it had become a tradition— and a major event. 5,000 people—more than attended some Giants games that year—saw the Pendulum Pirates play the Police All Star team, now with players chosen from the entire department. Moscone was there again, as well as two cheerleaders: future mayors Dianne Feinstein and Willie Brown, who led the crowd chanting, “Peaches, peaches, fuzz, fuzz, fuzz. If you don’t win, you’re the team that wuz.”

Sadly, the Pirates lost in the last inning, 19–15, but the game was a success in all other ways.

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The San Francisco Cougars Roar to Victory Both On and Off the Softball Field

In 2003 I served as a member of the Castro Country Club (CCC) Community Advisory Board (CAB) and one day, while standing on the top step looking at all the people not doing much other than lounging on the step drinking coffee, I thought that the CAB should coordinate more social activities for people in sobriety. But that is as far as my idea got because I could not think of any social activity at the moment.

At about the same time I was thinking “there should be more sober social activities offered by the Country Club,” Vincent (Fuqua) walked by and asked me what I was doing. I told him what I was thinking and he said I should start a softball team, to which I responded with, “I don’t know anything about softball!” He told me he would teach me whatever I needed to know. So, I went about flyer-ing the Country Club to see if there were any interested patrons in being on a softball team.

The response was slooooow, but it steadily grew until there was enough interest to have a 20-player team and to get a coach. At the next meeting of the CAB, I told the members and the manager that we had a team. Their response was that they would

not financially support the softball team. At that remark I told them that I wasn’t expecting the CCC to put up any money, that I would find a way to raise funds but I would at least like to use the BBQ in the back to host a fundraiser once in a while. They said, “No.”

The first season of the sober team was fraught with so many difficulties. We faced financial difficulties, leadership difficulties, and team unity difficulties.

To resolve the financial difficulties, I took the cost to regis -

ter the team and the cost to rent practice fields and divided it equally among all the players so we all shared in the expense in order to get the team started. Then the coach quit just a few weeks before our first scheduled game. I managed to work out joint practices with other teams so their coach could teach us and we could do scrimmage games. When we finally had our first real game, we had no one to lead the

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Spring Has Sprung

On, Wisconsin!

While many pundits are already obsessing over who might run in the 2024 presidential election, there is a crucial election coming up soon that could have an outsized impact on the 2024 election, and all future elections.

In Case You Missed It

There may still be snow on the ground in other parts of the country, but in San Francisco magnolia trees are working hard to outdo each other in glory, days are getting long enough for early evening walks, and Giants pitchers and catchers have already reported for spring training. That’s sign enough for me that spring is here. If you haven’t been to the San Francisco Botanical Gardens yet for Magnolia Madness, GO! Trust me on this. It will make you feel better about the world.

On April 4, Wisconsinites will be voting in a contest some media have dubbed “the most important election nobody’s ever heard of.” The Wisconsin State Supreme Court currently has a 4–3 conservative majority, but one of the conservative judges is retiring, creating a rare opportunity for progressives. What’s at stake is the balance of power in the state’s highest court, and a chance to flip it for the first time in decades. And a progressive majority in the court could determine cases with farreaching consequences.

Protasiewicz, has stated, “The maps are rigged—bottom line. Absolutely, positively rigged. They do not reflect the people in the state. They are rigged. Period.” The court could also handle any challenges to the 2024 election, which, since Wisconsin is a perennial battleground state, could have nationwide consequences. Also at stake: laws that make voting more difficult, the private school voucher program, Act 10 (the notorious anti-union law that then-Gov. Scott Walker signed in 2011 ending collective bargaining rights for most public employees), as well as Wisconsin’s strict anti-abortion law, originally passed in—are you ready?—1849. Judge Protasiewicz, who prefers to live in the presentday, is running a television ad where she states directly to the camera, “I believe in a woman’s freedom to make her own decision on abortion.”

Bottom line: this is a crucial election, and Wisconsin could use our help, because this one will be all about getting out the vote. Just about every progressive organization is pitching in to help by raising money, phone and text banking, and writing letters to voters. One that provides links to several of these efforts is Swing Left. Check them out, and pitch in: https://swingleft.org

hear Dangarembga in person is a rare privilege; to hear her in conversation with iconic human rights activist Angela Davis raises this event to must-see status.

When the GLBT Historical Society presented “Angela Davis: OUTspoken” in 2018, collector Lisbet Tellefsen remarked, “She has always explored the connections between race, class, gender, sexual orientation, abil ity, and citizenship. She is an African American woman, she is lesbian, she is an ally for oppressed populations throughout the globe, and a vocal champion for LGBTQ rights. This is who she is. She is a human rights activist of the highest order.” Info and tickets: https://tinyurl.com/MOAD32823

fied, respected, and ultimately, celebrated.” Here’s their list: https://tinyurl.com/TVBHM

Seriously, Florida, WTF??

In my column in the last previous issue of the San Francisco Bay Times, I was so furious about the escalating book ban movement in Florida that I couldn’t even write about it—instead I listed a number of quotations, from people much smarter than me, on the issue of intellectual freedom.

Wisconsin has been gerrymandered to the nth degree by the Republican Party, to the extent that it’s nearly impossible for a non-Republican to win, despite the fact that the state is, overall, relatively “purple.” The court could have the opportunity to force a redrawing of Wisconsin’s legislative and congressional maps, creating an opportunity for elections to more fairly represent the will of the voters. As one of the candidates, Milwaukee County Judge Janet

Black History Month

Through February, The Museum of the African Diaspora has been celebrating Black History Month with a variety of programs. On February 28 they are joining with City Arts & Lectures to present a very special event featuring internationally renowned novelist, playwright, filmmaker, and activist Tsitsi Dangarembga in conversation with Angela Davis. An opportunity to

One more suggestion for Black History Month: Learn about actual Black history. Read a book by a Black author that has been banned and decide for yourself how you feel about it. As ever, the folks at Teen Vogue are on top of this, and have published a short list to get you started. They noted: “As we lean into the 2023 theme of Black History Month, Black Resistance, now is the perfect time to test our capacity to resist by reading banned books by Black authors and leaders. When we engage more deeply with Black perspectives, we create space where Black Americans feel forti-

I’m still furious about Florida, but this time I’ll use my own words. My main message: PAY ATTENTION. What is going on in Florida is providing a blueprint for extremists in other states. Schools and libraries are no longer safe places to learn; they are becoming battlegrounds that are often so contentious and dangerous that longstanding, qualified teachers and librarians are quitting, overwhelmed by death threats, antagonistic parents and school boards, and unreasonable rules that are antithetical to the ethics of their professions. And the students? They are facing empty library shelves, unable to read anything that even remotely reflects the real world they live in. They have become pawns in an escalating political battleground, with both their education and their mental health at stake.

Why are so many books being banned? Most of the requests to ban books are objecting to themes including race, LGBTQ+ issues, social justice, and other topics

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GLBT Fortnight in Review

Fifth Circuit Examines Bostock

As the last issue went to press, the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit (not exactly friends of ours) heard oral arguments in a case that pits religious employers against civil rights laws. It’s bad enough that actual churches and, let’s say, Catholic hospitals can ignore workplace protections with ease these days. But can a business owner just announce that he or she is “devoutly religious” and use that as an excuse to require the staff to be heterosexual and cisgender?

In late 2021, the lower court thought that this was just fine, basing the decision on the Hobby Lobby contraceptive case and on the novel theory that when exceptions are made in enforcing a law, religious freedom cases must also have a special carve out. Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 only governs employment discrimination at larger companies, those with 15 or more employees. Does that mean that because exceptions are being made for small businesses, exceptions must also be made for religious business owners? The High Court has been pushing this notion, particularly in the fight between Philadelphia and the Catholic foster care agency that refused to place kids with gay parents. (In that case, the Court noticed that Philadelphia authorities sometimes intervened to adjust a foster placement after the fact for various reasons, and concluded that these “exceptions” to policy meant that the Catholics could devise their own blanket exclusions. Go figure.)

As I suggested, the Fifth Circuit is a conservative court. But we do

have the 2020 precedent of Bostock v. Clayton County on our side, in which Justice Gorsuch and five others ruled that gay and trans workers were protected under Title VII. At least one Trump judge on the panel asked how the folks at Braidwood Management could use faith to avoid Title VII without throwing Bostock completely under the bus. Was this just a rhetorical inquiry, or could the Fifth Circuit actually stand up for civil rights?

The case seems to have a standing problem as well, since Braidwood Management is preemptively suing the U.S. government and does not have any actual dispute with a gay or trans staffer.

On the Bench

Meanwhile, over at the Second Circuit, the full court has decided to review the recent panel decision that upheld Connecticut’s right to defend transgender athletes against discrimination. Speaking of Bostock, Connecticut’s policy is based in part on the same notion, to wit that the category of “sex discrimination” by definition includes transgender and gay bias. While Bostock concerned Title VII’s ban on sex discrimination in the workplace, Soule v. Connecticut concerns Title IX, the well-known ban on sex discrimination in public education. Clearly (to some of us more rational thinkers) if trans bias is illegal under Title VII’s ban on sex discrimination, it is just as illegal under Title IX’s ban and any other statute that forbids sex discrimination. At least, that’s what the unanimous three-judge panel thought in this case, when it ruled back in midDecember.

I remember being struck, when Bostock was released, by some odd comments in Gorsuch’s opinion.

“Under Title VII too,” he wrote, “we do not purport to address bathrooms, locker rooms, or anything else of the kind.” Really? Of course, Title VII doesn’t necessarily focus on transgender access to bathrooms, but was Gorsuch saying that his ruling would have no impact on these other areas of sex-based discrimination? How come?

Making matters slightly opaquer is the fact that having separate bathrooms based on gender is not considered “sex discrimination,” and nor are certain types of gender-based dress codes. At any rate, the ambiguity has opened the doors to conservative courts and lawyers who insist that the Bostock ruling has absolutely zero relevance to transgender bias under Title IX or to anything but the most narrow and secular employment claims.

I gather that the Second Circuit rarely decides to hear a case en banc, a review that is reserved for important matters and for those rulings with which some other judges on the court might disagree. The Second Circuit has a one-vote edge in Democratic appointees, so that’s good. Still, this is nail-biting time. You recall that the full U.S. Court of Appeals for the Eleventh Circuit recently overturned one of its panel decisions that went in favor of a transgender high school student who fought to use the boys’ bathrooms. Also sitting en banc, that 7–4 court upheld the school district’s anti trans policies, setting the stage for a showdown on this question before the U.S. Supreme Court.

Two other appellate courts have ruled in favor of transgender school plaintiffs, so we now have a Title IX conflict that only the High Court can resolve. The Second Circuit’s opinion a few months from now will add to the mix as the justices decide whether or not to step into the arena. Most people think they will.

Bizarre Report From Queer ‘Ally’ Raises Questions

This is all pretty dismal stuff. And we haven’t even started on state legislative news. Actually, I think I’ll skip that topic, since I can summarize it by telling you that red state lawmakers are piling on the anti-GLBT proposals everywhere you turn. Every red state either has a Don’t Say Gay bill, or is working on one. We have a proposal in Kansas to repeal local civil rights laws. There are antitrans sports bans, hits to transgender health, and new laws that protect a teacher’s right to misgender trans students. You get the picture, and it’s turned into a panorama shot.

But I want to talk about a related phenomenon. One of the reasons the far right has zeroed in on transgender issues is that they are legitimately complex. That allows them to simplify their positions into comic book memes and hammer home the most outrageous scenarios. Does anyone want actual men to play on women’s teams or parade naked in the ladies’ locker rooms? Um, that would be no. Do you think a tenyear-old boy should have his genitals surgically removed? I don’t. I don’t care if he, or she, is transgender. That is indisputably a decision for a transgender adult.

But it’s like arguing for choice and having to insist you don’t approve of infanticide. Or, as we did back in the day, trying to explain that gay men aren’t pedophiles. When we wind up defending against these absurd extremes, we lose. And when we try to reframe the debate, we get accused of grooming or wanting babies to die or wanting to disband police departments or wanting kids to read pornography—and we’re back to square one.

No wonder many of us find ourselves reflexively firing back at those on the other side. I know I do. Remember the story about the transwoman in the YMCA changing room the other day? When I first read about it, it sounded as if a pre-op transwoman had been walking around with a swinging dick, and my first reaction was “oh, s--t.” Because that’s just not cool and it feeds into the far-right scenario. It quickly became clear that the woman had fully transitioned years earlier and showed nothing more than her backside while changing. My world was restored. Plus, the ammunition was back on our side since the teenaged girl who reported this “violation” was called out. Phew! Now this week, I encountered a disturbing account of what sounded like a rogue transgender health clinic in St. Louis, where young girls and boys and their parents had only to snap their fingers to be given the green light for all kinds of invasive medical procedures. No real psych evaluations took place and no one was told to think carefully or transition without intervention for a time. Normally, I’d dismiss such an article and check

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Merging Finances

Owning Community Property Versus Separate Property

A good starting point is to understand the difference between community property and separate property.

Money Matters

Merging Finances Is the Ultimate Relationship Commitment

Nothing says “I love you” and “I’m committed to you” like merging finances with your partner. Well, being whisked away to a surprise weekend somewhere tropical will also do it. But, we’re here to talk money. And for couples who are ready to take the next step in their relationship, it’s time to combine finances. For many people, this union is scary territory, and they’ll put it off for as long as possible, or even forever. Combined finances feels so—gulp!— official and vulnerable. And, as we know in the gay community, we can put off merging finances even longer, especially since we tend to find love later in life.

Recently, I’ve been helping a dear friend navigate the best time to merge finances after dating someone for two years. Their incomes are different, and it creates their own unique dynamics to manage. But after two years, they’re ready to take the next step in deepening their relationship. Combining their finances is a tangible way to demonstrate that they’re in this life together, rather than living individually. The time for their conversation is now.

Plus, studies show that people in relationships who merge their finances are happier in the long run. Let’s explore some reasons why.

Generally, community property is anything that you as a couple get together: a mortgage, a car, a pile of cash, etc. In California, if you’re married or have a registered domestic partnership, all property you acquire during that marriage is communal.

Meanwhile, separate property is typically anything you owned before your union. Also, anything you buy with money you had before the partnership is separate property, as are inheritances that go to one person. So, that 401(k) you had before you met your partner is technically yours rather than communal.

Some people stress over who owns what property once you combine finances. By knowing this distinction, you can better understand how your partnership affects the property you own. From there, you can have more informed discussions and decision about money.

Filing Taxes Jointly

Just because you are married doesn’t mean you qualify for a tax break— it’s not as straightforward as setting a wedding registry. Married-filingjointly folks will often pay more in taxes than two single filers with the same income. Like the tax code itself, it’s complicated, and it’s best to do your research (and consult a Financial Planner or CPA) to see what works best for your situation. But if one partner is a high earner and the other isn’t, joint filing can work to offset the high-earners income against the other. If your spouse makes $500,000 and you are a stay-at-home partner, you may be able to split the difference and pay less to the government as a result by each claiming $250,000 for income. While no automatic benefit exists to married and filing together, it does for registered domestic partnerships! Remember, California is a com-

munity property state and domestic partners file together, but the IRS doesn’t recognize domestic partnerships in the same way. For federal tax returns you have to file separately as individuals.

