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STAND UP. BE COUNTED. LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California understand the unique needs and challenges of our communities as we age. Until now, the lack of robust data on sexual orientation and gender identity has been a major obstacle to the health and well-being of our community. Simply put:
Aging in Community Dr. Marcy Adelman We are at a critical moment that will impact the health and well-being of our community for generations to come. The California Department of Aging, in partnership with a coalition of LGBTQ+ community organizations and researchers, has launched the first statewide survey on LGBTQ+ midlife and older adults. This survey will help us
• If we don’t know that a need exists, we can’t address it. • If we don’t know how needs vary in different communities, we cannot develop culturally appropriate services to meet those needs. • If we don’t have data, then service providers cannot access the resources they need to deliver those programs. For decades, countless community advocates and allies have spotlighted this issue. Over the years, we made progress! We passed laws that mandate the collection of data at both the state (thank you, former
Assemblymember Chiu) and local level (thank you, former Supervisor Wiener). But the state and local departments have been excruciatingly slow to take action. Finally, in 2019, California initiated a new Master Plan for Aging (MPA) to address the needs of the fastest growing and most diverse segment of California’s population: older adults. (It’s staggering to realize that by 2030, one quarter of the state’s population will be 60 years of age and older.) Towards that goal, in 2020, an Equity Work Group was created to ensure that equity was an integral part of the MPA. As a Commissioner on the California Commission on Aging, I was invited to join that group. It was gratifying to elevate the issue of sexual orientation and gender identity (SOGI) data collection and to voice my concern that, without robust SOGI data, older LGBTQ+ Californians
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would not be able to benefit from the MPA. At every turn, my colleagues shared my concern about this problem, and my commitment to find a solution. This survey is the solution that we were all looking for.
making moment by taking the survey. Together, we can help ourselves and our communities have access to the care and support we need to thrive and grow as we age.
I have invited several of the key people working on the survey to share their thoughts about the survey with San Francisco Bay Times readers. In this issue, David Lindeman, the Executive Director of CITRIS Health at the Center for Information Technology Research in the Interest of Society (CITRIS), UC Berkeley, provides an introduction to the survey. In a second article, co-authors Dr. Kathleen Sullivan, Openhouse Executive Director, and Jupiter Peraza, Openhouse Manager of the Survey Collaborative, describe the community-based research approach used to design the survey.
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If you are an LGBTQ+ resident of California and 50 years old or older, you can be a part of this history
Here is a link to the survey: Dr. Marcy Adelman, a psychologist and LGBTQ+ longevity advocate and policy adviser, oversees the Aging in Community column. She serves on the California Commission on Aging, the California Behavioral Health Task Force, the Board of the Alzheimer’s Association of Northern California, and the San Francisco Dignity Fund Oversight and San Francisco Advisory Committees. She also serves as a Senior Advisor to the LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California survey and is the Co-Founder of Openhouse, the only San Francisco nonprofit exclusively focused on the health and wellbeing of LGBTQ+ older adults.
First-Ever Statewide Survey of Mid-Life and Older LGBTQ+ Californians Will Increase Visibility, Focus Resources By David Lindeman, PhD Older LGBTQ+ residents of California are about to benefit from the launch of a statewide survey that will highlight the challenges and experiences of this rapidly growing segment of California’s population. The LGBTQ+ California statewide survey, led by the California Department of Aging (CDA) in collaboration with various research partners and community organizations, marks a monumental stride in understanding and addressing the unique needs of LGBTQ+ older adults. This initiative will shed new information on the needs and services for LGBTQ+ older adults, and it highlight the state’s commitment to inclusivity and equity in aging policies. As Dr. Kathleen Sullivan, Executive
Director of Openhouse, emphasizes, the importance of this survey “is not just about numbers; it’s about the stories behind these numbers. Understanding the lived experiences of LGBTQ+ older adults is essential for providing effective support and services.” Mid-life and older LGBTQ+ Californians belong to a generation that has navigated immense challenges, including stigma and discrimination, alongside their contributions to the civil rights movement for LGBTQ+ people. Despite their significant role in the state’s history and communities, there is a lack of comprehensive data on their aging experiences. This gap in knowledge has far-reaching implications, as seen in studies like Dr. Marcy Adelman’s COVID-19 study of LGBTQ+ older adults in San Francisco, which indicated heightened rates of isolation, depression,
and suicidal ideation, and highlighted the urgent need for more affordable and accessible LGBTQ+ culturally competent mental health services. The intent of the survey is to identify the range and depth of the unique challenges encountered by LGBTQ+ older adults that significantly impact quality of life, including social isolation and loneliness, health disparities, economic insecurity, housing insecurity, and a lack of tailored services, among others. This initiative is not only groundbreaking in its scope but also vital in its aim to increase visibility, focus resources, and improve the health, economic status, and overall well-being of the LGBTQ+ community. The California Department of Aging’s involvement in developing this survey is pivotal in addressing these challenges. The department’s
support for the survey aligns with the goals of the California Master Plan on Aging, which emphasizes equity and inclusivity. By recognizing the unique experiences of LGBTQ+ communities, the CDA is setting a standard for other states to follow. The survey will provide crucial baseline data to inform state policies and programs, ensuring that the specific needs of LGBTQ+ mid-life and older adults are not overshadowed by more generalized aging research. The survey is designed to be comprehensive and inclusive, with a particular focus on marginalized and underserved communities within the LGBTQ+ population so that it truly reflects the experiences of all individuals. The survey research team is extending a special invitation to Black, Indigenous, People of Color (BIPOC), Asian Pacific Islander (API), and Hispanic communities,
and those in rural areas, to ensure the survey includes a broad and representative sampling from across California’s diverse population and geography. Participation from all regions of California is crucial to the survey’s success. Each area has its unique social and economic landscape, which significantly influences the experiences of LGBTQ+ older adults. Comprehensive statewide participation will ensure that the survey results are reflective of the diverse experiences and needs across California. The survey is expected to yield a range of deliverables, including a review of LGBTQ+ program services, a summary report of statewide and regional findings, fact sheets for older adults and providers alike, and a curated open-source data set for (continued on page 14)
Making Our Individual and Community LGBTQ+ Voices Known By David Paisley Community Marketing & Insights (CMI) is an LGBTQ+ owned and operated research firm that has been providing research assistance to nonprofits, government entities, universities, and leading corporations for over 30 years. Over the decades, our team has produced more than 500 LGBTQ-specific research studies across many topics. Ultimately, the data comes from the participation of our LGBTQ+ research panel, made up of over 50,000 diverse LGBTQ+ community members in the United States. Our panel has developed through partnerships with hundreds of LGBTQ+ publications, 2
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websites, blogs, influencers, social media, apps, events, and organizations. Many panel members have been making their voices known on the panel for decades.
they realize that we are indeed their children, that we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo will be destroyed once and all.”
As individuals, coming out has had a powerful, positive impact. It is probably the single most important change that forced non-LGBTQ+ people to understand their loved ones and evaluate their own prejudices. Harvey Milk said it best, “Every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is, you must tell your immediate family. You must tell your relatives. You must tell your friends if indeed they are your friends. You must tell the people you work with. You must tell the people in the stores you shop in. Once
LGBTQ+ research works in the same way, but on a communitywide scale. LGBTQ+ research has allowed us to come out as a group, as well as various demographic groups within LGBTQ+, so everyone can understand our community better.
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In the past 30 years, we have watched steady progress for LGBTQ+ civil rights. Not every law or event has been positive; many recent laws have been punitive, and at times, our community has faced harassment or violence. But overall,
we have made remarkable progress in recent decades. However, recent backlash threatens our gains, and the act of speaking up and coming out, both as individuals and on a community-wide level, is more important than ever. From an LGBTQ+ research perspective, we live in a time when many people feel surveyed to death. The development of easy-to-use digital survey platforms has enabled government, corporations, small businesses, educational institutions, and individuals to easily create and send endless surveys. This has resulted in survey fatigue, and the response rate to all surveys has been decreasing.
But it is more important than ever that we make both our individual and community voices known. So, the next time you receive a survey about any issue important to the community, speak out and let your voice be heard. Your response matters, because it influences laws, policies, hiring, employment benefits, and so much more. It also favorably influences sponsorship and advertising dollars that assist our LGBTQ+ nonprofits and media. LGBTQ+ research has and continues to open minds and hearts around the world. David Paisley is the Senior Research Director of Community Marketing & Insights, https://cmi.info/
STAND UP. BE COUNTED. A Community Approach to Research By Kathleen Sullivan, PhD, and Jupiter Peraza and brilliant strategic modus operandi.
Just over a year ago, the Openhouse Executive Director asked if the California Department of Aging (CDA) would be willing to fund a study into the aging experience of LGBTQ+ Californians. The reason for the question was simple: despite being a policy leader on LGBTQ+ rights, the state had never done a study of the aging experience for our community. At the present moment, we are happy to report that the CDA immediately embraced the idea and the model suggested by Openhouse—that this be a community-based project with community input into the design and the rollout of a statewide survey. Now that the survey has been released, we want to share how and why we urged the state to use a communitybased approach, how it worked to date, how it will generate participation statewide, and how we created an “evergreen” coalition of LGBTQ providers throughout the state who can share information and be thought leaders together on policy and programs to support community members age fifty and older. The essence of community is critical, and that should not be understated. LGBTQIA+ individuals—who have, historically, depended on community to survive the neglect and disenfranchisement from society—understand the locus that is community in paving a path forward. Thus, community was bound to play a pivotal role in the development of the Survey of LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California: From Challenges to Resilience. It was almost impossible to fathom the inception and completion of the survey without the contributions of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, and gender-diverse leaders throughout the vast state of California—individuals who possessed unique life experiences, theories of change, tenacious spirits,
Not only was our community the north star for the development of the statewide coalition, but it was also the foundational component of the survey’s Advisory Committee (AC). The AC was indispensable— it constantly grounded the survey development in the real-life experiences of community, offered modes of thinking that transcended rigid clinical research methods, and, above all, provided agency to LGBTQIA+ individuals in the fashioning of their future. Community members at the state and regional coalition groups provided an unexpected request: the desire to hold events where people in their community could learn about and take the survey together. To meet this identified need, Jupiter created a wonderful facilitator guide for local organizations to hold a gathering specifically for the purpose of holding local events. Ultimately, the historic effort that is the Survey of LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California: From Challenges to Resilience could not have come to fruition without the rendering of knowledge, expertise, and wisdom of the LGBTQIA+ community at-large. In our eyes, bringing in community was not simply a contractual stipulation to be followed in the creation of the survey; it was an opportunity to heal, to right historical wrongs, and envision a future for us and by us. The Survey of LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California: From Challenges to Resilience: https://tiny.ucsf.edu/ChallengestoResilience
Kathleen M. Sullivan is the Executive Director of Openhouse, and holds a PhD in gerontology. In her role as Executive Director, she is working to develop 186 new units of housing in the Castro Cultural District for LGBTQ older people. When not working, Dr. Sullivan plays tennis, runs, and enjoys life with her wife of 25 years, Dr. Rebecca Levison. Jupiter Peraza is the Openhouse Manager of Statewide Coalition.