Maximizing Retirement Accounts

Another benefit of combining finances may be the ability to help a partner better save for retirement. Let’s say that one partner has access to a Roth 401(k) through their employer but doesn’t have the cash flow to max that account out. If their partner has money available to add to that account, the contribution gives both people another way to save for the future. If you are married in a community property state, both partners win. Legally, it doesn’t matter if you or your partner puts money into the other’s retirement account when you merge finances in this way.

So, What Keeps Couples From Combining Finances?

Often, I find that it comes down to ego—the mindset of this is mine and this is yours. You may feel you protect yourself better by drawing a line in the sand with your finances. But are you doing that with the rest of the relationship? Do you put lines around any of the furniture your partner’s allowed to use or which food is theirs versus yours, or any other division? I hope not!

If you’re worried about what’s mine versus yours, remember: Anything you came into the relationship with is still yours as separate property. And if you get a good prenup (or postnup) in place, you can be protected should you ever separate.

Merging finances doesn’t have to happen all at once. Often, I advise my clients to start with a joint banking account that you both add money to for dual expenses. Over time, however, I find that more money gets put into the joint account and less money goes to their individual accounts. Eventually, they often end up closing those individual accounts altogether.

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Is It Wise to Create a D.I.Y. Living Trust?

limit government intervention in your plan. A trust is like a contract between the Grantor (the person who creates the trust), the Trustee (one who controls the trust), and the beneficiaries (those entitled to benefit from the trust). It permits you to keep total control and access to all your assets during your lifetime and provides for the distribution of your assets to your beneficiaries at your death.

Trust Essentials

While doing some things on your own has its advantages and can save time and money, there are things better left to professionals. Before you decide if Estate Planning and creating your own trust is one of them, here is what you need to know.

What Is a Living Trust

Estate Planning is for everyone, and it is not about how much money you have; it’s about protecting what you have for yourself, during your lifetime, and for those you love, after you are gone. It ensures what you have gets to the people you love, the way you want, and when you want it if it is done correctly. A Living Trust is a planning strategy to accomplish this.

A living trust is your rule book, a way that you can stay in control and

A well-established advantage of a Revocable Living Trust, unlike a Last Will, is that it avoids the stressful probate process when done correctly. It could provide asset protection for your spouse and beneficiaries after your death, and it keeps family affairs private, with no court intervention required. There are also other benefits available as well, depending on your planning needs.

D.I.Y. Living Trust

A D.I.Y Living Trust is where you find online documents and usually fill in a template answering a few basic questions and does not require the direct supervision and guidance of an attorney. Sounds simple, right? I wish that were the case, but there are things to consider before deciding if a D.I.Y Living Trust is right for you.

Considerations in Creating a Living Trust

The first thing to consider is that creating a Living Trust may sound like

an easy way to create an asset management and distribution plan, but there are pitfalls to be aware of. The benefits we talked about previously are not found in every trust document. It is usually through counseling a client that an attorney discovers what to put into the document to get the client their desired results. When you answer a list of questions to create a document, you may or may not get what you want; you will have to read through the document to know.

That brings us to the second thing to consider: the legal language in a Living Trust. It is a legal document that has certain terms and terminologies that are often too technical for an ordinary individual. You need to understand what each article of the document does and how it does it, because a single misinterpretation may result in an ineffective document.

That brings us to the third thing to consider: the funding of the Trust. If you do not properly fund the trust, meaning transfer the proper assets into the trust, you may lose several, if not all, of the advantages of the Living Trust. You may still end up with court intervention by going through the Probate process. Also, another key thing to remember about the Living Trust is that it does not protect your assets during your life

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Million in New Grants Will Support LGBTQ+-Owned

America’s LGBTQ+-owned restaurants and bars serving food will once again find a vital lifeline this year stemming from the ongoing partnership formed by the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC), the business voice of the LGBTQ+ community and certifying body for LGBTQ+-owned businesses nationwide, and Grubhub, a leading U.S. foodordering and delivery marketplace.

The National LGBT Chamber of Commerce recently opened applications for the NGLCC Community Impact Grant Program, a program made possible by a grant from the Grubhub Community Fund. The grants are expected to range from $10,000 to $25,000 and funds can be used for things like updating security and security protocols, updating/purchasing new equipment, community involvement, marketing, and PR services, updating digital/e-commerce presence, purchasing product, staff training programs, employee pay and/or staff incentivized wages, COVID-19 recovery, and maintenance/ updating of current infrastructure.

“We often say at NGLCC that if you can buy it, an LGBTQ+-owned business can supply it,” said NGLCC Co-Founder & President Justin Nelson. “That is especially true of the LGBTQ+-owned restaurants

and establishments across America who kept our communities and first responders fed throughout the pandemic and have been so active in the recovery. We’re proud to again partner with Grubhub, with the support from the Grubhub Community Fund, in offering grants to support businesses throughout the nation this round with an even wider scope of opportunities for grant utilization to help them succeed.”

“NGLCC has been an incredible partner to Grubhub, and it was a no-brainer to renew this program which has supported so many LGBTQ+-owned businesses across the country,” said Dave Tovar, Grubhub’s senior vice president of Communications and Government Relations. “We’ve heard so many stories of how independent restaurants have used these grants to do amazing things for their business and in their communities, and I’m excited to see what new and exciting things come out of the next group of grant recipients.”

“To say that the restaurant community has been hit hard with the pandemic is an

Jamie Bruning-Miles: President and CEO of the YMCA San Francisco

For more than 160 years, the YMCA of San Francisco has addressed the most pressing social issues of the day— whether helping immigrants adjust to life in America, providing safe spaces for kids from all backgrounds to learn and grow, or supporting soldiers returning from war to find jobs back home. The longstanding organization, now under the helm of CEO and President Jamie Bruning-Miles, is committed to building equity through diversity, inclusion, and global engagement efforts. He and his team are working to ensure that everyone, regardless of ability, age, cultural background, ethnicity, faith, gender, gender identity, ideology, income, national origin, race, or sexual orientation has the opportunity to reach their fullest potential. Here, Bruning-Miles shares more about the YMCA, his role and background, and his Golden Gate Business Association membership.

GGBA: The scope of your business—its mission and values—is extraordinary. What do you strive for, and how many branches and locations of the YMCA are involved?

Jamie Bruning-Miles: Our vision and mission at the YMCA of San Francisco is to build healthy, equitable, and sustainable

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understatement,” said GGBA President Tony Archuleta-Perkins. “We are extremely grateful to partner with both GrubHub and the NGLCC so we can promote such an amazing grant program to our local restauranteurs. The GGBA has decades of experience being able to help national organizations and partners drive home their local impact. 2023 is no different, we are proud to launch this grant and get the word our now, so on March 15 our local restaurateurs can apply for this grant.”

Once again, under the innovative grant program, the NGLCC has set a goal to allocate 30 percent of the funds to businesses owned by people of color and transgender and gender expansive (TGX) individuals. Through March 2023, NGLCC will roll the grant program out regionally. Applications have already opened in other parts of the country and will do so for businesses in the West Coast region on March 15, 2023. Restaurants wishing to learn more about applying for grants should visit: https://tinyurl.com/2cm2pzsu

Wednesday, March 1 Real Estate Lunch & Learn

Virtual, 2–3 pm

We are proud to cohost this virtual event with our community partner, the San Francisco Chapter of LGBTQ+ Real Estate Alliance. With the real estate market forces creating a lot of headwinds, getting buyers to buy and sellers to sell can be challenging. How can a lender help you grow your business and get creative on the financing side?

Every buyer and seller is different—but a trusted mortgage partner is a valuable asset in your tool belt to provide products and services that can help your offers get accepted and succeed. Discuss the options for 2023 as the market continues to shift so that you can continue to grow your business this year! Join Garret Groenveld from Guaranteed Rate for a summary of some of the tools the mortgage industry can provide to help grow your business, followed by a question and answer/brainstorming session to break the log jam and get things moving.

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Thursday, March 2

Academy Daylight Open House & Keynote

2–4 pm, The Academy, 2166 Market Street, SF

Tour the newly-expanded Academy and learn about why having a comfortable “third space” can improve your work-life balance, productivity, and mental health. Join us for this casual reception, featuring a keynote presentation by Tony Archuleta-Perkins, President of the Golden Gate Business Association.

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communities for all generations where you can be, belong, and become. This means we strive to model the values of truth & courage, dependability & creativity, dignity & empathy, authenticity & accessibility in all we do serving youth, adults, families, and seniors through 14 branches and locations across the city and county of San Francisco, and Marin and San Mateo Counties.

GGBA: Who are some of your role models, and especially those who helped to influence you in your present role?

Jamie Bruning-Miles: There is a quote that I learned many years ago that summarizes the role models who shape my thinking that goes, “As an organization grows, it must become more human not less.”

To that end, I am most inspired by individuals that, despite the risk, are truly their most authentic selves. In return, it inspires me to do the same as well as ask my organization’s leaders to as well. I look to groundbreaking individuals like Lizzo, Gus Kenworthy, Maxwell Frost, Greta Thunberg, Carl Nassib, and similar leaders for inspiration as they push boundaries, influence others, and change the world by being their best selves. I am blessed to lead a human services organization that encourages greater authenticity that is humancentered and practices grace to really show up for the communities we serve.

GGBA: Why did you decide to join the GGBA, and how long have you been a member?

Jamie Bruning-Miles: I’ve been a member for two years after connecting with the leader of the GGBA at the time, Terry Beswick. I felt it was important that our organization be a part of the LGBTQIA+ business community. I so appre-

ciate how the GGBA listens, too, and elevates and supports LGBTQIA+ organizations like the Y, and brings us together to advocate for our unique interests. I plan on continuing to be a member and hopefully become more active in the near future.

GGBA: How has being a member of the GGBA helped you and your work so far?

Jamie Bruning-Miles: This is a great way to meet other queer leaders in the Bay Area. At sessions, there’s more education around government funds, profits, and smaller businesses. Convening leaders across the Bay Area has been helpful and extremely validating as we celebrate our collective success in such trying times.

GGBA: What advice would you give to someone who is thinking of starting or leading a nonprofit?

Jamie Bruning-Miles: Mentor and be mentored. My advice is to look at the industry you wish to lean into and find leaders who are willing to help you find your space in that industry. Someone who will support you as you navigate the complexity of boards and structures and systems will also help you understand gaps in your experience that you can fill by either volunteering to serve or by offering your experiences in the field. Additionally, I recommend that, no matter where you are today, you can also be a mentor for others. It is great to have a solid mentor who truly sees you, but reaching out to help others will also help you succeed in nonprofit spaces.

Tuesday, March 14 March 2023 Make Contact

6–8 pm, Arepas Latin Cuisine, 3198 16th Street, SF

Spring is in the air, and we’ll be holding our March Make Contact at Arepas Latin Cuisine! Make Contact events are a perfect opportunity to get to know the GGBA, if you’re not yet a member. Come network with us, and find out what we’re about. Registration is just $20 for nonmembers, and includes food and drinks. We look forward to seeing you there!

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Wednesday, April 19 New Member Orientation

6–7 pm, Zoom

Meet your Membership Coordinator, and get the tips and information you need to help you make your membership a success story. We’ll go over some website features, best practices, GGBA programming, and more! Zoom link provided with registration. https://tinyurl.com/4kuvmme5

GGBA: Is there anything else that you would like to share?

Jamie Bruning-Miles: My husband (Ronald Bruning-Miles) and I are very proud to be in the Bay Area. My husband and I both come from the South, so in many ways this space can feel magical. We are grounded in the city of San Francisco where we live and love. To be in a city where we can be our authentic selves in the spaces and places we occupy was not a given for us. It can be very scary and unsafe. Recognizing our privilege here, despite other states or even other parts of California, is a reality we know. Some live in absolute danger in our spaces, and it’s up to us to elevate our trans family of color to expand on our safety. The privilege of not being targeted consistently is that we show up as authentic selves, and we can build that for everyone in our community.

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San Francisco Pride Board and Staff Strengthened by New Leadership, Members

In recent months, San Francisco Pride has solidified new leadership at both its board and staff levels, positioning the organization well for the ample work ahead. On February 8, Suzanne Ford was named Executive Director. The first trans woman to hold the office, Ford is a founding member of the SF Pride Golf Tournament, was president of the board of the Spahr Center, and works on the board at Trans Heartline. In 2022, she served as SF Pride’s interim executive director.

“In joining SF Pride, I found a great way to give back to the LGBTQ+ community and I found my family,” said Ford. “I want to preserve the legacy of the parade, while making sure there will be a thriving SF Pride event for future generations. As a tightknit team, we are excited and humbled to host the second in-per-

son SF Pride Parade and Celebration post pandemic.”

Ford continues to build upon her professional and community sustaining success. Just a few short months after assuming the role of interim executive director last year, she was instrumental in coordinating the first in-person SF Pride Parade and Celebration since 2019—largely touted as a success.

“I am excited for the first trans person to hold the position of Executive

Director at San Francisco Pride,” said Nguyen Pham, President of San Francisco Pride. “We are privileged to have Suzanne at the helm of many key projects as she continues to advocate for trans visibility while championing diversity in the LGBTQ+ community.”

Prior to the announcement concerning Ford’s position, SF Pride shared that three new board members had been elected and marked the first time historically that 3 of 4 officers are members of the trans community.

George Smith III, Linda MartleyJordan, and Robert Louie were all elected to SF Pride’s Board of Direc-

tors with Anjali Rimi reelected for another three-year term. The newly elected, trans-majority Executive Committee is led by Pham, the first gay Vietnamese man to become SF Pride’s president. Pham was formerly vice president of SF Pride from 2021–2022 and served as secretary of the organization from 2017–2021. They also welcome Vice President Janelle Luster (who served as SF Pride’s treasurer from 2021–2022 and is a member of the trans community), Secretary Spring Collins (a board member since 2021 who is also trans), and Treasurer Robert Louie (also part of the trans community), who is new to the board.

The diversity among the board members exemplifies one of SF Pride’s most fundamental values, honoring and protecting trans lives; especially the lives of trans people of color, who are so often resilient in the face of vulnerable positions. The board’s composition also speaks to the San Francisco-based organization’s solidarity with the AAPI community, which comprises one-third of all San Franciscans. Many are broadly under attack by heightened hate and violence since the COVID-19 pandemic.

“Racial diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging is at the core of our purpose, and our board is representative of that,” said Pham. “We want Pride to look like all of our communities and to welcome all in our communities—with particular emphasis on those who are most marginalized.”

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Pride on the Other Side of the World

What’s your Pride experience? A day of fun, usually in the sun and with friends, listening mostly to queer music or dancing?

This is typically how we celebrate ourselves at our commemorations of the Stonewall Rebellion of 1969 that occurred in New York City and was a catalyst for the birth of the modern LGBTQ+ rights movement. Every year we take mainly to the streets in a show of visibility, acceptance, and messaging our struggle for equity— largely peaceful, yet very political. That’s the commonality of Pride in the United States, and in countries where they enjoy freedoms and progressive governments.

But what is Pride like where lawmakers are conservative, statutes are designed to punish you for whom you love, and religion heavily gatekeeps against what they view as sinful and unnatural?

I had a chance to find out last summer, when Tom Bily, then the director of Prague Pride, invited me to attend their Human Rights Conference held during the week of their festivities. With the participation of Julia Maciocha of Warsaw (Poland) Pride and several other panelists from previous Eastern Bloc nations, I got a peek into what being LGBTQ+ is like in countries that still feel the heavy-handed influence of Russia and Vladimir Putin, despite their

independence from Communism and occupation about 30 years ago.