The Survey of LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California: From Challenges to Resilience:
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New Year, New Hope, New Challenges–A Call to Action on the ballot, as well. I’ll be writing more about these in upcoming issues, but in the meantime, make sure your registration is current and correct. Questions about your voter registration? Call 415-554-4375, or visit www.sfelections.org
Without Borders, World Central Kitchen, Mercy Corps, and others can also use your help: • Medical Aid for Palestinians (MAP) https://www.map.org.uk/ • UNRWA https://www.unrwa.org/ • Anera https://www.anera.org/ • Baitulmaal https://baitulmaal.org/
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Dear Pope Francis ... A gay friend who was a devout mem-
Joanie Juster This Year’s Gifts Last year, I reported that my Christmas gift to my nieces and nephews was to send a contribution in their name to a charity or cause they believed in. I was humbled and proud to see what they chose to support: social justice and environmental organizations, and tiny nonprofits that support the transgender and undocumented communities. It was eye-opening to see the breadth of their caring and compassion. This year, their choices both broke and healed my heart. They each recognized the humanitarian crisis in Palestine, and each, independently, selected an organization that would help those who are suffering so greatly. I’m sharing the websites for each of them, plus one from my friend, activist Sophia Andary. The need is unfathomable. Please give what you can; these organizations are providing on-the-ground support. Whatever your politics, we cannot sit by while our fellow humans are in so much need. In addition to the smaller organizations listed here, larger organizations such as Doctors
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mournfully admitted to me, “It seems that I love the church despite the fact that the church doesn’t love me.” This is an issue for so many people of faith who also identify as LGBTQ+: they love their church, even though church dogma doesn’t accept them fully and unconditionally. So, it was a big deal when Pope Francis, often cited as among the most progressive popes in history, announced that priests would be allowed to bless same-sex unions. While this announcement was hailed as an historic shift in Vatican policy, it still falls far short of making the Catholic Church a place where LGBTQ+ Catholics can feel fully welcomed. The Pope’s declaration specifies that the sacrament of marriage is still reserved only for straight couples, and that the Church still considers sex within a same-sex relationship to be a sin. Nonetheless, many gay Catholics saw the Pope’s announcement as a step in the right direction, especially for an institution as rigid and slow to change as the Catholic Church. Every step forward is seen as something to be celebrated and encouraged.
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It will come as a surprise to absolutely no one that, on the local level, San Francisco’s conservative Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone reacted negatively to the Pope’s announcement, along with a number of other U.S. bishops. But others across the U.S. supported the Pope. Archbishop Gustavo GarciaSuller, MSpS, of San Antonio, said, “[The declaration] is issued to ensure that all of God’s children know they are loved and accepted ... . Those requesting such blessings seek God’s closeness, healing, and strength.” The Catholic Church, like many other churches, still has a long way to go toward inclusion and healing. But this is a step. It’s an Election Year, Register to Vote While we’re all aware of what’s at stake in the general election in November 2024, don’t forget to vote in the primary election on March 5. Not only will we be voting for candidates for the general election, but there are important local measures
Stock up now on stamps, because as of January 21, the USPS plans to increase the price of Forever stamps from 66¢ to 68¢, and postcards from 51¢ to 53¢. Why do I mention this? First, of course, you should write letters and postcards to your friends and family; it’s a nice thing to do. But 2024 is an important election year, and data shows that handwritten letters from volunteers have a powerful positive effect on voters. Since 2017, volunteers for nonprofit Vote Forward have sent over 31.4 million letters to prospective voters. They consistently run randomized control trials to be able to measure the impact of these letters, with the data showing the positive impact on voter turnout and election results. To help with the elections by writing letters and postcards, go to https://votefwd.org/ Submission Deadline 1/14 for Queer Women of Color Film Festival Since 2003, the Queer Women of Color Media Arts Project
(QUOCMAP) has presented an annual festival of groundbreaking films by and about queer women of color. The films they present tell stories and address vital social justice issues that concern multiple communities that often get overlooked. They have now announced that they are inviting film submissions for their 20th annual Queer Women of Color Film Festival, to be held June 14–16, 2024. The deadline to submit is Sunday, January 14. For guidelines and submission form: http://tinyurl.com/quoc24
LGBTQ+ Cancer Well-Being Study A cancer diagnosis is hard on the patient, but also hard on their caregivers. It can be even more challenging for LGBTQ+ individuals, who may face additional stressors specific to their situation due to lack of appropriate resources or support. The University of Alabama at Birmingham is hosting a research study to better understand the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ cancer patients and caregivers, in order to better support their overall well-being. They are seeking both patients and care partners to take part in this research study, which will take place fully online with completion of daily surveys. All participants will be compensated. For more information, email starlab@uab.edu (continued on page 14)
Will the Supreme Court Consider Trans Cases in 2024? Republican-controlled states that have banned gender-affirming medical care for transgender teens. L.W. described how she is now “terrified” about what could happen if she is prevented from obtaining this much-needed care. Ryan cannot imagine his life without it, and John explained how he “desperately hope[s] that doesn’t all get taken away.”
6/26 and Beyond Stuart Gaffney and John Lewis “Constant anxiety” as if she were “trapped” and “drowning”—those are the words that describe how a young transgender teenager known as L.W. felt a few years ago as her body began to undergo puberty contrary to her true gender. Another trans teen known as Ryan suffered such anxiety and distress under similar circumstances that he vomited every morning before going to school. A trans boy known as John, who was assigned female at birth, started to identify publicly as a boy at age four and began supportive psychotherapy even before he entered the second grade. He too felt extreme anxiety about the possibility of going through adolescence counter to his true gender. Fortunately, L.W., Ryan, and John all received life-saving gender affirming medical care with the support of their loving parents and under the care of experienced medical professionals, who are experts in the field of gender dysphoria. This care enabled the three of them to become happy and healthy teens. But last year, the lives of these wonderful queer youth and those of their parents were thrown into utter disarray because they have the misfortune of living in the state of Tennessee, one of 21 conservative,
Late last year, L.W., Ryan, and John, along with their parents and Dr. Susan N. Lacy, a Tennessee physician who treats hundreds of transgender patients, asked the U.S. Supreme Court to stop the Tennessee law, known as SB1, from taking effect and to protect their constitutional right to health care in their home state. These extraordinarily brave queer youth, their parents, and Dr. Lacy challenged SB1 in federal court within weeks after its passage last spring. The district court ruled in their favor, but a divided panel of the Sixth Circuit Federal Court of Appeals reversed the decision and permitted the ban to go into effect, thus leading to the petition to the U.S. Supreme Court. In neighboring Kentucky, trans youth face similarly horrific circumstances because Kentucky passed a comparable blanket ban on gender-affirming medical care for trans teens last year as well. As in Tennessee, a group of courageous trans teens, known only as John or Jane Minor Doe, and their parents stood up and challenged the Kentucky ban in federal court. They too described the extraordinary emotional distress the teens experienced when their bodies began to change at the onset of puberty in ways that conflicted with their true gender, resulting in at least one of the plaintiffs becoming suicidal. Gender-affirming care was “lifesaving and life changing,” with the parents of one of the teens
Dr. Susan Lacy
explaining that, with treatment, they had “never seen [their child] ... as happy as he is now” and how the teen “cannot imagine his life without this medical treatment.” As in Tennessee, the Kentucky federal district court ruled in favor of the teens, but the Sixth Circuit appeals court consolidated the Tennessee and Kentucky cases and reversed the Kentucky decision along with the Tennessee one. The Kentucky plaintiffs have also asked the Supreme Court to hear their case. We do not know whether the U.S. Supreme Court will choose to hear the case. The decision whether or not to do so is up to the Court’s discretion; out of nine Justices, four votes are needed to take the case, although five votes are needed to win. Federal appellate and district courts that have heard other challenges to state bans on gender-affirming medical care have diverged in their rulings. Significantly, the Sixth Circuit panel decision is in conflict with an Eighth Circuit panel decision preventing Arkansas’ ban from taking effect, although the entire Eighth Circuit court has initially agreed to review the Arkansas law en
banc. The Fourth Circuit upheld Alabama’s ban and an Oklahoma federal court upheld that state’s ban. However, district courts in Georgia, Indiana, and Florida have all enjoined those states’ bans. All of these conflicting court decisions may increase the likelihood that the U.S. Supreme Court will hear the Tennessee and Kentucky cases, but the Court could also want more federal appellate courts to weigh in before they issue a nationwide decision. Critical issues regarding trans teens’ right to lifesaving medical care, parents’ rights to obtain medical care for their children, the protection of the parent-child relationship from baseless state interference, and the fundamental constitutional rights to equality for transgender and LGBTIQ people more broadly could all be at stake in these cases. The Supreme Court may announce early this year whether they will hear the Tennessee and
Kentucky cases. Meanwhile, we stand as one community united in support and solidarity with the countless trans teens such as L.W., Ryan, John, and the Kentucky plaintiffs and their parents who simply seek fulfillment of the promise engraved atop the edifice of the Supreme Court: “Equal Justice Under Law.” John Lewis and Stuart Gaffney, together for over three decades, were plaintiffs in the California case for equal marriage rights decided by the California Supreme Court in 2008. Their leadership in the grassroots organization Marriage Equality USA contributed in 2015 to making same-sex marriage legal nationwide.
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Removing Barriers to Healthcare above the limits, the recipient would lose their health coverage.
Assemblymember Phil Ting As of this year, more seniors and people with disabilities in California are eligible for healthcare under MediCal, the state program administering the federal Medicaid program. In 2021, under my leadership as Assembly Budget Chair, we approved the elimination of the asset test, and it’s just now coming into effect. Prior to this change, an applicant’s financial picture outside of earnings was considered. Besides having a low enough income to qualify for MediCal, a person could not have more than $2,000 in certain assets, including bank accounts, cash on hand, life insurance, or a second car. The limit is $3,000 for couples. These thresholds have not changed since 1989, making it hard to save for unexpected expenses or even move to a new home because saving for one month’s rent and a security deposit would typically put people over the asset limit. A Medi-Cal recipient could also face a dilemma when receiving a small inheritance after losing a loved one or a close friend. If the value was
The asset caps set by the federal government aren’t fair, especially to this group of vulnerable residents who have few resources at their disposal. I’m proud we’re able to make this change. The income limits are still intact, but recipients no longer have to go through the asset test. This means more elder Californians and those with disabilities can keep their healthcare or enroll. In 2020, the Department of Health Care Services, which oversees Medi-Cal, estimated 18,000 Californians would become newly-eligible if the asset test was removed. California has also taken the step to make all undocumented immigrants eligible for Medi-Cal, adding the final age group that has been left out: adults ages 26–49. This follows our actions from a couple of years ago that made more than a quarter million undocumented seniors eligible for the program. Now, residents of all ages who meet the income limits, regardless of immigration status, may be able to enroll. I additionally want to remind current Medi-Cal recipients to be on the lookout for their renewal notices. Because the federal COVID Public Health Emergency ended, eligibility rules are reverting back to the way they were before the pandemic. That means everyone in the program must now go through the redetermination process every year. Failing to do so could result in people losing their healthcare benefits. If you have any questions or have not received a renewal packet prior to the anniversary of your Medi-Cal sign
up date, you can contact your county’s social services agency. The state assures us they will not cut off someone’s healthcare benefits without multiple attempts to contact them. The first disenrollments began last summer and will continue through June 2024. For those no longer eligible for MediCal, there may be other options. Covered California, for instance, could offer similar coverage, and the system will automatically enroll qualified Californians who no longer qualify for Medi-Cal. Covered California is an insurance marketplace offering affordable health plans. The Legislature invested $82.5 million in subsidies in the latest state budget, which helps people pay for their premiums. Nearly half the people getting healthcare through Covered California pay less than $50 a month, while a quarter of people enrolled don’t pay a monthly premium at all. Open enrollment is available through January 31 at https://www.coveredca.com/ It’s amazing how our years-long investments in expanding access to healthcare have significantly decreased the number of uninsured people in California. A decade ago, about 17 percent of residents didn’t have healthcare. Today, we’re at sixand-a-half-percent. It looks like we have a little more work to do. Phil Ting represents the 19th Assembly District, which includes the west side of San Francisco along with the communities of Broadmoor, Colma, and Daly City, as well as part of South San Francisco and San Bruno.
Supporting Safe Parking and Helping Solve Homelessness arduous for these individuals and families, forcing them to resort to public places like city parks. The Safe Parking program offers a secure environment for people living in their cars while keeping our parks and sidewalks accessible.
Out of the Closet and into City Hall Oakland City Councilmember At-Large, Rebecca Kaplan Homelessness is a multifaceted crisis that requires short-term and longterm solutions. To tackle this issue, the City of Oakland and its community must implement new measures and enhance existing programs. As winter drew near, Oakland and its faith-based community leaders acted promptly and in unison to renew and expand the funding for The Interfaith Council of Alameda County’s (ICAC) Safe Parking Program. This initiative enabled Oakland and ICAC to provide safe parking areas for individuals and families experiencing homelessness by utilizing vacant lot space at various places of worship. Finding a safe and legal place to park can be
ICAC has partnered with the Westside Missionary Baptist Church to run a safe car park program for the past five years. Many other congregations and nonprofit organizations have also participated in this program. The funding for the safe parking program has been made possible through ICAC’s tireless fundraising efforts and the city’s use of Measure Q funds. The Measure Q funds are explicitly allocated for park maintenance, litter reduction, and homelessness intervention programs, utilizing taxpayer dollars. The Oakland City Council successfully adopted the Safe Parking resolution introduced by me, Council President Nikki Bas, and Councilmember Carroll Fife. The resolution secured up to $450,000 from the Q fund to expand the Safe Parking Program operations into three sites to continue supporting vulnerable Oakland residents living in their cars. The three sites will offer onsite critical programming designed to help individuals and families break free of homelessness. Additionally, operation sites will offer amenities such as showers, restrooms, and onsite security officers. Furthermore,
some sites will provide mechanical assistance to vehicles. A recent audit by Oakland city auditors revealed that the city had not spent all the Measure Q funds, resulting in an accumulated fund balance of nearly $22 million as of June 30, 2023. In the future, the city must continue to support the community-led programs identified for adequate funding. The Safe Parking program is a priority, given the increased number of people living in their cars. The legislation introduced by my office includes a six-month performance evaluation to ensure that ICAC meets the agreed services and safety metrics. By increasing accountability metrics, the city can assure Oakland taxpayers that their dollars are being applied diligently and with the utmost concern for the collective well-being of residents. Additionally, $3,366,400 has been set aside for park maintenance, $1,578,000 for homeless services, and $263,000 for water quality and litter reduction as part of the adopted resolution. The Council will allocate these funds during our upcoming budget cycle. By enabling faith-based congregations to use their property to help those living in their cars and spreading awareness of the Safe Parking Program to vulnerable residents, Oakland can improve the quality of life for program participants and the surrounding communities.
Councilmember At-Large and Council President Rebecca Kaplan, who is the Vice Mayor of Oakland, was elected in 2008 to serve as Oakland’s citywide Councilmember; she was re-elected in 2016 and 2020. She also serves on the Alameda County Transportation Commission (ACTC). Follow Councilmember Kaplan on Twitter @Kaplan4Oakland ( https://tinyurl.com/2dtjmazc ) and Facebook ( https://tinyurl.com/2p9dd5ta ). S AN F R ANC IS C O BAY T IM ES
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Heed Your Call
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At 35, I found myself at the bottom of the rubble pile of life. I looked around. The bricks had names: anger, resentment, hate, revenge, and the ever-popular bitter brick. But buried deep beneath those were other bricks buried deep: music, truth, humor, justice.
TLC: Tears, Laughs and Conversation Dr. Tim Seelig Everyone has a calling. Some folks just don’t answer their phone! The word “calling” might bring up old tapes for those of us who grew up with the frantic scavenger hunt for “God’s Will” when we were young. That holy grail somehow managed to remain hidden just out of sight, over the river and through the woods. Religion aside, it is my belief that everyone does have a calling—maybe a higher calling or just a plain old call. Some are called to sew, some to sow, some to scream, some to sing. Some are called to throw bricks and some to build with them. It takes all of these and so many more. What we are not called to do is nothing! Yes, that’s a double negative, but it’s the best way to express it. Nothing is not an option.
Armistead Maupin
After coming out, I soon learned of the heroes who had gotten a call. Their call was also to make change, ruffle feathers, rattle cages ... each with a different tool. In the 1970’s, there were countless leaders who heeded the call. They literally laid the foundation for all of us who followed. And they all did so from San Francisco!
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To make sure these gruesome tales were cemented in our lives, we sang songs about them. There was Jericho, a huge walled city. The Jericho-ites (or is it Jerichoians?) were evil and Joshua wanted to conquer it. They marched around it with spears in hand, blew some trumpets and, voila, the ginormous brick walls just fell down killing everyone. Yay. The song about Jericho was a bombastic John Williams-esque piece. “Go blow them ram horns,” Joshua cried, “‘cause the battle is in my hands. And the walls came a tumblin’ down.” Repeat several times: “And the walls came a tumblin’ down.” We know what that looked like. We have far too many examples in the news of entire cities “falling down.” These are the result of bombs, not spears and ram horns. Many of us have had walls come a tumblin’ down around us. We found ourselves amidst the rubble surrounded by proverbial bricks. 8
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Armistead Maupin used the mighty pen to tell our stories. He did it in such a way that millions read about us who never would have otherwise. Gilbert Baker used his fashion sense to create what we know as the first rainbow flag in 1978. It has now become the basis for our progressive flag.
I can tell you from many decades of observation, folks tend to be miserable when no part of their life involves the betterment of our community or world. It is not enough to float along on the hard work of generations before us and not do something to make it easier for those who follow. Unlike other cultures, we don’t usually get these lessons from our families of origins but from the families and communities we create. As you know, I love stories. We all love stories. In fact, we are the product of the stories of our lives. Eventually, we get to write our own story. Some of my most vivid stories came from church. For a small boy, they were pretty scary. Of course, they were. Their purpose was to instill fear and guilt. There was a flood that covered the whole world killing everyone. There was a man who got swallowed by a whale (the topic of my October 2023 article). Then there was the ever-popular S & G destroyed by sulfur and fire (ewwww).
I thought my calling was to be a singer and minister. That call turned out to be a wrong number. When the walls fell down around me, almost immediately the phone rang. The voice on the other end said, “Now that you’re listening, go wave your arms at the gays!” I took the bricks in the rubble that had almost buried me and began to build bridges. Gay bridges ... with music.
Harvey Milk picked up a bullhorn and marched the streets before being murdered at City Hall. As tragic as this event was, his courage and message have become inspirations for our entire movement.
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Cleve Jones picked up a needle and thread and got fifty thousand people to create panels for the AIDS Memorial Quilt: brick laying. Cleve has also been a brick thrower as one of the most outspoken activists of our time. Jon Sims used music. He founded the San Francisco Lesbian/Gay Freedom Band, the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus, and the Golden Gate Performing Arts Lesbian/Gay Chorus of San Francisco (now the Queer Chorus). GALA Choruses was formed, which now has 200 choruses in North America.
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Our cause needed both brick throwers and brick layers. I know from first-hand experience; you cannot thrive by ignoring the bricks that have fallen around you or thrown at you. They will keep piling up and completely smother you. The only way to thrive is to take the bricks and do something amazing with them. The overarching message? Answer your proverbial phone! Listen carefully. Pick up your bricks. Throw some if you feel like it—meaning speak out, as Cleve has, when you believe it is important to do so. Build something beautiful with the others. And remember that you are not alone. You can join with others, or they can join with you. We’re in this fight together. We cannot “turn the other cheek” to the injustice being hurled at our family every day. To those refusing us our rights, grab your ram horn and blow! See what happens. Dr. Tim Seelig is the Conductor Laureate of the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus. http://www.timseelig.com/
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Nuestra Voz Eduardo Morales, Ph.D. 2024 marks the 30th anniversary of AGUILAS (Asamblea Gay Unida Impactando Latinos A Superarse), so this year for the San Francisco Bay Times we are highlighting achievements of the longstanding San Francisco-based nonprofit. Here we highlight survey responses from participants, which reveal the importance of this organization focused on the needs of gay and bisexual Latinx men in the Bay Area. A review of satisfaction questionnaires completed by program participants at AGUILAS over the past three decades shows ratings averaging in the very good to excellent range using a five-point scale for each of the 10 entries. Thousands of individuals have responded to the satisfaction questionnaires that are regularly administered after program activities.