Superficially, Prague appeared similar to San Francisco while Pride was ongoing—lots of queer folks walking around day and night, the city busy with tourism. Even during my travels as I did a little sightseeing, you could hear the loud, thumping music coming from the festival site, as it echoed across the Vltava River from Letna Park. Rainbow flags were abundant, people dressed in bright colors ... I would have never thought anything was any different from what I experienced at home. That is, until the first day: the first session of Prague Pride’s Human Rights Conference.

Host Bohdana Rambousková, local activist, started things off rousingly, and introduced Prague Pride Festival Director, Bily, who welcomed guests, both local and from Central and Eastern Europe.

Keynote Speaker Klára Šimáčková Laurenčíková, Government Commissioner for Human Rights, shared some of the work she has been doing since being in office, and explained that Prague still has a long way to go to gain LGBTQ+ equality, and we must not

be complacent, accepting only what strides have been made in the last couple of decades.

I really had no idea what to expect, given that the only Prides I have attended were U.S.-based, except for a casual march in Montpellier, France. The whole audience was present for the initial panel discussion: Is Europe Still a Safe Space for LGBT+ People? A curious question, I thought, when the only Europe you know consists of progressive countries like England, France, Germany, and Spain. You might be unaware of just how different things can be when traveling in Poland, Austria, Hungary, and Slovakia, just to cite a few. More dire yet if you visit Serbia, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Kosovo, and Ukraine.

With a large ILGA Europe Rainbow Map projected behind them, speakers from Prague, Warsaw, Hungary, and Slovakia spoke to the lack of substance actually reflected by the numbers posted on it. They said that these were based on a survey that supposedly asked basic questions like, did they feel comfortable holding hands with

Queer Rights Firestorm Ignited in Japan

Japan. They tore something open. The underlying queerphobia at the top of Jimintō that for years has blocked passage of LGBTIQ rights in the country was laid bare for all to see.

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Stuart Gaffney and John Lewis

His words were searing. “I would hate it if [an LGBTQ couple] lived next to me. I would hate to even see [them].” So remarked Masayoshi Arai, Executive Secretary and close aide to Japanese Prime Minister Fumio Kishida, to reporters on February 3. And that was not all. He further opined that if Japan were to have marriage equality, “some people will abandon the country.”

Kishida fired Arai the next day, claiming that his ruling conservative Jimintō party (also known as the LDP) sought to create “a sustainable and inclusive society in which diversity is recognized.” But Arai’s words ignited a firestorm here in

The prime minister’s remarks after firing Arai also seemed to ring hollow to many. Just two days before Arai made his comments, Kishida himself prevaricated when an opposition member of the Diet (Japanese Parliament) confronted him about the government’s inaction on marriage equality. The prime minister replied that it was a topic to be considered “very carefully,” claiming that permitting loving, committed LGBTQ couples to marry would “change people’s perception of family, values, and society.” It was typical verbiage that Kishida and prior Jimintō leaders have repeated for years now, even as public opinion polling indicates that substantial majorities of the Japanese population support marriage equality.

And it comes on the heels of Kishida last year delivering a slap in the face to the Japanese queer community when, in a cabinet reshuffle in the wake of the Unification Church scandal, Kishida elevated two Jimintō members who were notorious for scurrilous anti-gay remarks that they had made. One was Mio Sugita, who was appointed Parliamentary Vice-Minister for Internal Affairs and Communications. In 2018, she accused LGBTIQ people of not being “productive,” based on her ignorant belief that queer people could not have children. Sugita had also taken numerous anti-LGBTIQ positions and made very public remarks against ethnic minorities in Japan as well as women. Sugita herself was forced to resign late last year because she refused to retract or apologize for a number of her remarks.

The other was Kazuo Yana, who was appointed State Minister of Education, Culture, Sports, Science & Technology. In 2021, Yana declared that LGBTIQ people are against “preservation of the species in terms of biology.” Yana remains in office.

In an attempt to quell the firestorm over Arai’s remarks, Jimintō agreed reluctantly to reopen discussions for submission of a stalled bill that would merely “promote understanding” of LGBTIQ people among the public, but contained no substantive anti-discrimination provisions. At a February 14th rally and press conference, LGBTIQ activists and opposition Diet members fired back: “We don’t need understanding. We need an anti-discrimination law.” One activist pointed out incisively that Aria’s comments revealed that it was the Jimintō leadership, not the general public, that needed to learn understanding. Indeed, many diverse LGBTIQ and allied advocates spoke passionately at the event. Addressing another Jimintō claim that passing LGBTIQ rights legislation could polarize society, a Diet member explained that anti-discrimination laws did not divide society, but that discrimination itself does. A queer activist, whose entire face was masked to disguise her personal identity out of fear of discrimination, explained that Jimintō’s inaction had normalized the notion that LGBTIQ people would have no legal rights in Japan.

An LGBTIQ professor elucidated that for far too long the majority population and their needs and attitudes had been the subject of the legislative process, relegating queer people and other minorities to the position of mere objects. It was now time for LGBTIQ people and other minorities themselves to be the subject of legislation that would value and protect their lives. Another activist pleaded “how much harder” do we have to work to try to get legal rights—what more do we need to do?—“isn’t it the govern-

ment’s responsibility to protect our rights as citizens?”

A Japanese LGBTIQ advocate of Korean descent linked hate speech against Japanese of Korean ancestry to Arai’s remarks, which the activist characterized as hate-speech against LGBTIQ people from the top of the Japanese government. Others spoke about the impact of the remarks on the emotional health of LGBTIQ youth, many of whom experience depression and suicidal ideation, and in the (continued on page 22)

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Celebration of Black LGBTQ on Thursday, February

During Black History Month, numerous Black LGBTQ community leaders in the Bay Area were celebrated at the February 9, 2023, Divas & Drinks @ The Academy series event. It was among the first to be held in The Academy’s newly expanded space that includes the buildings at both 2166 and 2164 Market Street and allows for ADA accessibility.

Emcee Donna Sachet and DJ Rockaway presented by Olivia Travel welcomed guests and introduced San Francisco Bay Times columnist and internationally known author Jewelle Gomez for opening remarks concerning the importance of leadership and the historic related roles of noted Black LGBTQ women.

Also introduced were San Francisco AIDS Foundation CEO Dr. Tyler TerMeer and National Center for Lesbian Rights’ Executive Director Imani Brown. They led the Roll Call of honorees that included the presentation of flowers and Black History Month custom-designed coaster sets created exclusively for the event by Fran Herman and Audry deLucia of ellaprint.

City of San Francisco District Attorney Brooke Jenkins, who made a special surprise appearance in celebration of the honorees,

The following women were among

Nettie Bonds

Youth Drop-In Coordinator, SF LGBT Center

Former Operations Manager, East Oakland Boxing Association

Imani Brown, M.N.A.

Principal Advisor, St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital

Board Member, Golden Gate Business Association

Susan Christian, J.D.

San Francisco Assistant District Attorney

Commissioner, San Francisco Human Rights Commission

Board Member and Former Co-Chair, Alice B. Toklas LGBT Democratic Club

Pamela Connie, LCSW

Program Manager, Human Service Agency of the City and County of San Francisco

Former Child Welfare Supervisor, City and County of San Francisco

Mimi Demissew

Executive Director, Our Family Coalition

Dawn Edwards

Vice President, Oakland LGBTQ Community Center Board

Director of Programs, Lotus Bloom Family Resource Center

Jewelle Gomez

Award-winning Author and Playwright

Former Commissioner, San Francisco Library Commission

San Francisco Bay Times Columnist

Former Director of Grants & Community Initiatives, Horizons Foundation

Imani Rupert-Gordon

Executive Director, National Center for Lesbian Rights

Former Executive Director, Affinity Community Services

Former Director, Howard Brown Health Center

Melanie Green & Melorra Green

Co-Executive Directors, African American Art & Culture Complex

2021 SF Pride Public Choice Community Grand Marshals

Sandy Holmes America Civil Liberties Union Former Senior Development Associate

Adasina Social Capital Former Chief Compliance Officer

Frameline Screening Committee Member

Renée Lubin

Singer, Actress, and Educator

Former Lead Performer, Beach Blanket Babylon

Jazz Choir Director and Vocal Coach, San Francisco State University

Janelle Luster

Vice President, San Francisco Pride Board of Directors

Transgender Activist and Program Supervisor, Trans Vision Board Member, Oakland Pridefest

Angelique Mahan

Community Engagement Lead, San Francisco Human Rights Commission

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expressed her appreciation on being in the presence of so many significant, gifted Black women leaders.

Offering musical tributes to the honorees were award-winning musician Dr. Dee Spencer (featured in the prior issue of the San Francisco Bay Times) and former Beach Blanket Babylon star Renée Lubin. The evening marked their second appearance together at a Divas & Drinks @ The Academy event. Hopefully it will not be their last, as their set earned enthusiastic applause for heartfelt performances of well-known songs such as the Aretha Franklin hit, “You Make Me Feel Like a Natural Woman.”

The event was co-produced by the San Francisco Bay Times and The Academy. Sponsors for the evening included Olivia Travel, Bacardí, Extreme Pizza, ellaprint, and the SF Federal Credit Union. Celebrity Cruises’ LaTonya Lawson was on hand to present a pair of unique gift bags featuring luxury Celebrity items. Custom items were also provided by the Golden State Warriors.

The San Francisco Bay Times extends special thanks to Gomez; Lisa Williams, who is a co-founder of both the Soul of Pride and the Bayard Rustin Coalition; and to Andrea Shorter, who is the former president of the San Francisco Commission on the Status of Women.

among those who were honored:

Pamela Peniston

Photographer, Pamela Peniston Photography

Founder and Retired Artistic Director, Queer Cultural Center

Retired Scenic Designer, ACT, Theatre Rhino, Lorraine Hansberry, and more

Di’ara Reid

Board Member, San Francisco Pride

Transgender Activist

Former Owner, Reid’s Records (which, until its closing in 2019, was one of the oldest Black owned and operated businesses in the Bay Area)

Karen Roye

Executive Director, City and County of San Francisco Department of Child Support Services

Former Senior Budget Analyst, City and County of San Francisco

Andrea Shorter

Former Commissioner and President, Commission on the Status of Women

San Francisco Bay Times Columnist

Former Senior Consultant, Young Women’s Freedom Center

Former Director of Community Relations, Out & Equal

Dr. Dee Spencer

Musician and Educator

Professor of Music, San Francisco State University

Founder, Program in Jazz Studies at San Francisco State University

Natalie Thompson

Director of Programs, SF LGBT Center

Director of Programs and Equity, Northwest Housing Alternatives

Darlene Underwood

Broker, Corcoran Realty

Manager, Noble Fields School of Real Estate

Former City of Oakland Firefighter and EMT

Lisa Williams

Executive Director, Soul of Pride

Former President, San Francisco Pride Board of Directors

Active Member: Bayard Rustin LGBT Coalition, Alice B. Toklas

LGBTQ Democratic Club, Black Women Organized for Political Action, Homeless Children’s Network, Rafiki Coalition for Health and Wellness, and the SF Mental Health Education Board.

Carolyn Wysinger

Councilmember, El Cerrito City Council

Vice President of Programs, El Cerrito Democratic Club

Former President, San Francisco Pride Board of Directors

San Francisco Bay Times Columnist

Judy Young, M.P.H.

Executive Director, UCSF National Center of Excellence in Women’s Health

Co-Chair, UCSF Department of Obstetrics, Gynecology, and Reproductive Sciences’ Diversity Committee

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One of our unsung heroes in the Bay Area is J. Antonio AguilarKarayianni, M.A. He has worked in a variety of health and service promotion agencies in San Francisco and has also extensively volunteered for many nonprofits. Antonio specializes in integrated mental health, substance abuse HIV/AIDS, and primary care in varied roles as project manager providing staff supervision and volunteer training.

His over 30 years of experience include doing outreach and recruitment, qualitative interviewing, and group facilitation as well as SpanishEnglish translation, networking, community building, editing, event planning, interpreting services, and creating curriculum modules. Antonio is very dedicated to his work for the community and strongly focuses on immigrant issues and monolingual Spanish speakers. He is passionate about mental health services, especially Expressive Arts therapy, support group facilitation, and psycho-educational workshops. His experience includes working inter-

nationally while building proverbial bridges for newcomers to the U.S.

Born in Guatemala, Antonio immigrated and obtained advanced academic degrees in the U.S. He is keenly aware of the unique challenges immigrants face and has dedicated his career to addressing those needs. He is one of the founding members of AGUILAS and has served in a variety of roles, including being a group intervention facilitator. He received his Master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco and has participated in a wide range of research efforts focused on Latinx individuals.

Issues of importance for Latinx

LGBTQ+ include the lack of utilizing critical thinking based on Latinx cultures. The poverty mentality and lack of constant, accessible role models are challenges for those who are Latinx, he believes. The divisiveness of the LGBTQ+ spectrum is typically dismissed by using a flippant attitude toward their own lives and experiences, especially after relationship break-ups and issues about our bodies and selves. Complicating these challenges is the apparent absence of a centralized, accessible, respectful, and kind immigrant navigation center in San Francisco for the daily influx who just arrived.

What motivates Antonio to be involved in Latinx LGBTQ+ issues?

He told me for the San Francisco Bay Times : “Latinx communities are quite complex, which is something that escapes most people who see us as an amorphous mass. Our needs are actually complex and constantly evolving, as are the social, political,

and environmental forces in our native countries, to mention a few. Based on my own experience as an immigrant trying my best to make a positive contribution to this society, but having no internal map to guide me or role models to emulate, I had to basically feel my way in the dark, hoping I wouldn’t make too many mistakes. I realized early on that nobody else was going to provide me with what I truly needed, as nobody else truly understood the journey that brought me here, or what I left behind, and why.” He chose from that point on to become a well-informed service provider, an activist, community organizer, and an advocate for disenfranchised groups among our multiple minority groups, such as for those who are indigenous, trans women, people without a basic education or who are unable to read/ write, and for people with mental health issues or other “invisible” challenges. These include being a recent immigrant, being a young queer man from Central America, professionals engaged in the political asylum process, and more. Pursuing a Master’s degree, he said, “was part of my constant effort to become a better man, to find daily satisfaction in my life choices, to continue to learn and expand my mind, and to be of service to others. Stepping into a leadership role has been a lifelong process of self-scrutiny, self-challenging, and self-care.”

Antonio is a great example of numerous unsung heroes who have contributed greatly to raising issues and to applying their professional training and careers for the betterment of Latinx marginalized individuals,

and especially those who identify as LGBTQ+. We are extremely fortunate to have Antonio here in our San Francisco community where we have collectively benefited from his many contributions.

Eduardo Morales, Ph.D. is a Professor Emeritus, retired Distinguished Professor, and current adjunct professor at Alliant International University. He is also a licensed psychologist and a founder and current Executive Director of AGUILAS, an award-winning program for Latinx LGBTQ+. Of Puerto Rican decent, he has received numerous distinguished awards and citations, including being named a Fellow of 12 divisions of the American Psychological Association.