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Written comments support these results. One respondent wrote, “AGUILAS is a visible agency that is really part of the community. It has changed in dynamic and positive ways. Counseling here provides great community resources on health. The groups have good facilitators along with interesting topics, and socials and other events are entertaining. They speak about health in a way that is not in your face.” Another individual shared, “Being at AGUILAS, I found members like me with similar stories.” Another wrote, “My counselor told me about PrEP/PEP and I was able to get tested and take a medication for recent exposure. I am now on PrEP and relieved about the situation, but [before this] I felt like I was going to die.” Yet another mentioned, “I left Brazil because my small community had poor healthcare, and being HIV+ I could not access the medications provided without fear of being exposed. I escaped my religious community and shame from my family to seek help. Being at AGUILAS, I found members like me with similar stories.” Those of us working at AGUILAS have been enriched by these and
other program participants. We look forward to continuing our services throughout this anniversary year and beyond. Eduardo Morales, Ph.D. is a Professor Emeritus, retired Distinguished Professor, and current adjunct professor at Alliant International University. He is also a licensed psychologist and a founder and current Executive Director of AGUILAS, an award-winning program for Latinx LGBTQ+. Of Puerto Rican decent, he has received numerous distinguished awards and citations, including being named a Fellow of 12 divisions of the American Psychological Association.
GLBT Fortnight in Review Glad That Year’s Over Hello again, dear readers. The holidays are over, we are on to 2024, and I trust we are all ready to forge once more into the breach and tackle the critical issues of GLBT law and politics that we’ve been able to ignore for several weeks now. For my part, I’ve just spent the last few hours procrastinating, complaining, and taking a nap. Because I’m not ready. I’m depressed by the venom and meanness of Trump and his hapless followers. I’m tired of the small-minded rightwing politicians and their craven machinations. I see from an ACLU report that, as of mid-December, a record-setting 510 anti-GLBT bills were proposed in state legislatures across the country, a three-fold increase from 2022. God knows what these horsebutts are going to come up with this year, but I’m not looking forward to struggling with their unholy agendas. And, of course, it’s not just our community in the crosshairs. Pregnant women, Black and Latino citizens, immigrants, foreign allies, poor people, sick people, teachers, publishers—the list goes on. I think Biden has been a really good president in so many ways, but he lacks the madefor-TV accomplishments that stand out in the public mind and he gets no credit for anything he’s done. Toss in his frail persona and a Vice President operating under the radar and we’re relying on an uninspiring Democratic ticket to save us from a charismatic madman. There’s now a clear possibility Trump could be reelected ten months hence. Why did I think his various criminal indictments and civil suits would be enough to take him off the political stage? Was I just naive? And am I guilty of careless assumptions in other areas? How about our legal affairs as the year begins? Are we headed for High Court defeats that could set us back a generation? Is it any wonder that I’d rather be napping or reading about the NFL playoffs? Back to the Future In late December, Ohio Governor Mike DeWine (R) vetoed his state’s pending law against health care for transgender minors, following that up a week later with an Executive Order blocking transition surgeries at state hospitals for people under 18. The original law would have also banned puberty blockers and hormone treatments, and indeed it’s possible that broad statute could come back to life if the Republican legislature overrides the Governor’s veto
in coming weeks. In his veto message, DeWine said he believes “the parents, not the government, should be making these crucial decisions for their children.” Sound familiar? It’s the same argument that conservatives have been using to justify book bans and rules against references to sexual orientation in public schools. DeWine’s compromise is sure better than nothing. You can wait to decide on surgery, but puberty blockers won’t do you much good if you’re over 18. As for hormone treatments, they’re nothing to be taken lightly but they can be essential to the mental health of transgender youth. Last year, The New York Times told us that 22 states enacted full bans on transgender health care for minors. As you may remember, these laws have been tested in the federal courts, and in many cases, they have been blocked while litigation runs its course. Just the other day, Idaho District Court Judge Lynn Winmill determined that the Spud State could not allow its law to take effect as scheduled on January 1, ruling that the parents of transgender kids easily passed the Fourteenth Amendment’s legal tests and were likely to prevail in their suit against the state. “As the Court sees it,” Judge Winmill wrote, “the appropriately precise way to frame the issue is to ask whether parents’ fundamental right to care for their children includes the right to choose a particular medical treatment, in consultation with their health care provider, that is generally available and accepted in the medical community. And the Court has no difficulty concluding that such a right is deeply rooted in our nation’s history and traditions and implicit in our concept of ordered liberty.” Idaho Attorney General Raul Labrador said he would appeal the ruling, so we’ll have the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit stepping into our headlines shortly. Meanwhile, all of this may be moot if the Supreme Court agrees to hear the appeal of a Sixth Circuit ruling against transgender health rights in Tennessee. The ACLU has taken a risk in asking the High Court to weigh in on this question, but did they really have a choice? After all, the question of whether states can ban these commonly accepted medical treatments is not going away. In fact, we are waiting for a key ruling from the full Fourth Circuit on whether state insurance systems can block transgender care in separate cases out of North Carolina and West Virginia.
By Ann Rostow It’s all pretty damned complicated, if you ask me, and that’s just the logistics of the court cases. Throw in the legal issues and the science and the politics and, well, that’s when I start thinking about a nap. Or having a cocktail. Public Eyes Are Watching You In other Supreme Court news, the Metropolitan School District of Martinsville, Indiana, has asked the nine justices to reverse a transfriendly ruling out of the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit. Back in August, the appellate court ruled that the school had violated Title IX’s ban on sex discrimination in public education by preventing a transboy from using the boys’ bathrooms. The school sought High Court review in October and the ACLU filed an opposition brief last month. Obviously, we don’t want the Court to review a favorable ruling, but we’ll see. So, we’ve got two trans petitions on the High Court’s possibilities list. But there may be others. The full Second Circuit has been considering whether or not Connecticut has the right to protect trans girls and women from being kicked off public sports teams. At present, Connecticut has a statewide trans-friendly sports policy, which was upheld by a Second Circuit panel earlier last year. After that decision, however, the full Second Circuit decided to rehear the case, a most unusual development for that court. Obviously, it’s possible that case will be decided and also appealed to the Supreme Court. There may be others, but these three issues cover a lot of transgender legal ground; discrimination in facilities, state control of medical treatment, and trans girls and women in sports. We also just saw a federal judge in Iowa issue a preliminary injunction against a new law forbidding teachers from discussing GLBT issues with students through sixth grade. Judge Stephen Locher left part of the law in force, namely a ban on books that depict graphic sex. Spoil sport! I don’t know about you, but my school library didn’t have any of those available, and my little friends and I would have found them if they were there. The best we had was a large book called The Epic of Man that included some photos of African tribeswomen in a state of undress. We were transfixed.
pay $260,104 in attorney fees and expenses to the lawyers for one of the two gay couples who sued her after she refused to marry them in defiance of the High Court’s 2015 marriage ruling. Davis was already on the hook for $100,000 in damages to the men. Now she has to shell out to their lawyers, as is usual for the loser of a civil rights case. Davis had claimed the fees were excessive, but a federal judge disagreed. There’s another gay couple with (I think) another set of lawyers, but they didn’t win any money in their case, which was tried separately. As I wrote before, I have the eerie sensation that I have written a dozen little snippets about how Kim Davis has been ordered to pay this or that, and yet the stories keep coming. And as far as I know, she’s never paid any of these debts. I see as well that Davis’ lawyers are expected to appeal this latest decision. Who is paying those lawyers, I wonder? And did you see that California now requires major retailers with a state workforce of 500 or more to include gender neutral toy sections? They can still have boy and girl sections, but they also must have a third space that includes a “reasonable selection” of toys that any child would like. Assemblymember Evan Low, a “key sponsor” according to NBC News, says the measure will make “it easier to compare similar items for sale at large retailers without reinforcing gender stereotypes that harm vulnerable children.” I’m rolling my eyes at this, but not because I favor “reinforcing gender stereotypes” or “harming vulnerable children.” It’s because changes like this shouldn’t be a matter for state legislatures or politicians. Stores should evolve in this direction as society changes, not be fined $250 to $500 for failing to follow a vaguesounding law (which I haven’t read, but still). Also, trans-boys can shop in the boys’ section if they like anyway, and why was this law passed in 2021 but only put into effect now?
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Personally, I’m not sure I ever saw a “boys” and “girls” section in a toy store, although there are certainly “doll” sections and “truck” sections for those who want to veer off in those directions. As for making it easier to compare similar items at large retailers, I don’t even understand what that means. Aren’t the similar items already placed together?
What else is new, you ask? Well, our old friend Kim Davis, the former county clerk of Rowan County, Kentucky, has now been told to
I guess it’s just that with everything there is to do in this world, for us and for other communities, did we really need to bother with gender neu-
tral toy aisles? And couldn’t we have done it in less than four years? Brrrrr I’m going to Topeka in ten days where they have a foot of snow and are expecting a high one day next week of zero. My stepson helpfully told us it will “warm back up” by the time we arrive, which I gather means a high of 30 or so. This does not count as warming up in my book, which is titled Below 60 is Very Cold. And no, I do not find snow delightful because I am no longer six years old. I’ll write you from there with all my whining and complaining on this subject magnified by actual suffering. But finally, have you followed the hoopla over a New York Times opinion piece that suggests Taylor Swift might have been obliged by celebrity to hide her gay or bisexual inclinations? After it was published in early January, there was something of a backlash by Swift’s fans and friends, calling out the Times for this type of groundless speculation. Naturally, I was going to read the piece before making any assessments. Dutifully, I started in on it before realizing that first, it was tedious, and second, it was frigging 5,000 words long! The combination of those two features made it impossible to finish, but I was left with the impression that the writer had a girl crush on Tay Tay and felt compelled to relate her desperate attempts to find bi-curious symbolism in her lyrics and style. What I couldn’t accept was the decision by my favorite newspaper to air these musings, which were presented as an essay on sexuality and society’s implicit censorship. Five thousand words? C’mon, Gray Lady! No one can string out a polemic that long unless they are obsessed with their subject. Plus, it seemed pretentious, an accusation I’d make if I had actually read the entire thing. Since I haven’t, I will restrain myself out of fairness. I’ve become a big fan of Taylor Swift, mostly because of her generosity and kindness to her entourage and her admirers. She also seems smart and independent. Finally, I love the Chiefs! I’m one of these crossover Swifties who have grown attached to her because of her affair with Travis Kelce, the Chiefs tight end. Kelce, in turn, has many new fans because of his affair with Swift. As for her sexuality, does everyone we like have to be either gay or hiding a secret gay interest? After all, nine in ten of us are straight and just as we don’t appreciate having our sexual orientations questioned, neither do they. arostow@aol.com
‘One Last Night’ at the Former Location of Harvey’s Scheduled for January 25 Participants are invited to join the Friends of Harvey Milk Plaza (FHMP) for a special community event to support the Harvey Milk Plaza project on January 25, 2024, from 6–8 pm at the historic former Harvey’s restaurant. (Before Harvey’s, the site at 500 Castro Street was home to The Elephant Walk, which in the 1970s was frequented by Milk, Cleve Jones, the founders of the San Francisco Bay Times, and more.) Jones, who was a founding contributor of the Bay Times, will be among those gathering at the location later this month. Other “all-star community hosts,” according to FHMP, will include Juanita MORE!, Sister Roma, Honey Mahogany, and SF Drag Laureate D’Arcy Drollinger, with special hosts State Senator Scott Wiener, Assemblymember Matt
Haney, and District 8 Supervisor Rafael Mandelman. Beverages and light food will be provided. Reimagining Harvey Milk Plaza The Friends of Harvey Milk Plaza has a mission of reimagining Harvey Milk Plaza in the Castro as a welcoming, vibrant space that will honor Milk’s life and legacy, celebrate his enduring importance to the LGBTQ+ community, and inspire by acting as a beacon of hope to marginalized communities worldwide. The organization was formed in 2016, in response to SFMTA plans to install an elevator in the culturally sensitive plaza. FHMP was aware of the conversation about changes to the plaza that had been ongoing for over 25 years, and sought greater community involvement in the rede-
sign effort that was funded initially by a gift from The Lawrence & Junko Cushman Foundation. Since its inception, FHMP has worked to see that the community’s aspirations for the plaza are realized during the work planned at the site. The following community organizations have endorsed FHMP: • Alice B. Toklas LGBTQ Democratic Club, • Castro Community Benefit District, • Castro LGBTQ Cultural District, • Castro Merchants, • Duboce Triangle Neighborhood Association, • Eureka Valley Neighborhood Association, • and the Harvey Milk LGBTQ Democratic Club. The January 25th event is free to attend, but advance registration is requested. Go to: http://tinyurl.com/2jak8bdw For more information about the Memorial at Harvey Milk Plaza: https://www.harveymilkplaza.org/ S AN F R ANC IS C O BAY T IM ES
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Memory Keepers Initiative: Creating Change Through Music The Memory Keepers Initiative, an oral history project intended to uplift and preserve the stories of our visionary LGBTQ+ elders, is a new addition to the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus’ (SFGMC) programming. Hosted by queer icon and San Francisco Bay Times columnist Donna Sachet, the Memory Keepers Initiative inaugural program will be presented on January 11 at 7 pm at the The Chan National Queer Arts Center (170 Valencia Street). “Stories have transformational power, and we keep legacies alive by sharing them,” said SFGMC Artistic Director Jacob Stensberg. “The purpose of oral history projects is to capture and record our heritage as to not become a community of forgetters; rather, to learn from the strength, courage, and wisdom of those who came before us.” For the event this month, Sachet will be joined by fellow Bay Times columnist Derek Barnes, who is also an activist and member of several LGBTQ+ boards of directors; Selisse Berry, who founded the organization Out and Equal; and SF Empress Alexis Miranda. There will be a 90-minute interactive panel discussion, followed by an invitation for attendees to remain and record their own stories about queer history in the Bay Area. Volunteers will be present to audio or video record anyone with a story to tell and a desire to share it for posterity. The Memory Keepers Initiative for 2024 will consist of four programs. In addition to the one for January, events in the series will take place on February 29, April 18, and May 16. A donation of $30 is recommended, but in an effort to make the events accessible to all, they are “pay what you can.” Tickets are available at https://www.sfgmc.org/
Community Treasures From the GLBT Historical Society Archives
A New Year and an Old Story By Andrew Shaffer On January 1, 1965, the Council on Religion and the Homosexual hosted a Mardi Grasthemed drag ball. The group included Christian ministers and LGBTQ activists who worked together to fight anti-gay discrimination, and the event was their first major activity, intended to raise funds to support their mission. Despite speaking to the police in advance to iron out any possible problems, the ball was raided and multiple people were arrested, including straight allies who attempted to block the police from entering the hall. Years before the Stonewall Riots or the first time LGBTQ people won rights at the ballot box, straight allies and Christian ministers put their bodies on the line to fight for LGBTQ communities. The 1960s were a time when religious groups were often at the forefront of social justice work, from the civil rights movement to campaigns to end discrimination and oppression across the globe. From the perspective of 1965, a future where religious groups and LGBTQ communities would band together to end oppression seemed just as likely as a future in which conservative activists would weaponize religious congregations against us. This story reflects what historians refer to as contingency—the idea that history could have played out in many different ways, and that the present we inherited was never destined to happen. There were many paths available that could have led to all sorts of different futures. Many other worlds were, and are, possible. From the perspective of January 2024, many things seem impossible. Sharpening political divisions and an increasingly vocal and violent movement determined to peel back hardwon rights can make it hard to find hope. But history teaches us that the future is inherently unpredictable and there is always room for hope—and action. Like the ministers who put their bodies on the line to protect drag queens in 1965, or the trans women and drag performers who put their own bodies on the line just a few years later at the Compton’s Cafeteria riot, there are innumerable stories in our museum and archives of people who fought for a better future. We keep their memories alive because we know that holding onto our history is vital as we continue to fight for a better future. To explore more of our vast queer past, or make a contribution to support the GLBT Historical Society’s work, visit www.glbthistory.org Andrew Shaffer is the Director of Development and Communications for the GLBT Historical Society.
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Drag queens and attendees at the New Year's Mardi Gras Ball, held at California Hall in San Francisco on January 1, 1965. Photos from the Citizen's News, in the Periodicals Collection of the GLBT Historical Society
By Donna Sachet
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” —Oprah Winfrey
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ometimes, one becomes known for certain random things ... a color, an expression, an affinity, etc. And sometimes, that association sticks! Certainly, we are known to wear the color red, to toss out a signature phrase or two, and to favor certain charitable causes that have become near and dear to our heart. So, in looking ahead to the months to come of 2024, we plan to follow our wellknown affinity for the number three. Frankly, we’re not sure how it started, but that number has stuck with us for nearly three decades! (Oops, there we go again!) When delivering a speech, announcing the three topics one will cover is a tried-and-true device to capture and hold the audience’s attention. When presenting a toast, including three lines often serves the occasion well. And when the public elected us Empress of San Francisco, we became Absolute Empress XXX, three Roman numerals X, or 30. So, we’ve decided to concentrate on three areas of personal improvement for 2024. First, we are determined to spend less time worrying about uninvited criticism and more time on commendation. We are still learning the lesson that we cannot change how other people act; we can only change how we react to their actions. Time and again, after a particularly noteworthy accomplishment, a remarkable performance, or simply a proud personal moment, we have taken home not the heartfelt compliments, but the bits of criticism. Self-reflection and learning from criticism are invaluable, but obsessing over a word or a comment, wondering about its intent, and allowing it to damage our self-confidence are destructive and unnecessary. We are talking about the idle and often anonymous derogatory comments, especially those from the sidelines, from those not fully engaged in any activities outside of their own personal interests. “Who does she think she is? Isn’t she too old for that? She’s not really that pretty.” We spend entirely too much time concerned about those kinds of questions and comments. We plan to focus more on encouragement from close friends, compliments from people we know, and even random comments from strangers. Second, we are going to make a concerted effort to stay in better touch with friends. Like so many people, we stumble into the mindset of “out of sight, out of mind.” There is such power in personal communication and it is easier than ever before. How hard is it to send a text, Facebook message, email, or other message? How often have we spoken about a person with others, pointing out their positive impact, their admirable traits, and their amazing actions, but does that message ever get to them? We are out and about so much, forgetting that some people do not and some cannot keep up such a busy schedule, but would benefit from a few kind words. And we are not just talking about reaching out to someone who is sick or going through some particularly challenging time. Of course, they need an encouraging word, but we are talking about people in our lives whom we care about and appreciate who would benefit from an occasional communication, no matter what the reason. We have never been as active on social media sites as others, but the messages we all receive through Facebook, Instagram, or whatever tool are all invitations to respond. Not only can we share condolences when the message is sad, but we can also share a positive word or two when the message pertains to an accomplishment, a triumph, or simply a proud moment. Third, we are preparing for a year of pleasant surprises, not overplanning things, but remaining open to unexpected opportunities, new friendships, and unpredictable possibilities. When we look back on 2023, many of our richest experiences came out of the blue. We went to Washington, D.C., at the invitation of Vice President Kamala Harris to attend a Pride Celebration at her home. We traveled to Croatia with our good friends CoCo Butter and a group of his friends to celebrate his birthday. And Sunday’s a Drag found a new home at Club Fugazi in North Beach, thanks to Patrick Rylee, greeted by sold-out crowds and standing ovations. Whatever short range or longer term plans we have for 2024, we are going to keep our eyes wide open for the endless possibilities that we can’t even imagine right now. Here’s to an exciting 2024! Donna Sachet is a celebrated performer, fundraiser, activist, and philanthropist who has dedicated over two decades to the LGBTQ Community in San Francisco. Contact her at empsachet@gmail.com
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Thursday, January 11 Memory Keepers Initiative New LGBTQ+ History Project of the SF Gay Men’s Chorus First in a series, led by Donna Sachet Panelists Derek Barnes, Selisse Berry, Alexis Miranda Chan National Queer Arts Center, 170 Valencia Street 7–8:30 pm $30 or pay what you can www.sfgmc.org Saturday, January 13 Celebration of Life, Michael (Shanté) Youens Hosted by Sister Roma & Ethylina Canne Join friends in remembering this special man The Academy, 2166 Market Street 5–9 pm www.academy-sf.com Sunday, January 14 Imperial Gala Presentation of Candidates for Emperor & Empress Watch your candidates perform Ask questions and find your favorite Recognition of 5-year Anniversary Monarchs Beaux, 2344 Market Street 4:30–7:30 pm Free! www.imperialcouncilsf.org Saturday, January 20 Imperial Crown Prince & Princess Masquerade Ball King Khalil Munro & Nicole Duminie host Benefits Hyde Street Community Services Cat Club, 1190 Folsom Street 4–7 pm $25 & up www.imperialcouncilsf.org Saturday January 20 Krewe de Kinque’s Bal Masque XXI Two Decades of Decadence Show, silent auction, celebrity grand marshal, & more Hosted by King Mez & Queen Moxie Benefits Urban Angels SF 6–9 pm $15 & up Friday, January 26 Divas & Drinks: 2024, Here We Go! SF Bay Times presents monthly party Donna Sachet hosts DJ Rockaway courtesy of Olivia Travel, Bacardí cocktails Additional guests to be announced soon The Academy, 2166 Market Street $15 www.academy-sf.com
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Randy Coleman hails from New York, but has lived in San Francisco since 1975. Coleman shares that before moving to the Bay Area, he studied Art History and Architecture at Boston University while working as a resident artist for architectural rendering at a Massachusetts historical society. “All of my life I’ve been an artist,” Coleman says. “To know me is to know that I have a passion for art and architecture. I love this project for the San Francisco Bay Times, and hope that you enjoy my sketches.” © Randy Coleman, 2024
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future research. These resources will be instrumental in identifying priorities for legislative action and CDA programs, improving access to LGBTQ+ affirming medical and social services, and developing policy recommendations for the betterment of LGBTQ+ older adults.