Senator Dianne Feinstein’s Retirement Announced

Photos by Rink

Upon hearing Senator Dianne Feinstein’s announcement on February 14 of her intention to retire after completing her current term of office, San Francisco Bay Times lead photographer Rink decided to take a look back at images from her historic career.

their lover while walking in public. Considering that, even here in America, there are some places where two women or two men holding hands and showing affection might evoke a violent reaction, either verbally or physically, how is this a good measure, especially in more conservative locations? Is there a distinction made between urban and rural communities, where the latter might find less tolerance amid the townsfolk?

Just as we have our own little enclaves here in Provincetown, Greenwich Village, and West Hollywood, and as was likely during August in Prague, one might feel safe on the streets during Pride week. But, as recently as this past September, during EuroPride in Belgrade, the Serbian Prime Minister, Ana Brnabić, announced mere days before that the EuroPride march would not be allowed to take place. Tensions amid threats from far right and anti-gay groups had scaled up in the weeks preceding, until the Minister finally forbid the march over alleged “security concerns.” Thanks to LGBTQ+ protests, vociferous complaints, and a lot of lobbying, the march was allowed to happen, with a guarantee of police protection, and was conducted mostly peaceful and without incidence.

At the Pride Voices event one night in Prague, a showcase of five people relating their stories of growing up LGBTQ+ in challenging societal climates, you heard many of the same threads some of us experience everywhere: no support from parents, sometimes outright rejection; forced to be homeless and live on the street, making a living in underpaid and risky businesses, only to find a circle of friends that had become their chosen family, as they aimed for their dreams. The resources that many American cities have developed to help LGBTQ+ youth might still be expanding, but in a country where dictators and regressive rule once (or still today) exist, there is a long way to go in preventing suicide or other death of those estranged from the usual systems—and love.

More so, sitting down with these presenters after the performance, as they relaxed with what looked like awesome beers (I never got the hang of drinking them), we talked about how differently life is in Central and Eastern Europe than in the places most tourists identify simply as “Europe.” Systemic racism exists, even amid the various white-appearing races of the Slavs. Many of those countries and Pride organizations bordering on or near Ukraine are actively engaged in providing aid to those displaced, helping physically or financially, and this is in addition to both their livelihoods and planning their local Pride events. One young woman described the steps she has to go through to procure much needed medication for Ukrainian Trans military members, whose supply had been cut off by Putin and Russian forces. The word subterfuge came to mind, and I just shook my head in amazement.

We talk about “putting our lives on the line” for the cause in the U.S., mostly by going to protests and demonstrations where there might be the anticipation of violence, but here, almost 6,000 miles away, I was sitting with living examples of Pride organizers who were literally risking everything to help their chosen kin off in a ravaged country struggling to remain independent. Some of them were slipping over borders to deliver much needed funds or medication into secure hands. I was still awed by this information when, a day later, I headed to a historic section of Prague to meet Tom and

Julia, and other friends I had made, at the step-off point for the Pride Prague Parade.

All Pride parades might seem a little similar, people milling about as they line up, more rainbows and rainbow flags, colorful garb, fancy face painting, and signs (many of which I could not read). In Prague, they did not allow vehicles in their Parade, which was an immediate difference. But the lack of floats did not diminish the message, or the music! Many were inventive with bicycles, carts, wagons, or hand trucks carrying generators and sound equipment or small karaoke systems.

While groups did have their own banners, each themed section of the Parade was heralded by a numbered sign and designation. Sponsors and businesses were set apart. Political groups marched, as did groups of kink and fetish. There were families, educational institutions, etc. Rather than a mix throughout the whole Parade, sections were arranged by affinity. I followed some of the marchers toward the festival, but the skies were turning gray and threatening, and I had an early train to Vienna to catch in the morning. So, I took one more look around at the city that had become so familiar before heading back to my hotel and my last regional meal.

What was doubly important to me during this trip was the long history of Judaism and Jewish people of Prague (and Eastern Europe) that I explored in between the Conference and the Parade. I come from family now represented by Moldova, Ukraine, Russia, Poland, and Vienna, places that once folded into Bessarabia. This was as close to the home of my people I was likely to get. Alas, my poor planning left me with only the Sabbath to tour the remaining original neighborhood. But I was able to gaze upon facades of synagogues, apartment buildings constructed with Jewish stars impressed into building flourishes and on wrought iron gates or balconies.

It has been found that as early as the 10th century, Jews lived in Prague, and at one point one-quarter of the population of Czechoslovakia was Jewish. But during the period of Nazi occupation, almost the whole population of the city was eradicated, either through poor conditions or extermination in the various camps and ghettos. This was sobering to reflect upon, as the next morning, my train hurtled toward Vienna, passing fields of Jerusalem artichokes, round stover hay bales, and tall hills along the southern part of the country. It did make me ponder some of the parallels between both cultures I’d taken in on this trip, and whether both would be pushed back into darker times than they currently experience. And I thought, is time turning in America, or does the LGBTQ+ community have enough fight within them to keep pushing forward? Funny how a visit far away made me want to become engaged more at home. While it’s fun to party with my friends, my time is better spent volunteering to make things better, even if for just one person.

Marsha H. Levine (she/they/ey) is the Community Relations Manager at San Francisco Pride, of which they have been a consistent member for more than 37 years. Marsha also founded InterPride, the International Association of LGBTQ+ Pride Coordinators, in October 1982, and currently serves as one of their Vice Presidents of Global Outreach & Partnership Management.

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When “the final batter flied out,” reported the San Francisco Chronicle, “the two teams rushed toward each other and shook hands in the center of the diamond.” It seemed that relations between the community and the police would only keep improving, especially after the Consenting Adult Sex Bill, which legalized same-sex intimacy in California, had been signed into law by Governor Jerry Brown the previous May.

Two years later, San Francisco hosted the first Gay Softball World Series. The Badlands, playing a composite team that represented New York City’s Big Apple League, won the best of three series. In a win off the field, Irene became a member of the Parks and Recreation Department’s Softball Commission, but the community’s forward movement did not stop there. In a victory for us all, Milk was elected to the Board of Supervisors.

The Gay Softball World Series has been held every year since, but the San Francisco softballers met police on a baseball diamond only one more time, in 1978, before taking a hiatus of 44 years. After the murders of Milk and Moscone, the travesty of their assassin’s trial and the White Night Riots that followed—when gay protesters burned police cars parked at City Hall and police retaliated with a violent raid on the Elephant Walk at 18th and Castro streets—no one was interested.

“‘No way I’d play against those guys after what happened’ was the consensus yesterday among cops who were asked if they’d appear this year,” Herb Caen reported in his June 6, 1979, column. The gay community felt the same way. Newly appointed Chief of Police Con Murphy tried to revive the game in 1980, but nothing happened. Players from the Gay Softball League and the Police Department did not face each other on the diamond again until the “Cops versus Queers” game in 2012.

Meanwhile, gay softball in San Francisco thrived. Now with 60 teams and more than a thousand players in four divisions, the city’s softball league is the largest in the country, providing our community’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender residents with the opportunity to participate in the other “National Pastime” at whatever level of ability and experience they have. Their next opportunity to play in the Gay Softball World Series will be August 28–September 2, 2023, in Minneapolis.

Bill Lipsky, Ph.D., author of “Gay and Lesbian San Francisco” (2006), is a member of the Rainbow Honor Walk board of directors.

team, so everyone looked to me to do it ... the guy who knows nothing about the game.

I did my best, but I didn’t know how to do a lineup or substitutions or much of anything. I had a lot of personalities who knew how to “do it better” but none of them wanted to take the responsibility. So, needless to say, I pissed off a few players because I didn’t know how to substitute them into the game, so they could play. And I didn’t know how to sub out my short-stop who showed up drunk to the game. It was a nightmare.

After that game, the team wanted a meeting at the CCC to discuss the events of the game. It got ugly and about 5 players quit the team. I started to think that having a sober team was not such a great idea and told myself that I would just try to get the remainder of the team through the season, and I did. During that season I was on the fast track to learning all there was to know about the rules of the game, the responsibilities and skills needed for each position, and a lot about managing players.

I got a break in our fundraising efforts when one of the members of the CCC, a Sister of Perpetual Indulgence, told me that the CCC softball team should challenge the Sisters to a softball game as a fundraising event. We did. It was so much fun. The Sisters cheated and everyone had a great time. We sold a BBQ hotdog, chips, and a can of soda for $5 for a small profit, and the Sisters passed the bucket for direct donations. We raised over $600 that day, which was enough to register the team for a second season, buy a few bats and bases, and practice field time.

But, in our very last game of our first season, I had only 8 players. You need a minimum of 9 to play, otherwise you forfeit the game. I didn’t want our last game to be a forfeit, so I begged an injured player, who just came to watch his team play, to be in the game and he agreed. We still lost, but we lost while swinging. After that last game, the division representative came up to me and asked me if the sober team would be in the playoffs. My response was, “There’s more?” He told me it was voluntary and I told him that I would put it to the team and take a vote, expecting the team to say “no.” I was stunned when they said “yes.”

Playoffs were “double elimination.” We played 2, lost 2, and were eliminated and the season was over. After our playoff games, the team looked at me and asked me if we would have a team for next season ... (what?!). I wanted to say, “Hell no,” but what I said was, “If we have enough interested players to make a team, then I will register a team.” For the next 16 years, we had and continue to have many such interested players.

Over those 16 years there have been over 260 players that have played on the sober team. I served on the San Francisco Gay Softball League board, coached 7 teams, created 9 new teams, and had so many fun times.

I’m proud to say that I played a part in it all and all I had to do was say, “Yes, I’ll try.”

Anthony “Tony” Robbins is a former San Francisco Gay Softball League official and coach. He is the founder of the league’s Cougar teams.

creating change

The National LGBTQ Task Force’s annual Creating Change conference was held, for the first time ever, in San Francisco. The conference took place from February 17–21, 2023, at the Hilton San Francisco. Upon arrival, participants were greeted by streams of rainbow colors installed on the interior steps leading from the hotel’s main entrance into the main lobby.

The conference’s opening plenary included acknowledgement of the Task Force’s 50th Anniversary and the opening keynote was presented by gay historian and author Eric Marcus.

Introduced by emcee Sandra Valls, Task Force Executive Director, Kierra Johnson delivered the annual State of the Movement address, noting the overturn of Roe v. Wade as well as issues related to the 2022 midterm elections and both challenges and opportunities ahead.

Bay Area activists were featured in multiple sessions throughout the conference, with Jeopardy! champion Amy Schneider’s session during Gayme Night being among the most memorable.

San Francisco Bay Times columnist Joanie Juster acknowledged the significance of the Exhibit Area at the conference where organizations from throughout the U.S. were represented and offered information about their programs and advocacy.

Juster also commented on the general session on Sunday, February 19, featuring a panel with four women of color: Johnson, gun control activist X. González, Nadine Bridges from One Colorado, and Beverly Tillery from the NYC Anti-Violence Project.

To learn more about the conference’s diverse program: http://www.thetaskforce.org

Imperial Voting Day 2023

Each year, prior to the annual Coronation event, the Imperial Council of San Francisco holds the Imperial Voting Day when the election of the next Emperor and Empress occurs. Leaders and volunteers support the organization on Voting Day by staffing voting stations. The voting is held in three locations: Polk Street at The Cinch Saloon, SOMA at The Powerhouse on Folsom Street, and the Castro at the Castro Muni Station. Voting is open to all residents of San Francisco, Marin, and San Mateo Counties with a photo ID required. A one vote per person regulation is upheld. San Francisco Bay Times photographers Rink and Bill Wilson provided images from the Polk and Castro campaign and voting locations on Saturday, February 18. Campaigns represented were those of Cameron Stiehl-Munro, candidate for Empress; and Michael Chua, candidate for Emperor.

The Reigning Emperor Brent Daddy Munro and Empress Ehra Amaya will crown the new Emperor and Empress at Coronation 58, Rise of the Golden Gods, to be held at the Hyatt Regency San Francisco Downtown on Saturday, February 25. For information on the schedule of preceding events and tickets: https://tinyurl.com/48uxntsc

February’s Divas & Drinks at The Academy honored Black History Month by recognizing Black female leaders in San Francisco and, as it turns out, they are not hard to find. Over 20 outstanding individuals were announced and given our appreciation, demonstrating a dynamic force that is changing this city incredibly. Speaking that night were celebrated published author Jewelle Gomez, CEO of the SF AIDS Foundation Dr. Tyler TerMeer, National Center for Lesbian Rights Executive Director Imani Rupert-Gordan, and SF District Attorney Brooke Jenkins. We remember Michelle Obama talking about growing up without role models who looked like her, but this was a night to reflect on how much has changed, offering Black girls everywhere multiple images of successful Black women and giving hope where little existed before. Each guest received a complimentary raffle ticket and LaTonya Lawson of Celebrity Cruises drew the winning ticket, awarding the winner with a package of luxurious items from her company. This was one of the first times we have used the new annex to The Academy, giving guests more room to move around, but still providing access to the rest of the club, including the inviting patio. With the addition of a grand piano, this room was perfect for the musical treat of singer Renée Lubin, accompanied by Dr. Dee Spencer. They performed three planned numbers, but were persuaded to add an encore, much to the delight of all assembled. Such a full schedule forced the postponement of our usual Name That Tune game, but DJ Rockaway once again provided great music into the night. We’ll be back on Friday, March 24, with the next Divas & Drinks, a monthly party produced by the San Francisco Bay Times and The Academy that has developed a loyal clientele with its topical themes, crowd-pleasing music, enthusiastic conviviality, and thought-provoking programming.

The Richmond-Ermet Aid Foundation offered another wonderful one-night-only fundraising cabaret on Monday, February 13, this time with the touring cast of Mean Girls. We are always amazed at the dedication of the casts of these shows to come out on their one dark night of the week to raise money, on this night for REAF and Broadway Cares/Equity Fights AIDS. It must be a treat for them to perform music not from their Broadway show and many of the selections that night were lesser known, but thoroughly entertaining. Such voices and such heart! The show was co-emceed by the hilarious Shawn Ryan and our local diva D’Arcy Drollinger, each of whom performed their own musical number, decked out in eye-popping pink. A short, but lively, auction after the intermission added handsomely to the proceeds for the night.

After the show at the Marines’ Memorial Theatre, VIP guests enjoyed a reception in the lobby with cast members and cocktails swimmingly served by local favorite bartenders Ken Ferraris & Matt McClelland. Among the familiar faces were Joel Goodrich, Mark Calvano, LaTonya Lawson, Beth Schnitzer, Carol Batte, Lawrence Helman, Ludmilla Kisseleva, Lawrence Wu, John Zowine, and Lawrence Wong. It was great to catch up with Ken Henderson & Joe Seiler, who now live in Palm Springs and in addition to continuing these popular events in San Francisco, have begun to host house parties in the desert with great success. Their winning formula of treating guests to well-known singers performing while raising money for great causes seems to have no limit!

We hope you have made your plans for the 58th annual Imperial Coronation weekend! Most events are listed in our adjacent calendar and all of them at the Imperial Council of SF website ( https://www.sfimperialcouncil.org/ ). This is your time to shine, when no jewelry is too bold, no gown too elaborate, and no formality too grand, as we celebrate another successful year of fundraising and community engagement led by Emperor Brent Daddy Munro & Empress Ehra Amaya.