Working with a lot of nonprofits and causes, both as staff and as a volunteer, I’m often tasked with raising money. Writing effective fundraising emails and letters is part of the job. And I’ve gotten used to the barrage of fundraising emails each Giving Tuesday, and at the end of the year. I get it: it’s what we all have to do to keep the lights on so we can fulfill our missions. But at the end of last year, one of the nonprofits I have supported took it to a whole new level: In the days leading up to New Year’s Eve, they sent eighteen fundraising emails in 36 hours! By the end, they were downright pathetic, coming every hour on the hour. Needless to say, I don’t support them anymore. If they can’t come up with a better fundraising plan than spamming their supporters, they need to rethink their business model. Mask Up, and Wash Your Hands We all got a bit cocky for a while, leaving our masks at home and mingling with friends and families. But here’s the reality: COVID19 is back with a vengeance. I can’t open Facebook or my messages these days without seeing many friends quarantined at home with the new variant of COVID. When I talked to my pulmonologist about it, he told me that the vast majority of his patients didn’t get infected on planes or buses, but by letting down their guard at intimate gatherings with friends and family. So please, be careful. Wear your mask. Stay home from work if you feel sick. Remember to wash your hands frequently. Public health is a responsibility we all share. Let’s take care of each other in the new year. Joanie Juster is a long-time community volunteer, activist, and ally. 14
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Dr. Annesa Flentje, lead researcher for the survey from the University of California, San Francisco (UCSF), reinforces that “the health disparities and unique challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ older community require our immediate attention. This survey is a vital tool in addressing these issues head-on.” California’s initiative in launching this statewide survey has garnered praise from various quarters. It reflects the state’s progressive and inclusive stance, serving as a model for other states in the nation. By prioritizing the needs of LGBTQ+ older adults, California is leading the way in ensuring that aging policies are inclusive and equitable. The LGBTQ+ California statewide survey is more than just a research project; it is a testament to the state’s commitment to its diverse population. By addressing the specific needs of LGBTQ+ mid-life
and older adults, this survey paves the way for more informed policies and better services. This survey not only represents a significant step towards inclusivity and equity in aging services, but also serves as a beacon of hope for LGBTQ+ older adults in California, assuring them that their voices are heard, their challenges are acknowledged, and their well-being is a priority. The survey represents an unprecedented effort to shine a light on a population that has remained in the shadows for too long, not only through the collection of data, but by giving a voice to those who have been historically underrepresented. It is not only groundbreaking in its scope but also vital in its aim to increase visibility, focus resources, and improve the health, economic status, and overall well-being of LGBTQ+ Californians. Opportunities for Participation and Community Involvement The statewide survey, LGBTQIA+ Older Adults in California: From Challenges to Resilience, is being distributed by a statewide coalition of organizations serving LGBTQ+ older adults, and is being coordinated by
Openhouse. The coalition welcomes all organizations and key stakeholders to join in the vital role of disseminating information about the survey in order to contact the broadest possible audience to ensure that the survey reaches a diverse group of respondents, making the data more representative and reliable. Individuals wishing to complete the survey may participate through the following link: https://tiny.ucsf.edu/ChallengestoResilience
David Lindeman, PhD, is the Executive Director of CITRIS Health, Center for Information Technology Research in the Interest of Society (CITRIS) and the Banatao Institute, UC Berkeley, and is the Director of the Center for Technology and Aging. Dr. Lindeman has worked in the fields of healthcare and long-term care for over 40 years as a researcher and gerontologist, and currently focuses on technology-enabled healthcare solutions ranging from wellness to complex chronic conditions. Dr. Lindeman serves as an advisor to foundations, government agencies, startups, businesses, and venture firms, and currently serves as Vice-Chair for the California Commission on Aging.
San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus Holiday Spectacular Photos by Kristen Loken The Castro Theatre’s marquee declared all three shows on Sunday evening, December 24, 2023, to be “Sold Out” and the long lines on the sidewalk out front that Christmas Eve night were clear indications it was accurate. Attending the 5 pm, 7 pm, or 9 pm show is a big decision for Castro neighbors and friends from elsewhere who often travel miles for this longstanding community tradition that began 35 years ago. The December 4th issue of the San Francisco Bay Times devoted its cover to announcing the 25th Anniversary show and included articles and photos tracing the event’s history back to its launch in 1990: http://tinyurl.com/399c99ec San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus (SFGMC) Artistic Director and Conductor Jake Stensberg led the Chorus in a series of performances last month, culminating with the December 24 shows. Members of the San Francisco Bay Times team maintained their track record of attending the 9 pm final performance. The finely tuned program included a combination of traditional songs as well as ones tailored for the occasion and sung with passion, joy, and the humor SFGMC is known for. Congratulations to all on yet another memorable round of holiday performances plus representation of our diverse community. https://www.sfgmc.org/welcome/
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The impressionistic Spanish romance, Stroking An Animal (VOD), has Mariña (Lidia Veiga) and Ada (Ánxela Rios) becoming sexually intimate with Tomás (Xulio Besteiro). The film, just over an hour long, and divided into chapters, has the women meeting Tomás in the summer, while swimming, and then dancing and having sex with him in the autumn. There is not much discussion about their polyamorous relationship, but the trio take a little
VOD starting January 16). Directed by the Ektara Collective, this film showcases Laila (Manisha Soni) and Roshni (Muskan), two transgender women in Bhopal, India. Laila is spending the night in an apartment she and Roshni have rented when she is harassed by a male
Gary M. Kramer New year, new films. There are a handful of queer features and documentaries from around the world available this month on demand and in theaters. Here is a rundown of what to watch.
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Norwegian Dream (VOD) has Robert (Hubert Milkowski), a young, closeted Polish guy taking a job at a salmon factory in Norway. He meets Ivar (Karl Bekele Steinland), the Black, queer, adopted son of Bjørn (Øyvind Brantzaeg), the factory manager. Robert’s unspoken attraction prompts both young men to connect, but Robert wants to keep their relationship secret. Meanwhile, Robert’s mother arrives seeking work to pay off a huge debt, and the factory’s immigrant workers seek to unionize to protect themselves. These circumstances prompt Robert to make some difficult and unpopular decisions that may impact his job, as well as his relationships with both his mother and Ivar. Norwegian Dream deftly captures the rawness of Robert’s situation with intimate closeups as he tries to work out his problems while pressures mount from all sides. Milkowski delivers an intense, internal performance in this absorbing drama. The documentary, Going to Mars: The Nikki Giovanni Project (HBO and MAX), directed by Michèle Stephenson and Joe Brewster, is a celebratory portrait of the esteemed poet. Filmed over the period of a several years, Giovanni is seen reading poems such as “The True Import of Present Dialogue, Black vs. Negro,” and speaking truth to power. Archival interviews with James Baldwin on the TV show Soul!, on a stage with Pearl Cleage, and at the Apollo Theater also provide a platform for Giovanni. In addition, she talks about her family, from her difficulties with her abusive father, to her love for her granddaughter, as well as civil rights, and “going to Mars.” (Giovanni thinks a Black woman should be first to visit Mars to check it out.) There is more, including a brief segment dedicated to a controversy that arose over her reluctance to protest against Apartheid, as well as scenes featuring Giovanni’s spouse, Virginia Fowler. (But the film does not concentrate much on their relationship.) With its focus on Giovanni and her impact (especially on fans), Going to Mars is a bit hagiographic, but that does not make it any less inspiring.
Fireworks (on VOD and DVD January 16) is a sensitive, heartfelt romantic drama from Italy about two teenagers in 1982 Sicily who fall in love, but face homophobia from their families and others. Gianni (Samuele Segreto) lives with his mother Lina (Simona Malato); his father is “away.” Gianni is bullied by a handful of guys in his village, but his life improves when he meets Nino (Gabriele Pizzurro), by accident—their mopeds crash as Gianni is being chased by his tormentors. As the teens develop a fast friendship, they eventually both work for Nino’s father’s fireworks company. But when they give into their unspoken passions, both Lina and Nino’s mother Carmela (Fabrizia Sacchi), among others, put an end to the budding romance. Fireworks has many affectionate moments and the attraction between Gianni and Nino is palpable—but the film also contains several scenes of violence that can be difficult to watch. Director/ cowriter Giuseppe Fiorello dedicated his film to two teenagers whose lives inspired both Fireworks and the gay rights movement in Italy.
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trip together, read tarot cards, and have more sex. An intimate encounter between Ada and Tomás is especially explicit. Writer/ director Ángel Filgueira is far more interested in mood and tone, leaving viewers to piece together the drama. But a scene where Ada and Mariña talk, kiss, and cry is revealing. This film is slight, but it will satisfy viewers who sink into its rhythms. Another feature that is highly empathic is the drama A Place of Our Own (in Bay Area Theaters, January 12; on
neighbor. Finding the situation untenable, the women are evicted and hole up in a friend’s empty apartment as they look for another place to live. Their efforts are fraught, and their time is often wasted. One possible housing option is dismissed because the landlord will not rent to “these people.” Another opportunity has the agent asking questions about Laila and Roshni to satisfy his curiosity about transpeople, rather than discussing apartments. The women are kept out of society, insulted, and even injured as they try to enjoy the same basic human rights as everyone else. A Place of Our Own shines a necessary light on the trans experience in India, but the discrimination it reveals is certainly taking place worldwide.
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Gary M. Kramer is the author of “Independent Queer Cinema: Reviews and Interviews,” and the co-editor of “Directory of World Cinema: Argentina.” He teaches Short Attention Span Cinema at the Bryn Mawr Film Institute and is the moderator for Cinema Salon, a weekly film discussion group. Follow him on Twitter @garymkramer S AN F R ANC IS C O BAY T IM ES
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Perfect and Not-So-Perfect Female Casting for 2023 Films
Off the Wahl Jan Wahl There were some great movies released in 2023. One of the best was Barbie. I just watched it for the second time and the screenplay continues to blow me away with its wit and wisdom. The last third of the film is especially brilliant, asking us to think and feel while being highly entertained. Noah Baumbach and Greta Gerwig’s screenplay is Oscar worthy, but it helped that a real actress played the leading role. Margot Robbie reminds us that there is someone home behind the eyes, able to show us identifiable emotions.
If a good actress had played the title role, it would have been fascinating. This actress, however, is empty and repetitious in her portrayal of a tormented young girl. Even when she wakes up to her disappointing life with Elvis, she just goes through the motions, never bringing us in on pain, humor, or thoughts. Wrong actress. As a result, the film is slow and ponderous. An interesting leading actress could have saved it.
In the TV series The Crown, an actress showed me it is possible to play the iconic Princess Diana. Elizabeth Debicki told interviewers she was emotionally stuck in becoming Diana, feeling like she was underwater but still breathing. I’m just glad she took us on her amazing journey into this complicated, gifted woman. Issa Rae was controlled and compelling in American Fiction. And the combination of Reese Witherspoon and Jennifer Aniston created a believable platform for The Morning Show, a series that struck me as a longtime broadcaster as altogether too true.