We particularly look forward to several production numbers celebrating anniversaries of Emperors and Empresses; they always bring back warm memories of friends and experiences. After sensational entertainment, multiple awards, spectacular promenades, and time-honored pageantry, the results of last Saturday’s public voting will be announced and we’ll crown the new Emperor & Empress of San Francisco. Candidate for Emperor Michael Anthony Chua and candidate for Empress Cameron StiehlMunro worked hard to secure your votes and we wish them a successful night. Don’t forget the Imperial Court of San Francisco is the Founding, Mother Court, giving birth over these past many decades to over 70 chapters across Canada, the United States, and Mexico. If Our Beloved Founder José Sarria could only see how far we’ve come!

Donna Sachet is a celebrated performer, fundraiser, activist, and philanthropist who has dedicated over two decades to the LGBTQ Community in San Francisco. Contact her at empsachet@gmail.

“We, Norton I, do hereby decree that the offices of President, Vice President, and Speaker of the House of Representatives are, from and after this date, abolished.”

–Emperor Joshua Norton on December 21, 1862

Thursday, February 23

Anniversary Monarchs’ Reception

Honoring anniversary celebrants, including Emperors Fred Lewis, Michael Parsons, John Weber, Drew Cutler, & Leandro Gonzales and Empresses Alexis Miranda, Snatch, Cher a Little, Patty McGroin, and Pollo del Mar The HaRa Club, 875 Geary Street 6:30–8:30 pm Free!

Friday, February 24

Out-of-Town Show

Entertainment by visiting courtiers Hyatt Regency SOMA, 50 Third Street 7 pm $25

Saturday, February 25

Imperial Coronation 58: Rise of the Golden Gods

Step-down of Emperor Brent Daddy Munro & Empress Ehra Amaya

Crowning of new Emperor & Empress

Hyatt Regency SF Downtown SOMA, 50 Third Street

Doors at 5 pm $70

www.sfimperialcouncil.org

Sunday, February 26

Annual Pilgrimage to Colma

Hosted by Brotherhood of Emperors, emceed by Donna Sachet

SF Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band Woodlawn Cemetery Bus departs Hyatt Regency at 8 am 9 am Free!

Sunday, February 26

Victory Brunch

Hyatt Regency SOMA, 50 Third Street 11:30 am $30

JUSTER (continued from pg 6) deemed controversial or “inappropriate” for young readers.

I can’t possibly keep up with all the bad news coming out of Florida, but fortunately there are others who do. Two worth following (and supporting): The Florida Freedom to Read Project and PEN America. Both are fighting hard on the front lines of intellectual freedom for all of us, and deserve our support. Contact: https://www.pen.org

Thanking a Generation of Strong Women Leaders

For well over 30 years, California, and the Bay Area in particular, has been represented in Washington by a remarkable string of powerful, fearless women. That political landscape is now shifting, as some of our longest-serving representatives have announced major life and career changes. Barbara Boxer, who retired from the Senate in 2017, was succeeded by Kamala Harris, who went on to become Vice President. Jackie Speier, who most recently represented the 14th Congressional District, retired from her long career in public office as of the 2022 election. Nancy Pelosi is still representing San Francisco in Congress, a role she has held for over 35 years, but recently stepped down from her historic leadership role as Speaker of the House. And the most recent announcement came when Senator Dianne Feinstein

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announced that she will not run for reelection in 2024, ending her storied political career that began in San Francisco’s Board of Supervisors, then Mayor, then over 30 years in the Senate.

Together, these changes create a seismic shift in the political landscape, while also opening up opportunities for a new generation of leaders to emerge. But as each of these women moves on to new phases of their lives and careers, it is worth taking time to thank them for their service. Whether you always agreed with them or not (and who ALWAYS agrees with our elected leaders?), acknowledge that they have shaped history. They have each spent decades opening doors, shattering glass ceilings, creating pathways, and inspiring others. Each of these women stepped up to serve during a time when that was not easy for women to do so. They all fought misogyny and patriarchy and bias day after day, and made enormous personal sacrifices in order to change the culture and make life better for the next generation. They deserve our respect, and our thanks.

Neighbors Need Our Help

February 24 marks the first anniversary of the invasion of Ukraine by Russia. During this past year, countless Ukrainians have been killed, maimed, or left homeless, cities and towns left in ruins, industries destroyed, worldwide

So, what’s the ultimate takeaway? Merging finances is about more than money. By choosing to combine your financial lives, you’re saying that you’re ready to deepen your commitment to your partner. You’re making each other a priority. And that is an act of true love.

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words of one speaker were “suffocating” and in need of clean air to breathe.

One of the last speakers, a queer sex-worker activist, brought it back to Arai’s words themselves in a very personal way. Speaking to Aria rhetorically, they said: “Would you feel disgust if you saw me? ... I wouldn’t look with disgust at you.”

The Associated Press reported that the day after the press conference, U.S. Ambassador to Japan Rahm Emanuel weighed in, expressing “’full confidence’” that the Japanese government will take the necessary steps to ban discrimination against LGBTQ people.” The pressure is on. The eyes of the world will turn to Japan when the nation hosts the annual G7 Summit in Hiroshima in May. There’s no time to waste for equality.

John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney, together for over three decades, were plaintiffs in the California case for equal marriage rights decided by the California Supreme Court in 2008. Their leadership in the grassroots organization Marriage Equality USA contributed in 2015 to making same-sex marriage legal nationwide.

food supplies disrupted, and much, much more. And for what?

I can’t answer that question. But what is clear is that Ukraine still needs our help; sadly, there is no end to this conflict in sight.

Meanwhile, last month a magnitude 7.8 earthquake caused unfathomable destruction across Turkey and Syria, killing over 42,000 people and leaving at least 2.4 million homeless, and 24 million affected. Entire cities crumbled to rubble. Those who managed to survive have absolutely nothing left. And for many of them, help isn’t coming fast enough, due to geopolitical barriers.

All these people are our fellow human beings, our neighbors, and they need our help.

There are many organizations helping with the relief efforts in Ukraine, Turkey, Syria, and other areas devastated by war and natural disasters. Two of the most effective are World Central Kitchen and Doctors Without Borders. Please help if you can. Even better, make it monthly; I guarantee your gift will be needed next month, too.

https://tinyurl.com/WCKGive https://tinyurl.com/DWB2023

Joanie Juster is a long-time community volunteer, activist, and ally.

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from other lawsuits, divorce, bankruptcy, and other creditors, including long term care costs.

A Living Trust is not an ordinary document. It is a legal document. How an Attorney Supports You to Create a Living Trust

We have discussed some of the benefits of the Living Trust, but as you saw, the word correctly appeared a lot. It is all about creating the document correctly so your plan works the way you want it to and protects your legacy. Not every Living Trust will provide all the benefits we listed. Each person’s situation is unique and only a qualified estate planning attorney will know how to identify, counsel you through, and incorporate these benefits and protections into your plan. A D.I.Y Living Trust could save money now, but cost your family thousands in the future. This is not even mentioning the added stress and anxiety. You may even leave behind unnecessary debts or taxes that will need to be paid.

If you were to die today, are you comfortable that everything will be taken care of the way you wanted? It is always best to consult an experienced estate planning attorney. This will ensure the best way to accomplish your goals and protect your assets.

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It is common to start your planning journey without knowing every detail you wish to include. This is why it is so important to start the process so you can share your goals with loved ones. We look forward to hearing from you!

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Jay Greene, Attorney, CPA, is the founder of Greene Estate, Probate, & Elder Law Firm based in San Francisco, and is focused on helping LGBT individuals, couples, and families plan for their future, protect their assets, and preserve their wealth. For more information and to schedule an assessment, visit: https://assetprotectionbayarea.com/

for a rightwing source, but this writer, Jamie Reed, claimed to be a “queer woman” married to a transgender man who totally supports GLBT rights but could not in good conscience carry on working at this careless facility without taking action.

Say what?!

I was preparing to reread the piece and consider how I would write about it, when I saw that Reed is now represented by Vernadette Broyles, a lawyer who has not only worked for the anti-GLBT Alliance Defending Freedom but also founded the virulently anti-trans Child and Parental Rights Campaign. Another Campaign-affiliated lawyer is also helping Reed, according to an article in the St. Louis Post Dispatch. It’s not clear why Reed has picked up lawyers, but she is now knee deep in Missouri rightwing politics, as lawmakers consider several anti-trans proposals.

Indeed, the timing of her explosive article (in the online publication The Free Press) is suspect. According to the Post Dispatch, Missouri lawmakers heard emotional testimony from trans kids and their parents at a hearing on several bills that would outlaw hormone therapy and other treatments. The testimony was reportedly compelling and the outcome of the hearing was in doubt. Two weeks later, conservatives were waving Reed’s essay about and the bills passed out of committee on a 7–4 vote. Reed has also notified the state attorney general about her concerns and Josh Hawley has introduced a bill in the Senate called the “Protecting Our Kids from Child Abuse Act,” prohibiting federal funds for gender clinics that serve minors and allowing clients to sue hospitals or universities affiliated with gender clinics.

The clinic where Reed worked from 2018 to 2022 was the Washington University Transgender Center at St. Louis Children’s Hospital. It is under investigation and has launched its own inquiry. I’ll be interested in their conclusions.

Grey Areas

I intended to look closely at the brouhaha that developed at The New York Times over the last week or so, but I just could not bring myself to reread various letters to the editors and complaints and statements. The gist of it is that my favorite newspaper published several comments, including a piece in defense of J K Rowling, who in turn is another subject I avoid out of sheer indifference. People accused the Times of being transphobic and others accused the accusers of being overly woke and the matter escalated.

I said earlier that transgender issues were complex, and they are. So are matters of gender, race, and sexual orientation. We should be able to talk about ourselves with a degree of nuance. We should be able to acknowledge unusual phenomena without shutting down communication. There are people who stop being gay or regret transitioning. There are Black racists, homophobic gays, misogynistic women. You can be an ally of the transgender community without using strained terms like “people who menstruate” or “chest feeding.”

We should also be able to wonder why we’ve seen a sudden surge in girls with gender dysphoria as well as girls with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts. What’s going on? Is it social media? The articles I’ve read suggest that this is a serious upheaval, not just a case of generational growing pains. If there are destructive underlying factors in society, how are they impacting girls’ sense of gender? Or are they? Some of the studies I’ve seen don’t show a significant gap between boys and girls. Meanwhile, several studies indicate that teens and preteens of both genders are more likely to be trans than older cohorts. Is that increasing social acceptance? Culture? Just a different generation?

And what percentage of preteen and early teen kids are just trying it on, whether “it” is being trans, non-binary, or gay? There’s nothing wrong with that; it’s what childhood is for. But it’s also a stage when irreversible treatments are not appropriate. Puberty blockers are not irreversible, but they have side effects like every other serious medication and they should be carefully prescribed and monitored.

Are these topics off limits? They shouldn’t be. As for The New York Times, if I had a dollar for every Times op-ed I disagreed with I’d be a rich woman. David Brooks? Bret Stephens? I do my best to plow through their smug opinions regardless of my disapproval. Every six months or so, I’ll actually agree with something they write.

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The 21st, 22nd, 23rd, and 24th Royal Houses

Colors: none

Symbol: Black lady

Coronation Theme: “Russia and all that Jazz - A Troupe Thru the 40s”

Celebrating

When a candidate campaigns to become a Grand Duke or Grand Duchess, there is always a representation of colors that allows voters to know whom they are voting for. In most cases, candidates will also have a “catchphrase” and a coronation theme for their step-down. Here is a look back at what those were from 1993–1997.

1993–1994

The 21st Royal House of United Friendship

Grand Duke XX Will Sweet (deceased)

Colors: none

Symbol: white lion

Grand Duchess XXI Ro Flack Franklin (deceased)

In 1993, the corporation was reestablished and the 21st Royal House included the first monarchs to reign under the new bylaws. This new corporation as well as the bylaws helped to elevate the then 20-year organization into a legal entity. This all happened through the dedicated efforts of Alex Romanoff and Diva La Fever. We will learn more about these two in future issues.

1994–1995

The 22nd Royal House of Pork and Beans

Grand Duke XXI Frank Stevens

Colors: pink, silver, black

Symbol: pig

Always saying: “Joey, where are your teeth?”

Grand Duchess XXII Joey (deceased)

Colors: fuchsia, purple, and gold

Symbol: golden fawn

Always saying: “Well, another day”

Coronation Theme: “Russia Space Station the Year 2221 - The Masquerade Ball”

I spoke with Grand Duke Frank Stevens about his reign and he shared, “One of my favorite memories was Easter Sunday at the Eagle and Empress Marlena was supposed to be one of the auctioneers. No Marlena, then this big huge rabbit hopped on stage. I didn’t know who the heck it was. They grabbed the microphone and it was Marlena. She blew everybody away. It was a great time that day. I love her for that!”

Stevens added, “The backbone of our court that year was Empress Marlena, Empress Ginger, Grand Duchess Susie Wong, and our sweet Grand Duchess Davita Ashton. My saying that year was, ‘Joey where’s your teeth?’ They were always in her plastic bag she always carried! Bless her heart. I miss her so much.”

1995–1996

The 23rd Royal House of Unity and Trust

Grand Duke XXII Don Woods (deceased)

Colors: blue and silver

Symbol: diamond chip

Always saying: “Just try it.”

Grand Duchess XXIII Renita Valdez

Colors: red, gold, purple

Symbol: burrito bombshell

Always saying: “What’s your point?”

Coronation Theme: “All aboard the Orient Express from St. Petersburg to San Francisco”

Grand Duke Don Woods would go on after serving as Grand Duke to help establish the Alameda Ducal Court. Don served as Royal Grand Duke of Alameda in several reigns and remained active until his passing.

It is also noted that during his reign the Royal Baby Contest was started.

Grand Duchess Renita Valdez is an active member of the Grand Ducal Council and continues to perform and raise funds for both the Council of Grand Duke and Duchess of San Francisco and the Mother Court of The Imperial Council of San Francisco.

1996–1997

The 24th Royal House of Harmony and Strength

Grand Duke XXIII Gail Wood

(deceased)

Colors: purple and gold

Symbol: Russian bear

Always saying: “I love you, Tiger.”

Grand Duchess: XXIV Tiger Lily

Colors: red, gold, and purple

Symbol: tiger

Coronation: “A Night at the Russian Circus”

On September 22, 2023, the Grand Ducal Council of San Francisco will celebrate 50 years of Camp and Fundraising. The celebration will take place at the Academy of Sciences in San Francisco. Please consider becoming a sponsor.

Inquiries: 50thanniversary@sfducal.org

Tickets ($60) will go on sale from March 1, 2023–August 25, 2023, with a hard stop on that final date. Save the dates then both for your ticket purchases and for this once-in-a-lifetime historic event!

https://www.sfducal.org/

Kippy Marks is Grand Duke XL of The Grand Ducal Council of San Francisco. He is the first ever elected African-American Grand Duke.

Disney Pride at Davies, View the Oscars at the Orinda Theatre, and a Movie That’s So Bad It’s Good

take. I am a sucker for The Little Mermaid. These songs and others bring out the childhood wonder in me.”

“I grew up in Wisconsin and spent the last six years in Indiana,” he continued. “I found community there, but this place [San Francisco] is magic. I love the Emerald City and the people I have met here. It’s a dream come true, the arts and culture and amazing people.”