Aside from Margot Robbie as Barbie, other perfect 2023 female casting included Jodie Foster and Annette Bening in Nyad. Oscar nominations for both, please. Also, Viola Davis in Air, a movie I hope
I’m starting the new year rather positive about cinema. It is time to remind everyone to see the new Color Purple on the big screen. Row along with The Boys in the Boat, take the plunge with Nyad, enter
Therein lies my heartbreak hotel. In the 2023 film Priscilla, Cailee Spaeny is completely miscast as Priscilla Presley. Written, directed, and produced by Sofia Coppola, the movie tells the true tale of teenage Priscilla meeting and hooking up with superstar Elvis. The story is fascinating since she was very young and he began running her life early on with seduction and dreams of glory.
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people will find. Fantasia Barrino and Danielle Brooks along with Taraji P. Henson in the wonderful musical The Color Purple had to hit every emotional note and dance move perfectly ... and did! Lily Gladstone in Killers of the Flower Moon was strong in her stillness, holding her own in the starry cast of that terrific film. Who knew a movie almost three and a half hours long could fly by so quickly?
the epic of the Flower Moon, and the heady worlds of Oppenheimer, American Fiction, and Maestro. Jan Wahl is a Hollywood historian and film critic on various broadcast outlets. She has two Emmys and many awards for her longtime work on behalf of film buffs and the LGBTQ community. Contact her at www.janwahl.com
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The Day the Curtains Came Down Documents the Queer Caregiving Team of Phyllis Lyon During the Last Years of Her Life By Deb Svoboda
Lesbian icons and trailblazers Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon met in Seattle in 1950 and moved in together in an apartment on Castro Street on Valentine’s Day in 1953. In 1955, the two cofounded the Daughters of Bilitis, the first lesbian civil and political rights organization in the United States. My name is Deb Svoboda, and I am an Emmy Award-winning director, cinematographer, and storyteller. Before Phyllis Lyon passed in 2020 at the age of 95, I was one of her “caregiver friends” during the last few years of her life. Phyllis and Del’s San Francisco home, now a designated landmark, is where I filmed much of the footage for my documentary, The Day the Curtains Came Down. The home is where, for the last few years of her life, the transgenerational team of queer caregivers entered Phyllis’ daily reality, and helped shape it, as she (and Del) did ours. Through all of the challenges, the community of caregivers and Phyllis’ loved ones succeeded in allowing their icon and dearly beloved to be herself and pass away in her own home, surrounded by love. In my documentary, I hope to give the viewer a glimpse into the remarkable community of queer caregivers—and to convey the importance of culturally competent care while embracing all stages of a trailblazer’s life. Interestingly, the very community that stepped up for Phyllis just happened to be the one that she and Del cultivated and grew in San Francisco as well as worldwide. After Del passed in 2008, Phyllis, feisty, fiercely independent, and strong, rejected all forms of traditional care—and her Alzheimer’s diminished her ability to care for herself. Because many queer elders end up in senior homes that are not
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culturally queer competent, and where they are unable to be their true selves, her family and loved ones devised a way to secretly provide care for her, without sacrificing her integrity and independence. The team of younger queer folks who would be her caregivers would only call themselves “friends” to Phyllis. Phyllis’ family wanted her to, as much as possible, stay in control of her reality.
All of her caregiver friends knew the story of “the day the curtains came down” because, on most evenings, Phyllis would tell the story of when being a lesbian was dangerous and scandalous. When society accepted queerness enough, the curtains no longer needed to be drawn. A few more scenes of the documentary are yet to be filmed, along with interviews, color grading, audio mixing, creation of the music score, and postproduction. With your help, the documentary will highlight causes that Phyllis was so passionate about— including aging, civil rights, and the essence of feeling safe to be yourself. Phyllis and Del paved the way for us, making the world a better place. Please consider being a part of keeping their legacy alive by joining us on the journey of honoring this beautiful stage of life and some of the early trailblazers of our time. Any contribution of any size will be appreciated. To learn more, call or text Susan Berston at 415-596-4900 or go to http://tinyurl.com/42annr53
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Deborah “Deb” Svoboda is an Emmy winning director, cinematographer, and editor. She specializes in telling stories of social justice issues, and elevating people who have been marginalized or misunderstood. She has a knack for finding unusual angles and perspectives that are often overlooked. One of the highlights of Svoboda’s life was spending time with Phyllis Lyon in all of her complexity.
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Jewelle Gomez
Birds of a Feather characters make their annual resolutions at the beginning of the summer season. They do so because, as one character says: “We tend to be more realistic when we’re half naked and holding an umbrella drink.”
Leave Signs Jewelle Gomez I never make New Year’s resolutions because I’ve always found them to be discouraging rather than inspiring. Why should I vow to lose weight in the depths of winter? That’s just when I need weight the most. In my new play, Unpacking in P’town, opening March 1 at the New Conservatory Theatre Center, the
The play is about a group of retired Vaudeville performers in 1959 and their annual visit to their vacation cottages in Provincetown, Massachusetts. The situation, though not the story itself, is based on my (straight) grandmother, Lydia, who was a singer and dancer and the gay community she was a part of each summer when they all hung up their tap shoes. They were immensely entertaining to the public and each other but were never famous. Some became dance teachers, cab drivers, sales clerks,
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elevator operators; taking whatever paying jobs were available to middle-aged hoofers and crooners. They were each from different kinds of families and communities. My longlegged, Bostonian grandmother (continued on page 28)
Lit Snax Power Unbound by Freya Marske Marske delivers a magical Edwardian romp with hella LGBTQ+ characters and spicy scenes!
The Girls by John Bowen This is a charming little novel about two women who share a home, a garden, and later, a baby. What happens when the accidental father returns? Fans of Patricia Highsmith and Edward Gorey (whose delightful designs adorn the cover) should like The Girls.
Yours for the Taking by Gabrielle Korn This lesbian love story is set in a dystopian world with a corrupt corporate feminist billionaire. What more do you need for your next queer read?
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The Storm We Made (fiction hardbound) by Vanessa Chan How wonderful to start off the year with what will probably be one of the best novels of 2024! The Storm We Made is a unique and insightful exploration of a little-known aspect of World War II and the victims who became resilient survivors. This spellbinding, sweeping novel features a Malayan mother who becomes an unlikely spy for the invading Japanese forces during WWII—with shocking consequences for her family, and her country. Spanning years of pain and triumph, told from the perspectives of four unforgettable characters, The Storm We Made is a dazzling debut novel about the horrors of war, the fraught relationships between the colonized and their oppressors, and the ambiguity of right and wrong when survival is at stake. We Should Not Be Friends (nonfiction/memoir - hardbound) by Will Schwalbe By the time Will Schwalbe was a junior at college, he had already met everyone he cared to know. He also knew exactly whom he wanted to avoid: the jocks. All this changed
dramatically when Will collided with Chris Maxey. Maxey was physically imposing, loud, and a star wrestler who was determined to become a Navy SEAL. Thanks to the strangely liberating circumstances of a little-known secret society at Yale, the two forged a bond that would become a mainstay of each other’s lives as they repeatedly lost and found each other and themselves in the years after graduation. We Should Not Be Friends is a warm, funny, irresistible memoir that follows an improbable and life-changing college friendship over the course of forty years—from the best-selling author of The End of Your Life Book Club. How To Fight AntiSemitism (nonfiction paperback) by Bari Weiss For most Americans, the massacre at Tree of Life, the synagogue where Bari Weiss became a bat mitzvah, came as a shock. But anti-Semitism is the oldest hatred, commonplace across the Middle East and on the rise for years in Europe. So that terrible morning in Pittsburgh, as well as the continued surge of hate crimes against Jews in cities and towns across the country, raises a question Americans cannot avoid: Could it happen here? This book is Weiss’ answer. (continued on page 28) S AN F R ANC IS C O BAY T IM ES
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Sister Dana Sez: Words of Wisdumb from a Fun Nun
By Sister Dana Van Iquity Sister Dana sez, “Rhyme Time: Enter twenty-twenty-four! This year will be Queer and more!” 2023 was a year of reckonings and a time for changing history with accountability. This was the year when people found out when their rights were being infringed and therefore stood up for their rights. In the process, we must not diminish our democracy. Sister Dana sez, “2024 is a Leap Year. This year will have 366 days—an extra day to be extra gay, loud, and proud!” According to recent data, the current Republican House of Representatives passed just 22 bills that became law in 2023. In contrast, under Democratic Speaker Nancy Pelosi, the previous House passed 85 bills in 2021, including landmark COVID-19 legislation and the infrastructure law. In last week’s House Rules Committee hearing, Democratic Representative Joe Neguse of Colorado pointed out, “This will go down as the least productive Congress since 1933.”
On the night of January 5, it was broadcast widely that the U.S. Supreme Court is set to rule on Colorado’s ballot ban on February 8, 2024, possibly altering the course of this year’s presidential election. Sister Dana sez, “This monumental decision by the Supremes will determine that they are not above the law; either that, or they will no longer be the SUPREME Court, but will be the INFERIOR Court!” Added to the multitude of reasons to incarcerate Trump, on January 4, the House Democrat Oversight Committee revealed in a new 156page, exhaustive document, WHITE HOUSE FOR SALE: How Princes, Prime Ministers, and Premieres Paid Off President Trump, that this criminal received nearly eight million dollars from foreign and enemy governments while in office as president. And that was just for a two-year period. He received payments from at least 30 countries. This was a blatant defiance of the Foreign Emoluments Clause in The Constitution, Article 1, Section 9. Sister Dana sez, “Republicans are ignoring all the evidence against Trump, while giving all their energy in trying to impeach President Biden with absolutely no evidence. Your government NOT at work!” Here we go again! More Capitol chaos! Congress returns with less than two weeks to avoid a partial government shut-down; but
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Colorado was just one of twenty states where Trump’s presence on the ballot is being challenged based on a 14th Amendment provision that prevents anyone from holding office if they have “previously taken an oath as a member of Congress, or as an officer of the United States” and then become involved in an insurrection. The Colorado Supreme Court ruled 4–3 that Donald Trump is ineligible to hold office because of the 14th Amendment’s insurrection clause. Maine followed suit. These rulings are certain to head to the Supreme Court, which is heavily Trumpsupportive biased. But before all that, Repugnicans are actually trying to take President Joe Biden off the ballots. Sister Dana sez, “Sure, Biden has not solved the migrant crisis yet, so then does this put him in the same category as the fascist, Nazi, would be dictator who willfully caused insurrection?