Off the Wahl

Jan Wahl

We all have a favorite Disney song or movie. Our childhoods are full of them. For me, one of my favorite songs is “When You Wish Upon a Star” from Pinocchio. Coincidently, that is just the number the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus (SFGMC) will be starting and ending with at their concert Disney Pride at Davies Symphony Hall on March 16 and March 17.

It is impossible to replace the former SFGMC director Dr. Tim Seelig, my fellow San Francisco Bay Times columnist and friend. He is irreplaceable and alive and well in the beautiful state of Oregon, although he is never far away from all of us. The Chorus has a new Artistic Director, Jacob Stensberg. He loves him some Disney music, too!

Stensberg told me for the San Francisco Bay Times: “I love the music from Hercules because it speaks to the journey of the unknown we all

He added, “Get ready for our July 19 show on the Yellow Brick Roads: The Wizard of Oz, The Wiz, Elton, and Wicked. Hope to see you all at Disney Pride at Davies March 16 and 17. The SFGMC website has all the info.” https://www.sfgmc.org/welcome/

In other entertainment news, it is possible to have a fabulous time watching the Oscar telecast Sunday, March 12. Take two Oscar history experts (yours truly and Derek Zemrak), mix in a big screen in a classic Art Deco theatre, and slowly add great food and drinks. Sift through boring commercials with me on the microphone doing Oscar scandal trivia for cool movie prizes. Devour a terrific night at the Oscars; so much better than staying home!

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I truly love this 1941 East Bay theatre, restored fully to its historical glory and glamour. The murals, sound system, opulent side rooms, smaller theatre, and comfortable lobby are all first rate in this updated Art Deco treasure. For a fifty-dollar

ticket, this Oscar Gala is a fundraiser, helping this gorgeous place to flourish. Owner/Operator Derek Zemrak told me: “With independent theatres closing, our historic theatre also keeps alive Art Deco and architectural details—from the red-carpet arrival with paparazzi, ballots, personal Oscar acceptance speeches (haven’t you always wanted to?), commemorative champagne flutes, and full bar with comfort food.” Go to https://www.orindamovies.com/ Get ready for the big show by viewing one of the worst movies ever made. It is so bad it is good! 1966 is the year of The Oscar, starring Stephen Boyd, Elke Sommer, Jill St. John, Eleanor Parker, and Joseph Cotton. The best cast member is Tony Bennett in his only non-singing role, as Hymie Kelly, who is the best friend to the star.

Boyd plays that big movie star, named Frank Fane, who hopes he is about to hear his name called as winner of the Best Actor Oscar. Hymie tells Frank’s story in flashback as this ruthless, gorgeous heel claws his way to the gold. Based on the 1963 novel of the same name by Richard Sales, the film features still more actual stars including Ernest Borgnine, Milton Berle, Merle Oberon, and another Frankie: Sinatra.

A number of years ago I interviewed the divine Mr. Bennett. I just had to ask him about this film, knowing he would either walk out on the interview or laugh about it. Fortunately, he smiled at the memory and said, “What a stinker! I won a Golden Turkey Award as worst pop singer ever in a movie. Yeah. A stinker.” I wouldn’t go that far, Tony. The film is defiantly camp fun and is perfect for getting you in the Oscar mood.

Jan Wahl is a Hollywood historian, film critic on various broadcast outlets, and has her own YouTube channel series, “Jan Wahl Showbiz.” She has two Emmys and many awards for her longtime work on behalf of film buffs and the LGBTQ community. Contact her at www.janwahl.com

Carter Smith Talks About His Unsettling

Queer Thriller Swallowed Film

Out gay filmmaker Carter Smith delivers on the promise of his unnerving 2006 short Bugcrush with his latest feature, Swallowed, now available on demand. (It became available on demand on Valentine’s Day, but this is definitely not a date film!)

Ben (out actor Cooper Koch, from They/Them) is readying to leave Maine to pursue a career in adult films in Los Angeles. His buddy Dom (newcomer Jose Colon) wants to send him off in style—and with some cash. On their way home from a club, Dom detours to meet with Alice (Jena Malone), who will pay him to smuggle “drugs” across the Canadian border. But things get murky fast; Alice orders both Dom and Benjamin at gunpoint to swallow some sachets.

While the guys must “deliver” the goods quickly, circumstances at a rendezvous point go sideways, prompting Alice to take Ben and Dom—the latter sans pants—to a cabin where her boss Rich (out actor Mark Patton) is waiting for the sachets. What Ben and Dom don’t know is that the “parcels” are bugs, not drugs.

Smith ratchets up the tension as things get increasingly more uncomfortable for Ben and Dom. Smith spoke with me for the San Francisco Bay Times about his fabulous, squirminducing new film.

Gary M. Kramer: In both Swallowed and Bugcrush , an innocent gay man is lured into some very unpleasant territory by men they are attracted to. What is the appeal of dangerous boys?

Carter Smith: In Bugcrush, it was dealing with more of an innocent high school crush. In Swallowed, I wanted to explore what a more adult friendship might look like. These guys have found ways to have a friendship and a relationship that didn’t have to be sexual. It worked for them. Dom is the gentle giant, and it is just the circumstances of the situations that spiral them into this more dangerous world. Dom hasn’t done this in the past. His intentions are good. He’s not out to hurt Benjamin. It’s a simpler and sweeter relationship. There is something in their power dynamic—and it’s not only in gay relationships—this idea when you have a crush on someone [as Ben does], you make choices that are not always the best choices, and it can be a little bit blinding.

Gary M. Kramer: The film is shot in a style that is both very intimate and very isolating. Can you talk about your visual approach to the material?

Carter Smith: From the script stage, there was this intimacy built into the story—and how grotesquely intimate the story becomes. I liked exploring how close these two guys can get in the worst possible/most intimate way. The way the closeup looks in 4:3 aspect ratio, which is a more square and less traditional shooting format, allows you to fill a frame with a face. Once things do go horribly wrong, I wanted to be

more on the characters’ faces than shoot wider on what’s actually happening. It would be a more interesting expression of what they are going through than showing what is actually happening.

Gary M. Kramer: Indeed! It’s so effective—and much worse—to imagine. Can you talk about the “extraction” scene, which is rather uncomfortable?

Carter Smith: I wanted to put these two characters—and by this point in Swallowed, you understand the dynamic of Ben and Jose’s relationship—and put them in this horrific situation that is intensely intimate in the worst possible way. I wanted it to play super-intimate and be romantic, but in a way that completely pulled the rug out from under you.

Gary M. Kramer: What are your thoughts about the ethical issues presented in Swallowed ? There is not just the criminality of the characters’ actions, but the situations they are forced into against their will. The film asks viewers, “What would you do?” which is what makes it so involving.

Carter Smith: No one really knows what they would do if a gun is pulled on them. I certainly don’t. That was one element that was important to introduce. Ben has a choice to an extent, but in his perception, he doesn’t have a choice. Most of us will stop putting up a fight and do what we’re told. Then he has to deal with the consequence of that and picking up pieces and dealing with the aftermath. What Alice does—in forcing them—is not OK. Both her and Rich are versions of a villain that we don’t see a whole lot of. She has a soothing soft voice that delivers those no-b.s. lines. She is intimidating. Her character was fun to track.

Gary M. Kramer: Rich camps things up when he enters the film, which made me consider the portrayal of the gay characters. Ben is presenting himself authentically and without shame. Dom is a bit more heteroflexible but also selfassured. Can you talk about these different flavors of queer sexuality and your presentation of them?

Carter Smith: I like the idea of having a villain that has some camp, and some bravado and showmanship in him, but those were the skills it took for Rich to become the successful backwoods drug lord

he is. You can’t be shy or self-conscious to do that. I liked the idea that he is part predator, but he is also kind of part wounded survivor. There is something interesting about what his character probably went through to get to where he is when we meet him. I liked the idea of him being someone a lot of gay guys have met.

I think there is something interesting about Rich and Ben both being queer characters; that isn’t normally the case. I felt OK making Rich into what he was, because he is the flip

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Charles Derby: Changing the Landscape of Hawaii

and a new blaze of spangles,” among others.

Charles Warren Stoddard, San Francisco’s lavender “boy poet,” made his first journey to Hawaii in 1864 when he was 21. One afternoon, “lounging at Whitney’s bookstore” in Honolulu, “fumbling the shop-worn books,” he saw “a slender but well-proportioned gentleman [enter], clad in white linen raiment, spotless and well starched.” However likeminded men know each other, Stoddard discerned that “there was something about him which would have caused the most casual observer to give him a second glance—a mannerism and an air that distinguished him.”

A few moments later, “upon the entrance of a common friend,” he made the acquaintance of Charles Derby, “proprietor and manager of the Royal Hawaiian Theater, likewise government botanist and professor of many branches of art both sacred and profane.” After “having cautiously exchanged a few languid commonplaces,” Derby asked Stoddard if he would like to see the playhouse. Invitation accepted, “We at once repaired to the theater, threading the blazing streets together under a huge umbrella of dazzling whiteness, held jauntily by my newfound friend.”

The two men soon discovered that they had many interests in common, including a love of theater, cluttering bric-a-brac and curiosities, travel, music, and men, a fact Stoddard could not mention, but hinted at it with detail that no one else would have shared or even noticed—and in ways that only the likeminded would recognize. “As a youth,” according to Stoddard, he “was delicate

and effeminate,” a “highly imaginative dreamer, and romantic in the extreme.” As an adult, “Though not handsome he was well proportioned and possessed of much muscular grace.”

Stoddard offered other insights into Derby’s nature when he lauded his hospitality and generosity. “Many strange characters found shelter under [his] roof,” he noted.

“Thespian waifs thrown upon the mosquito shore, who, perhaps, rested for a time, and then set sail again; prodigal circus boys ... deserted by their fellows, here bided their time [until they] at last, falling in with some troupe of strolling athletes, have dashed again into the glittering ring with new life, a new name,

Derby was born in 1826 to a wealthy and prominent family of sea captains and merchants in Salem, Massachusetts. He left home “at an early age” and “was for some years a wanderer” before joining Lee & Marshall’s Circus during the 1850s as an acrobat. He “learned to balance himself on a globe, to throw double summersaults, and to do daring trapeze-flights in the peak of the tent,” although he became best known for “an acrobatic routine using elastic cords.”

Eventually, “growing weary of this, and having already known and become enamored of Hawaii, he returned to the islands, secured the Royal Hawaiian Theater, and began life anew.” As the establishment’s owner and proprietor and manager, Derby presented everything from Chinese circuses to ventriloquists, spiritualists, magicians, dance troupes, plays, and melodramas, a troupe of trained poodles, concerts, bell-ringing exhibitions, and grand opera. The most popular entertainment, however, was blackface minstrelsy.

Derby not only managed the theater, but he also appeared in some of its productions. “Nothing seemed quite impossible to him on the stage,” Stoddard wrote. “Anything from light comedy to eccentric character parts was in his line; the prima donna in burlesque was a favorite assumption; nor did he, out of love of his art, disdain to dance the wench dance in a minstrel show.” His reputation as an expert female impersonator, however, did not raise questions about his masculinity, at least publicly.

Hawaii’s missionary community disdained the theater—“one of his Satanic majesty’s traps to lead men to perdition”—but praised Derby for another one of his enterprises: the gymnasium he opened in the theater’s auditorium when it was not being used for performance. While the theater might promote “indolence, drunkenness, and rioting,” the need for physical education apparently was very great. “All you flaccid muscled, round shouldered, biliouseyed clerks and shopmen,” the Pacific Commercial Advertiser editorialized in 1859, “go to Derby and get a new lease of life and health.”

Unlike many Americans living there, Derby respected the people of Hawaii and their culture. He learned the language of the islanders, which the missionaries were trying to suppress, and sought to promote their time-honored heritage and traditions, which the missionaries were trying to ban outright. Attempting to bring traditional chant and dance to the public, he organized a hula troupe, which included two female dancers and five male drummers, to tour California in 1862, “the only ones who have gone abroad professionally,” wrote Stoddard. Sadly, their tour was not a success. The men who attended the performances—women were not allowed—evidently expected a sensational or even risqué exhibition, but onstage the dancers dressed conservatively—none wore a grass skirt—and maintained their decorum always. Not discouraged, after they returned to Honolulu, Derby staged the city’s first recorded public presentation of the hula at his theater. The missionaries condemned it as a “shameful exhibition,” but within a

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Sister Dana Sez: Words of Wisdumb from a Fun Nun

clever title of the February 25, 8:30 pm event at FABULOSA BOOKS, 489 Castro Street. Come ready to talk about books you love or thought you should like better. Fourth Saturdays of each month.

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Sister Dana sez, “Happy ST. PATRICK’S DAY (March 17) to everyone! It’s the one day in a year that I can approach total strangers and authentically command: ‘Kiss me, I’m Irish!’”

On February 6, a series of violent earthquakes with magnitudes as high as 7.8 struck Turkey and Syria causing widespread damage and thousands of fatalities. The earthquakes have been followed by numerous aftershocks. RAINBOW WORLD FUND (RWF) is a beautiful LGBTQ humanitarian organization. Folx can be part of the LGBTQ community’s response by making a donation to RWF’s TURKEY-SYRIA

EARTHQUAKE AID FUND. RWF is working with in-country partners to deliver aid. Their funds are being used to provide food, temporary shelter, and emergency supplies. 100% of your donation will fund life-saving actions. Please specify “Disaster Recovery” when you donate online and are asked to designate your donation or when sending a check to Rainbow World Fund, 4111 18th Street, San Francisco, CA 94114. https://www.rainbowfund.org/

We were invited to a press preview screening of OF AN AGE on February 6 at Vogue Theatre. This very gay movie is set in the summer of 1999 as an 18-year-old Serbianborn, Australian amateur ballroom dancer experiences an unexpected and intense 24-hour romance with a friend’s older brother. Do not expect a happy ending—or even an ending at all. This very romantic and moving movie became available in theaters on February 17.

Some of us Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence did some pre-Valentine’s Day fundraising at WHOLE LOTTA LOVE BERKELEY on February 10 at Flux Vertical Theatre in Berkeley. It was billed as “The most rockin’ V-Day Celebration this side of the Misty Mountains returns to the East Bay for another epic year! We’re celebrating Zepp (Led Zeppelin’s music) and love with Burlesque, Aerial, and Pole performances that will leave you Dazed & Confused and wanting more!” And it did not disappoint. The female and male performers were amazingly talented. And we nuns managed to pull in a few donations toward our ongoing charity work. That was true love!

Sister Dana sez, “President Biden’s STATE OF THE UNION speech was more like a State of an ONION, because it brought TEARS of joy hearing all the achievements, unity, and inspiration; but then TEARS of sadness and rage with Governor Sarah “Huckster” Sanders giving her negative, lying, divisive rebuttal.”

ANY BOOK OF THE MONTH CLUB is the

President Joe Biden is getting a new communications director at the White House as he gets closer to an expected reelection campaign. Ben LaBolt will be the first openly gay White House communications director, the White House announced. The administration tapped a veteran of the Obama-Biden years to lead the team. He will replace Kate Bedingfield, who had said in July that she was leaving the White House but stuck around and will now go by the end of the month. The communications director leads the White House’s strategy on messaging policies and goals, and generally works behind the scenes. Openly lesbian White House press secretary Karine JeanPierre remains in her public-facing position.

We truly enjoyed the cabaret show that RICHMOND/ERMET AID FOUNDATION put on, starring the Broadway touring cast of “MEAN GIRLS.” They took their night off to raise funds for REAF and BROADWAY CARES/EQUITY

FIGHTS AIDS at the Marines’ Memorial Theater on February 13. America’s Got Talent star Shawn Ryan emceed and auctioneered along with drag queen extraordinaire D’Arcy Drollinger. The cast displayed their talents in so many different songs— including two queer ones: one gay love-lorn “I’m Not Afraid of Anything” (from Songs for a New World) and a lesbian love challenge: “Take Me or Leave Me” from RENT. There was comedy when Shawn gave his rendition of “If I Can’t Sell It, I Got to Sit Down on It,” and D’Arcy flawlessly lip-synched “If There’s a Wrong Way to Do It.” The entire show was brilliantly accompanied on piano by musical director Eric Huffman, who also mesmerized us in “The Prelude” on keys with Rachmaninov’s piano concerto while reciting prose. Stunning! And what fun it was whistling along with “Sitting on the Dock of the Bay!” Thank you, producers Ken Henderson & Joe Seiler, for yet another joyful evening of lively music!

Nikki Haley, the former South Carolina governor and United Nations ambassador, has announced her candidacy for president, becoming the first major challenger to former President Donald Trump for the 2024 Republican nomination. Sister

Dana sez, “I think Trump and Haley should mud wrestle for the nomination. After all, they both love slinging mud!”

In an effort to combat anti-LGBTQ hate and protect marriage equality, Assemblymember Evan Low and Senator Scott Wiener introduced ACA 5 on February 14. ACA 5 is a constitutional amendment intended to protect same-sex marriage with plans to remove Proposition 8’s (2008) discriminatory language from the state’s constitution that was approved by voters. Prop. 8 declared “only marriage between a man and a woman” as valid or recognized in California. “Californians believe in love, simply put. Repealing Proposition 8 is the right thing to do to ensure that marriage equality is protected now and for future generations,” said Assemblymember Low. “California leads the way in LGBTQ protections and cutting-edge pro-equality legislation, and our constitution should reflect those values.”

The every-third-Thursday LOCKDOWN COMEDY on Zoom was February 16, featuring five fierce comics: Jason Stuart (Palm Springs), Kate Willett (NY), Myq Kaplan (NY), Arline “Mom” Geduldig, and producer Lisa Geduldig (both from Flawrida).

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Marjorie Taylor Greene griped about there not being enough money for the chemical train derailment in East Palestine, Ohio. Meanwhile, she is one of the many GOP legislators that voted against the infrastructure bill. In total contrast, President Biden offered “anything you need” to Ohio for the people suffering from the derailment. Sister Dana sez, “Well, talk about your trainwrecks—and I am not just referring to Ohio’s tragedy, but also to MTG herself! All aboard the crazy train!”

SAN FRANCISCO AIDS

FOUNDATION & STRUT presents their next monthly art reception of OUR FELLOW MORTALS by Mementos Salvatruchos on March 3, 8–10 pm, 470 Castro. Because of Covid restrictions, there are no walk-ins, so you must request a free ticket at https://www.sfaf.org/

Taxation without representation was wrong in 1776, and it is wrong today. The people of WASHINGTON, D.C., pay the highest federal taxes per capita, but have no voting representation in Congress. Becoming a state would end this injustice—and

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Top of your stack

RECOMMENDATIONS FROM BOOK PASSAGE

Here’s to Us ( young adult/romance)

Ben survived freshman year of college, but he’s feeling more stuck than ever. Ben’s only real bright spot is his writing partner Mario, who’s been giving him a lot of Spanish lessons and even more kisses. So why can’t he stop thinking about a certain boy from his past? Arthur is back in New York City for the first time in two years, ready to take the theater world by storm as the world’s best intern to an off-Broadway director. Through a series of events, Ben and Arthur reconnect, but not everyone is happy about that. First loves are special, but it’s way too late for what-ifs. Right?

Feminist AF (nonfiction/young adult - paperback) by Brittney Cooper, Chanel Craft

Hip-hop and feminism combine in this empowering guide with attitude, from best-selling author Brittney Cooper and founding members of the Crunk Feminist Collective. Loud and rowdy girls, quiet and nerdy girls, girls who rock naturals, girls who wear weave, outspoken and opinionated girls, girls still finding their voice, queer girls, trans girls, and gender nonbinary young people who want to make the world better: Feminist AF uses the insights of feminism to address issues relevant to today’s young womxn.

Decent People (fiction - hardbound)

From the Center for Fiction First Novel Prize winning author De’Shawn

Charles Winslow comes this sweeping and unforgettable novel of a Black community reeling from a triple homicide, and the secrets the killings reveal. In the still-segregated town of West Mills, North Carolina, in 1976, three enigmatic siblings are found shot to death in their home. The people of West Mills—on both sides of the canal that serves as the town’s color line—are in a frenzy of finger-pointing, gossip, and wonder. The crime is the first reported murder in the area in decades, but the white authorities don’t seem to have any interest in solving the case.

Upcoming Events

Saturday, February 25 @ 3 pm (free, SF Ferry Building) - Tara Ison, author of At the Hour Between Dog and Wolf

At the Hour Between Dog and Wolf i s the story of a twelve-year-old Parisian Jewish girl in World War II France, living “in hiding” as a Catholic orphan with a family in a small village.

Tuesday, February 28 @ 1 pm (free, online) Lesley-Ann Brown, author of Blackgirl on Mars Blackgirl on Mars is a radical memoir that chronicles author, educator, and activist Lesley-Ann Brown’s two years’ worth of travel searching for “home.” As she travels across the U.S. during the Black Lives Matter protests and Covid-19 pandemic and then to Trinidad and Tobago to attend the funeral of her grandmother, Brown tells her own life story, as well as writes about race, gender, sexuality, and education, and ideas of home, family,

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Lit Snax

Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock

Find out why this memoir has become part of the Trans Lit canon. It is a beautiful and bold evocation from a fiery spirit.

I Must Resist: Bayard Rustin’s Life in Letters by Bayard Rustin and edited by Michael G. Long

One of the Civil Rights Movement’s most prominent activists just happened to be a gay man. Read all about it!

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Puerto Vallarta: An LGBTQ+ Dream Vacation

Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, is an idyllic locale made famous in the early 1960s when Richard Burton, Ava Gardner, and Deborah Kerr filmed Tennessee Williams’ classic movie, The Night of the Iguana Richard and Elizabeth Taylor liked this charming town so much that they built their own abode there, a structure that now still stands as the luxury boutique hotel Casa Kimberly.

Now, next to Palm Springs and Provincetown, it might just be the LGBTQ+ vacation spot of one’s dreams. The beautiful beaches, the restaurants, the tropical vibe, the affordability, the warm weather, the cabarets/theatres/drag shows, the cobblestone streets, and the gayfriendly bars all make for a welcoming destination for our community. Wherever you go, you’ll strike up a conversation (or maybe more) in one of the most sociable and safe towns on the planet. Plus, there are quite a few direct flights from the Bay Area, so it makes a convenient getaway, especially during the wintry Northern California months.

The Gay Gourmet visited recently and here are some of my top picks for, as the locals call it, PV:

Accommodations

The historic Zona Romantica is where all the action is, so if you want to stay within walking distance of all the fun spots, that’s my district of choice.

Pinnacle – This is a great location that’s walking distance (and a funicular ride) from the Zona Romantica and the beach. A hotel/condo complex of 3 buildings, it is modern, design-forward, and gay, gay, gay, gay, gay. Pinnacle 180 is my favorite building because the ocean views are spectacular, but Pinnacle 179 (smaller units) is equally stunning. Pinnacle 220 offers lovely modern condos, but the view of the ocean is a bit obstructed. A plus?

180’s Signature bar has a daily happy hour that is the friendliest LGBTQ+ bar in town, with a panoramic view to match.

Casa Kimberly – A former San Franciscan, Janice Chatterton, has turned the two-building home of Taylor and Burton into a luxury boutique hotel. It also houses the very fine Iguana Restaurant and Tequila Bar. Accommodations are sumptuous with inspiring views, but it’s a bit off the beaten track, north of the river.

Almar Resort – Billed as one of PV’s few luxury LGBTQ+ hotels, this location (while at the south end of the Zona Romantica) is right next door to the Blue Chairs (the Mantamar Beach Club). Both

the Blue Chairs and neighboring Green Chairs beach resorts are favorites for the LGBTQ+ crowd, but the online reviews seem to favor the service at the Green Chairs. I haven’t stayed at the Almar, but the rooms look lovely. I have dined at the hotel’s rooftop The Top SkyBar, which has 270-degree views, formidable margaritas, and drag shows to boot.

Restaurants

Tuna Azul – Right in the middle of the Zona Romantica (upstairs on the second and third floors), this affordable neighborhood eatery is known for its ahi tuna tostada marinated in orange ponzu sauce. There are great tacos, fajitas, and tempura rock shrimp—but it’s cash only. Tuna Azul has a full bar and a decent wine list as well.

La Palapa and El Dorado –These are two Zona Romantica beachfront restaurants, literally in the sand with the waves crashing before your very eyes. At La Palapa for a sunset dinner, I had a delicious house-made tortilla soup, an amazing pear salad with fresh greens and balsamic, and homemade coconut shrimp (light, crispy, and nongreasy). A plus is the live, roving mariachi bands (be sure to tip them!), as well as potent margaritas, and wine selections, too. At El Dorado across the street, we opted for a seaside lunch with roasted panela cheese, guacamole, and popcorn shrimp, fried calamari, and grilled mahi mahi tacos. The full bar includes an extensive wine list with selections from Mexico, Spain, France, and Italy as well.

Qulture – This is a quirky art gallery cum bar and café that’s a perfect spot for lunch. Qulture is in Emiliano Zapata, an artsy off-thebeaten path (but still walkable) neighborhood. Standouts include: strong, yet tart, margaritas; cheesestuffed and bacon-wrapped jalapeños; yummy “puffy” tacos; and upscale bar food. This chic eatery is budget-friendly—plus, it hosts a contemporary gallery space to see some quality local art.

Café des Artiste

– Here you will find fabulous, sprawling, upscale French-Mexican fine dining in a lush, tropical garden that has some of the best food in PV, under the guidance of celebrity chef Thierry Blouet. The starter of homemade breads and breadsticks is definitely worth the calories. Despite its claim

that it’s a “32-year tradition,” I’d forego the pumpkin soup and opt instead for the foie gras crème brûlée—a perfect appetizer that embraces sweet and savory. The roasted Asian cabbage with Jerusalem artichoke mousseline and an Asian sauce is divine as an intermezzo. We split the charcoal-seared ahi tuna with seeds, green tomatillo salsa, and watercress (and a bacon taco!) for our main. The habanero chili with passion fruit mousse dessert is to die for. The full bar has creative cocktails and an extensive wine list.

Tintoque – This may be the best and most innovative restaurant in PV. Its riverside dining experience is guided at the helm by talented, young chef Joel Ornelas. We decided not to opt for the 6 or 9 course tasting menu and instead ordered à la carte. The tasty offerings we chose included a flavorful blue corn tortilla with a tangy tomatillo sauce, a seasonable pickled vegetable acar (the vegetables were cut into airy, light strips of deliciousness), a corn esquite with winter truffle and pecorino (kind of like a corn risotto, but without the rice), and a lovely dulce de leche pastry for dessert. The wine list has a number of terrific Mexican choices, including the Valle de Tintos Chenin Blanc that accompanied our meal.

Jardin Nebulosa – A wonderful day trip to the colonial mountain mining town of San Sebastian del Oeste takes you to this magical restaurant that might be the highlight of our trip. The restaurant, which means “cloud forest,” is set in a mountainside landscaped garden

with waterfalls, birds, and greenery. Each of the courses that comprised our tasting menu brunch had a different pairing with a unique raicilla cocktail. Raicilla is a Mexican liquor, like tequila or mezcal, made from agave in Jalisco (often grown in the mountains). The taste is a bit stronger than tequila, but not smoky like mezcal. All of the courses are served on organic tableware: small tree trunks, stones, and craft-thrown plates. The homemade breads— choke cherry, burnt corn husk, and pine sugar—arrived first with a fresh orange juice mimosa.

Our first course was a fresh cantaloupe, pear, papaya, and tangerine tart with kefir yogurt, which we paired with a “paisaje (panorama) raicilla” cocktail (herbal liqueur, cana brava water) as well as a Sierra Occidental raicilla cocktail (with lemongrass, black tea, citrus, and

grape). The next course was a deconstructed vegetarian taco, comprised of a soft blue corn tortilla, panela cheese, cauliflower chorizo, and black bean purée, all accompanied by a serrano pepper and tomato sauce. Next came a skewer of squash, carrots, zucchini, beet, tomatoes, cheese, jocoque (sour cream), and pico de gallo with nopales cactus and tomato. That course paired nicely with a fermented pear drink. A tasty rabbit taco course followed (coincidentally, we were there on the first day of the Lunar New Year 2023, the Year of the Rabbit!). It was served on a soft blue corn tortilla with squash and avocado purée, and all the elements of this offering complemented each other beautifully. Accoutrements included pickled potato, purple cauliflower, and carrot. A cold brew coffee with raicilla, spice syrup, and orange liqueur was

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a lovely pairing. The only disappointment in the meal was the dessert course: a chocolate tomatillo (tamale) that unfortunately didn’t look very appetizing and also didn’t have much taste. But all in all, it was a phenomenal meal in a gorgeous setting—and all for $115 for 2, including tip!

Ocean Grill – This is another excursion restaurant. You can either hire a boat to take you there and back from PV, or take a taxi to Mismaloya (where Iguana was filmed) and then take a short boat ride to this special restaurant hidden in a private cove on a secluded beach. It’s almost as if you are taking a trip to Polynesia when you arrive at this hidden gem, with its thatched roof décor on a pier literally hanging over the water. The restaurant’s ahi tuna sashimi is a piece of edible art, as well as a tasty choice. The fresh-from-the-sea grilled mahi mahi, along with the tropical drinks, are winners, too.

For Entertainment in PV, there are many choices: The Palm Cabaret (splendid drag shows, solo cabaret, and musical theatre); La Catrina Cantina (we saw one of the original Platters singing there); Incanto (great Broadway performers); Nacho Daddy’s (singer Amy Armstrong is terrific); and Act2PV for theatre. There’s no shortage of gay bars, including my favorites: Blondie’s (friendly, younger crowd, outdoor space); Mr. Flamingo’s (an institution); and Garbo’s (older crowd, piano bar).

A great and fun outdoor activity is to travel south of the city to the

verdant Vallarta

Botanical Gardens, one of the world’s largest arboretums and a welcome respite to the buzz of the city.

One last recommendation: when arriving in PV at the airport, don’t talk to the salespeople selling timeshares prior to exiting the airport. It’s a scam and you’ll waste time that could be spent lolling on the beach.

Bits and Bites

The cost of fine dining: Lately, I’ve been dismayed at some of the high prices of dining out. When we dined at Miller & Lux at the Chase Center, the valet parking was a whopping $50 (and not even on a game night!). Hint: there’s on-street parking to be had for free (and don’t go when there’s a stadium event). Additionally, my foodie pal Tony sent me an invite for a Ritual private fine dining event at $590/person. Really? Instead of paying those kinds of prices, Tony swears by InKind, which saves diners money by offering discounts at some fine local restaurants.

Time to cross the Bay! Visit Oakland’s “Oakland Restaurant Week” is back again this year and takes place March 16–26, with the San Francisco Bay Times as a sponsor. Neighborhood gems, Michelin star restaurants, and even food trucks will once again be part of the fun. Participating restaurants are offering lunches for a very affordable $15–$35 and dinners for a reasonable $35–$65.

As of press time, this highly anticipated new venture should be open.

Acclaimed Michelin star chef Srijith Gopinathan (formerly of Campton Place) is debuting his new southern Indian restaurant Copra on Fillmore and Post at the site of the former Dosa

Matthew Accarino of SPQR fame is opening a more casual Italian bistro around the corner on Bush Street (former site of Charles Phan’s Out the Door), named Mattina (guess why?).

Hard to believe but the venerable Mustards Grill in the Napa Valley is celebrating 40 years. Bravo! It looks like another fave, the iconic Cliff House, will re-open this year. But there’s no word yet on who the new operators will be. Stay tuned.

A Gay Gourmet favorite, Original Joe’s, will be opening in Walnut Creek, but you have to wait until 2024 for the ribbon cutting. The San Francisco Chronicle reports that the new Little Original Joe’s on Chestnut Street (where construction has started) will open “this summer.”

Sandy’s muffuletta sandwich shop should be opening this spring in the Lower Haight after its successful pop-up at Maison Courbeaux in Pacific Heights. Love that this saves us a trip to New Orleans!

I’ve just been introduced to a fantastic new, cold distillation gin called Oxley. Manufactured in England, it has bright botanicals and a clean, crisp flavor made with fresh frozen citrus peel. It’s perfect for a classic martini, but I’ve also sampled some great Oxley concoctions (like the Sips Ahoy, with ginger, lemon, and Thai basil) at the super-fun and dog friendly Sea Star bar on 3rd Street in Dogpatch (be sure to spot the Instagrammable octopus chandelier!). This luxe gin is available online and also in San Francisco (besides Sea Star) at such cool watering holes as: The Treasury, The Third Rail, Bellota, Absinthe, The Good Good Culture Club, Wildhawk, and The Beehive.

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David Landis, aka “The Gay Gourmet,” is a foodie, a freelance writer, and a retired PR maven. Follow him on Instagram @GayGourmetSF or email him at: davidlandissf@ gmail.com Or visit him online at: www.gaygourmetsf.com

Culinary Stars Visit Rockridge Market Hall

Rockridge Market Hall, a welcoming marketplace destination in the East Bay just across from the Rockridge BART Station in Oakland, has presented several book signings over the past months. Among those featured were:

• Chef/Activist Reem Assil of Reem’s California restaurant in the Mission;

• Baking legend Rose Levy Berenbaum and her husband and cookbook co-author Woody Wolston; Soul food pioneer and celebrity chef Tanya Holland;

• James Beard Award winner Vicky Bennison, creator of the Pasta Grannies series on YouTube.

All of the chefs graciously greeted patrons at the market as they signed their books and, in some cases, wolfed down provided goodies. Berenbaum and Wolston, for example, happily shared finger-licking-good Whoopie Pies in between book signings.

If you have never visited Rockridge Market Hall before, we recommend putting it on your bucket list. In addition to the flagship Market Hall, the site includes a fantastic produce shop with farmers’ market-fresh fruits and vegetables, a high-quality meat market, the incredible Hapuku Fish Shop (try their fish & chips, when available), a bakery, Highwire Coffee, and the newly opened Acre restaurant serving up California-Mediterranean cuisine.

Another recommendation for those in or visiting Oakland is the Charlie May Coffee and Tea House at 11200 Golf Links Road. It is a magical place, located off a windy country-like road and close to the Lake Chabot Golf Course, just up the road from the Oakland Zoo. Run by sisters Analyssa and Arianna, Charlie May offers house made specialties such as the Champorado (Filipino-style chocolate sauce with low glycemic coconut sugar) Cold Brew and Latiya (Filipino-style caramel and vanilla sauce, also low on the glycemic scale) in addition to all the expected café favorites. The vibe inside is usually quiet and mellow, perfect for working remotely while enjoying your favorite brew.

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Leslie Sbrocco

Keep the Valentine’s Day Vibe Going with This Romantic Rosé

2021 Beronia Rosé, Rioja, Spain $16

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Looking for an affordable wine to celebrate February fun? One of my favorite rosés, this Spanish sip captures the juicy succulence you look for in a pink but sports a savory twist. Even Cupid would fall in love after the first glass.

Made with two Spanish red grapes, Tempranillo and Garnacha, the floral aromas grab you first followed by red berry fruit flavors and a hint of spiciness on the finish. Beronia is a classic producer from the Rioja region of Spain and their wines always impress.

This rosé is an ideal year-round drinker and a delicious partner with just about any dish on the table. Twist, pour, and enjoy.

Author, speaker, wine consultant, and television host Leslie Sbrocco is known for her entertaining approach to wine and food. She has won multiple Emmy Awards for her work on PBS, which includes hosting the series “Check, Please! Bay Area,” “Check, Please! You Gotta Try This!” and “100 Days, Drinks, Dishes & Destinations.” www.LeslieSbrocco.com

Take Me Home with You!

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Adele Jackson-Gibson at Fitness SF Mid-Market

“Animal movements are designed to increase flexibility and range of motion. Any activity that requires squatting or crouching down into a crawl position, for example, helps to improve hip and lower body mobility.”

“My name is Biko! I am a oneyear-old male, chihuahua, short coat mix looking for my forever family! I will crawl in your lap, give a few kisses, and generally be a total charmer. I am looking for a home with adults only in a quiet, calm-ish neighborhood. I am cautious, but a great little fellow who will be loyal and loving forever.

(SF SPCA Volunteer Noe says, ‘I love this sweet boy!’ and volunteer Patty calls him ‘Biko aka my lover boy and sun worshiper.’) Please come check me out at the Mission Adoption Center—let’s meet!”

If you wish to meet Biko, you can also do so virtually before choosing to adopt. For more information, please email adoptions@sfspca.org

Biko is presented to San Francisco Bay Times readers by Dr. Jennifer Scarlett, the SF SPCA’s CEO. Our thanks also go to Paradise Osorio for helping to get the word out about lovable pets like Biko.

To meet Biko in person, visit the SF SPCA Mission Campus @ 201 Alabama Street. It is open for appointments from 10 am–6 pm (Monday–Wednesday, Friday–Sunday) and 1 pm–6 pm on Thursdays.

For more information: https://www.sfspca.org/adoptions/

Tore Kelly, Director of Creative & Social Media for Fitness SF, provides monthly tips that he has learned from professional trainers. For more information: https://fitnesssf.com/

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also most likely turn out more liberal Congressional Democratic votes.

Now through March 4, THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRAWFORD plays at SF Oasis, 298 11th Street. This is a hilarious take on EVERY movie Joan should have been in. Starring the inimitable Matthew Martin as JOAN CRAWFORD. Mommie Dearest expects your presence! https://www.sfoasis.com/

We Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence presented a drag show fundraiser, UNLUCKY IN LOVE, at Ghost Town Brewing in West Oakland on February 17. Hosted by Sister Vina Sinfurrs, the stellar drag lineup included Ashle Blow, Viva Commotion, HeliXr, Postulant Mitchell Hada, and Sister Tilda NexTime; plus banter, a raffle, and other surprises.

Coronation 58 “RISE OF THE GOLDEN GODS” is on February 25 at Hyatt Regency San Francisco Downtown SOMA, 50 Third Street. Doors at 5 pm and Coronation starts promptly at 6 pm. Congratulations to stepping down Imperials, Emperor Brent Daddy Munro and Empress Ehra Amaya, on a glori-

ous reign! And pre-congratulations to their successors. There are so many events prior to and after Coronation that my word limit cannot write here, so be sure to get all the info at www.sfimperialcouncil.org

Sister Dana sez, “I’m so sorry to report that my ‘Happy 75!’ birthday balloon somehow escaped into the atmosphere and caused such a worldwide commotion! Oops!”

We “LET the GOOD TIMES ROLL” with our MARDI GRAS CASTRO BAR CRAWL (Fat Tuesday, February 21) produced by San Francisco’s authentic Mardi Gras fun and fundraising club, KREWE DE KINQUE! We had live entertainment at each stop. The festivities started with an indoor/outdoor party at 440 Castro bar; then we strolled over to KdK’s home bar, the worldfamous video bar, Midnight Sun; next we headed over to the best view bar in the city, Lookout, with its New Orleans style cruisey balcony at Market and 16th streets; next stop was the historic Twin Peaks Tavern— the bustling intersection of the Gay Universe; and then if we were still standing, we staggered back to 440

Castro for a blowout finale until midnight—and the arrival of Ash Wednesday. Of course, the whole time we were suitably costumed, masked, and beaded for the occasion.

Some of us carried green, gold, and purple umbrellas—the official color scheme of Mardi Gras. As the French may say, “Laissez les bons temps rouler!

February 24 will mark the anniversary of one year since Russia invaded Ukraine. On February 18 at the MUNICH, GERMANY, SECURITY CONFERENCE, Vice President Harris reiterated the United States’ commitment to Ukraine, and for the first time officially accused Russia of WAR CRIMES Harris firmly stated, “The United States has formally determined that Russia has committed crimes against humanity, and I say to all those who have perpetrated these crimes and to their superiors who are complicit in these crimes, you will be held to account.” Meanwhile it is believed that China may be providing lethal military assistance to Russia.

Sister Dana sez, “Are we perhaps, maybe, perchance on the verge of the beginning of a start of possible World War Three?”

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side of Ben. Rich was probably the beautiful boy that everyone wanted a piece of when he was 22, and he sees something of himself in Ben, which was interesting to play with. Both of them being confident and comfortable in their sexuality is something I hadn’t seen before. Ben is using what he’s got; he is naked literally, figuratively, and emotionally.

Gary M. Kramer: The bugs here are pretty creepy. What scares you?

Carter Smith: A big part of my fascination with body horror comes from growing up in a time when sex was scary, in the late 80s early 90s. You could die if you had sex. Sex and

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decade, Hawaiian dance became popular with audiences.

Derby made other lasting contributions to life on the islands. He gave music lessons and also instructed his students in the social graces of dancing and the manly arts of fencing and boxing. More importantly, he opened a nursery, imported non-native species—something not allowed now—and sold them to gardeners throughout the city. Including palm, eucalyptus, and cinnamon camphor trees, scarlet bougainvillea, and jade plants, they became an enduring part of Hawaii.

In 1878, when the Pacific Commercial Advertiser announced that Derby

BOOK PASSAGE (continued from pg 29)

and healing. Both a radical political manifesto and a moving memoir about finding your place in the world, Blackgirl on Mars is about what it means to be a Black and Indigenous woman in Europe and the Americas in the 21st century.

Wednesday, March 1 @ 6 pm (free, Corte Madera) John Sayles, author of Jamie MacGillivray The Renegade’s Journey Spanning 13 years, two continents, several wars, and many smoke-filled and bloody battlefields, American filmmaker John Sayles’ thrilling historical and cinematic epic invites comparison with Diana Gabaldon,

death weren’t so unrelated. That carries through a bunch of my work, especially the body horror stuff. But I obviously have deep fears of something parasitic being inside me, or my body turning on me. That comes back to a fear of aging, and losing control over yourself, the way you look and feel and the ability to control all of that.

© 2023 Gary M. Kramer

Gary M. Kramer is the author of “Independent Queer Cinema: Reviews and Interviews,” and the co-editor of “Directory of World Cinema: Argentina.” Follow him on Twitter @garymkramer

would be leaving the islands, it cited his great contributions to “the recreation of the public,” his “knowledge of botany” that “has assisted many in the successful introduction of plants and flowers,” his gymnastic classes, and “his abilities as a teacher of music.”

He returned to his hometown in Salem, Massachusetts, where he died in 1883, but his legacy, especially in the ways he reshaped Hawaii’s landscape, endures.

Bill Lipsky, Ph.D., author of “Gay and Lesbian San Francisco” (2006), is a member of the Rainbow Honor Walk board of directors.

George R. R. Martin, Philippa Gregory, and Charles Dickens. The novel follows Jamie and Jenny through servitude, revolt, escape, and romantic entanglements—pawns in a deadly game. The two continue to cross paths with each other and with some of the leading figures of the era—the devious Lord Lovat, future novelist Henry Fielding, the artist William Hogarth, a young and ambitious George Washington, the doomed General James Wolfe, and the Lenape chief feared throughout the Ohio Valley as Shingas the Terrible.

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Let’s say your budget for a new vehicle is $100,000. Buying at this price point means deciding between the choices the lesser segments don’t offer. Want a coupe, sedan, or SUV? Should propulsion be internal combustion, or electricity? Will the interior be black leather, or an explosion of color?

It’s all a terrible burden, one that could keep you up at night in the glow of your iPad, endlessly scrolling through the manufacturers’ websites. If that’s your current situation, then check out these two interesting $100K-club members: the Genesis G90 3.5T E-Supercharger AWD ($100,370) and Lexus LX 600 F Sport ($107,585).

The Genesis is an executive sedan, complete with a fold-forward front passenger seat to allow the CEO in back to stretch out. The Lexus is a heavy-duty SUV with a history of angling for Range Rover buyers. Cheaper entries tilt at these identifiers, but being spendy means getting

the real deal. Rich inside and out, the G90 and LX 600 provide the validation for the elevated cost.

Styling impresses, with the beautifully flowing lines on the Genesis contrasting the bulldog-like bulges of the Lexus. This G90’s 21-inch aluminum wheels have a complex pattern of lovely thin tines, appearing at the same time strong and fey. The LX 600 F Sport expresses with blacked-out trim lending a menacing air to this truck’s formidable profile.

Interiors are bold, with modern upscale interpretations. Horizontal elements in the Genesis seem to float in space and are underlined by extensive accent lighting. The tested Lexus went big with blazing red leather in a space that was both roomy and cozy. I found the Lexus’ main screen to appear tackedon, but it’s such a pervasive design detail in Toyota and Lexus dashboards that I must be an outlier in the market research proving its popularity.

Under the hood of each is a turbocharged three-and-a-half-liter V6 engine. Each hits a rating of 409 horsepower, though the Lexus bests the Genesis with 74 more pound-feet of torque.

They need those horses—the Genesis approaches 5,000 pounds, while the LX 600 nudges 6,000. However, none of those pounds are apparent when you drop the go-pedal, particularly in passing situations, where the G90 and LX 600 felt like land-bound rockets.

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Handling isn’t first in mind with heavy machines like these, but the Genesis and Lexus are exceptionally nimble, considering their lineages. The Genesis G90 replaced the Hyundai Equus, which echoed the clumsy softness of an Oldsmobile. The LX 600’s Toyota Land Cruiser forebear was undeniably truckish. But this G90 dug into corners with zeal, and the F Sport package on the LX 600 conferred a supremely stable feel, despite the obvious surrounding bulk.

The G90 is Motor Trend’s 2023 Car of the Year, chosen among a field of 21 models. That award seems as silly to me as the Oscars, as it pits apples against oranges. I will, though, agree that the G90 feels uncommon and special, as does the LX 600 F Sport. Philip Ruth is a Castro-based automotive photojournalist and consultant with an automotive staging service.

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