There is more good news about cutting Trump’s name off the ballot. The number of states trying to dump Trump has increased to 30. Alas, California is NOT one of them. The latest CBS News poll perfectly reveals that those who want to take Trump’s name off ballots are 81% Democrats, 44% Independents, and a mere 10% Republicans. Those who want to keep the Commanderin-Cheat’s name on ballots are 90% Repubs, 56% Indies, and 19% Dems.” Sister Dana sez, “Who the hell cares about the upcoming Iowa Caucus? We activists already know the frightening results will be ‘The Rump’ becoming the Repugnican star candidate, and how we must help Queer the Vote to keep President Biden in office— as well as getting and keeping the entire Democrat ballot slate!”
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Republicans are focused on the absurdly pointless impeachment of President Biden. (See the previous paragraph for more of Sister Dana’s diatribe!) Director Elsa Touche and writer Joe “Jubilee” Wadlington are bringing 9 TO 5: LIVE to OASIS in San Francisco, January 11–21. The adaptation of the iconic workplace comedy 9 to 5 will feature an all-drag, trans-led cast stacked with award and title-winning, celebrated drag artists from the Bay Area. The cultural classic has been redrawn with modern commentary, updated humor, and the raucous vaudevillestyle drag theatre that can only be found in San Francisco. This is the tale of three coworkers who become fast friends as they smash the glass ceiling and put a sexist, egotistical, lying, hypocritical bigot in his place! And no, this time I don’t mean Trump. Starring Coco Buttah, Vanilla Meringue, Jubilee, Jota Mercury, Tater Tatas, Titus Androgynous, and Elsa Touche. Tickets are on sale now and available at https://www.sfoasis.com Nobody loved life more than Michael “Shanté” Youens. Whenever I happened to bump into my dear friend, I was always greeted with enthusiasm, joy, and a big bear hug. He loved to travel and take pictures with Rocky, his famous stuffed squirrel that he carried around the world in his pocket. He loved his family and visiting them in Houston or his sister’s ranch in Virginia over the holidays. He would often invite his friends to join him on these trips or bring new people together for a movie or dinner because, above all else, Shanté loved connecting with us people whom he loved. That’s why everyone is invited to join his friends, family, and community for a CELEBRATION OF LARGER-THANLIFE in honor of Michael Shawn Youens, aka Shanté. This loving memorial will be hosted by Sister Roma & Ethylina Canne on January 13, 5–9 pm at The Academy SF, 2166 Market Street. Music will be provided by DJs Chi Chi LaRue & Sergio Fadez. Entertainment will be by Juanita MORE!, Mr. David Glamamore, The Stanley Frank Sensation, Dulce De Leche, and Miss Rhani Nothingmore. There will be a special live performance by BeBe Sweetbriar, and guest speakers and surprises. Friends and family memories are welcome to be shared. Nonalcoholic beverages will be provided and there will be a no host bar available. The memorial (continued on page 28)
San Francisco Bay Times birthday boys Dennis McMillan, aka Sister Dana (January 1), and Juan Davila (January 6), celebratied together in the Castro at Canela. “Happy Birhday!” to Dennis and Juan! (2019)
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What to Eat in 2024? The Gay Gourmet Comes to the Rescue! Michelin-star gem in Jackson Square seems to indicate it’s still top drawer.
The Gay Gourmet David Landis Every year, the most common question I get asked is, “Where should I eat in the Bay Area?” There is a cornucopia of choices, depending on your mood, type of cuisine, and budget. In the interest of “news you can use,” here’s my annual list of places—both new and old—to try in 2024. Azalina’s: Here you will find Malaysian food at its very best, in the middle of the Tenderloin. You’ll sample dishes you never heard of (like Masak Kicap, a type of beef cheek with star anise and yellow beet relish) in a setting that is warm and welcoming. The fixed price menu is eminently affordable. But take an Uber there and back, because the neighborhood is sketchy. Foreign Cinema: After all these years, this San Francisco classic in the Mission is still at the top of the list. Foreign Cinema serves great California cuisine, offers impeccable service, and you get to watch a film in the outdoor courtyard as well. This year, they even hosted star chef Jeremiah Tower to recreate the magic of Stars restaurant at their location. Quince: This might be my favorite “special occasion” restaurant in the city. Restaurateur Lindsay Tusk and husband/chef Michael Tusk have thankfully reopened this one-of-a-kind dining experience. Even though I haven’t tried it yet since the reopening, the buzz surrounding this Italian-inspired
The new Palm House: This is probably the most dog-friendly restaurant in town, with a covered patio, a special dog menu, and special events for your furry friends. They’ve revamped this popular Union Street spot and the results are admirable. The menu is more focused, with tasty tidbits like popcorn shrimp, a chopped chicken salad, and a yummy smashburger—plus a great cocktail menu and occasional drag shows. Trick Dog: This is a “World’s 50 Best Bars” drinking locale that is one of my chosen watering holes with crafty dog-centric concoctions like the “Puppy Pose” (Wilderton lustre, Seedlip Garden 108, wheatgrass, yogurt, lemon and grapefruit zest), or Down Dog (Mezcal Union Joven, Martini Fiero Aperitivo, papaya, vanilla, harissa, and more). The location can’t be beat: halfway between the Mission District and Potrero Hill. Don’t miss the dog-friendly parklet. You can also take home a fun, illustrated Trick Dog cocktail menu to boot. Poesia’s newish café: Baker Giovanni Liguoro hails from Naples and makes some of the most scrumptious pastries in town, like the Italian cornetti. This whimsically-designed Castro café also offers great sandwiches and salads, and the outdoor café is a great place to people watch. Plus, Giovanni is easy on the eyes. Fang Restaurant: Chinese restaurants in San Francisco are a dime a dozen, but this one leads the pack. Celebrity chef Kathy Fang, who had her own Food Network TV series, has elevated Chinese cuisine. It’s tasty and has all the authenticity of many of the Cantonese dishes we love, but the ingredients, the preparation, and the presentation are all first-rate. Plus, it’s conveniently located, right around the corner from SFMOMA. Bar Sprezzatura: One of the most opulent, design-forward
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restaurants in town, Bar Sprezzatura offers an Italian menu from talented chef Joseph Offner, and delightful cocktails from mixologist/partner Carlo Splendorini to match. Who knew there were such destination-worthy spots in the Financial District? On its own, the gorgeous turquoise and gold luxe look is worth the price of admission. Anomaly SF: This is my top choice for new, high-end fixed price dining, set in an old Presidio Heights Victorian that’s been updated to look like it’s straight out of New York’s upper East Side. The dishes are delish (and served by Chef Mike Lanham himself), and the starting price of $136/person won’t break the bank. Firenze by Night: One of my fave old-school Italian North Beach haunts, Firenze by Night excels at such bona fide offerings as capellini pomodoro e basilico, fettucini pesto, and tortellini in brodo. The Italian murals on the walls are a retro throwback, and the handsome Italian waiters even speak with the expected authentic accent. Perry’s on Union: It’s been around for 54 years, but this American bistro on Union Street owned by the unflagging Perry Butler is still as good as it gets. Perry’s serves
up a great burger and offers a terrific Cobb salad, has a nice wine selection, and is a a perfect place to watch the game. Waterbar: This is a glamorous, sustainable seafood-centric bar and restaurant on the Embarcadero that has one of the best San Francisco Bay views in the city. You can dine on great oysters, delicious fresh seafood, and enjoy the atmosphere (with real-live fish swimming in 2-story aquariums) that makes it a place to show off to out-of-towners. AsiaSF: Perhaps the oldest continuously operating transgender restaurant in America, this restaurant cum nightclub cum cabaret is all-out fun for everyone. There is great Asian fusion food and you can sip terrific cocktails served by the transgender waitstaff, who then perform dynamic and entertaining nightly shows. Florio: San Francisco’s own “Cheers,” this neighborhood gem owned by Doug Biederbeck has the conviviality of a place to which you want to return again and again. It offers tasty Italian and French dishes, along with a full bar where “everybody knows your name.” Make this Fillmore Street eatery a must-dine (and drink) destination. The Academy SF: The Castro’s elegant LGBTQ+ social club, The Academy SF is where the staff are as welcoming as the folks who patronize this Market Street haven. It’s easy to meet people, the drinks are strong, and the club offers everything from wine tastings to cabaret performances, and art classes. Gentleman Farmer’s new Bungalow in Napa: This is a hot new gay-owned wine tasting/ food pairing bungalow in downtown Napa. According to owners/ husbands Jeff Durham and Joey Wolosz, “The Bungalow is a space to host private experiences, salon soirées, live music, burlesque, magic, and much more. We will share background notes, colorful stories, and detailed, down-to-earth answers to wine questions.”
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For those Castro nights: Head to Twin Peaks Tavern and Copper Bar Kitchen and Microbrewery—two of my go-to bars for après-dinner drinks and community. But my pal and author Mark Abramson swears by 440 Castro. With any of these three Castro haunts, you can’t lose. And you might just meet your next boyfriend, girlfriend, or theyfriend. Frances: It used to be impossible to get a reservation, but now you can sup at this fine dining place without reserving a month in advance. And what a bonus that is! It might just be the best restaurant in the Castro, what with divine California cuisine, friendly servers, and the best caviar and almond financiers in town. Hayes St. Grill: After 44 years, this mainstay still boasts the best seafood in town (along with Anchor Oyster Bar, Scoma’s, Tadich, and Waterbar). But the plus here is that you can eat the freshest catch from the ocean before heading to the San Francisco Symphony, SFJAZZ, or the San Francisco Opera. Since it’s in hip Hayes Valley, it’s walking distance to all three performance halls. Chez Panisse: The temple that started the California cuisine revolution under the guidance of goddess and chef Alice Waters still maintains its primo quality in Berkeley. There’s fine dining downstairs along with the more informal café upstairs, and both are still impeccable. Nari: Chef Pim Techamuanvivit’s modern take on Thai cuisine in Japantown is a marvel and boasts a Michelin star. But it’s unbelievably tasty, too. Just watch out for those spices—if you’re sensitive, let her know you want it “mild.” John’s Grill: A landmark destination, John’s Grill serves some of the best steaks and martinis in town. Additionally, this historyladen eatery near Union Square was the location for Sam Spade’s The Maltese Falcon. There’s even a replica of the falcon upstairs! Take a tip from my San Francisco Bay Times colleague Jan Wahl (who loves this place too) and order Sam’s favorite: lamb chops, sliced tomatoes, and potatoes.
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Empress by Boon: This Chinatown treasure is a beauty. It features luxe décor, beautiful views, and—even better—delicious Malaysian-Chinese cuisine. It’s in the former Empress of China space, which reigned supreme for years. You can partake of Chef Ho Chee Boon’s inventive cuisine in the fancy dining room or opt for the more casual lounge/bar area. Bits and Bites Just in time for Valentine’s Day, Teneral Cellars released its “Love is Love - History of Pride” collection to “celebrate the LGBTQ+ communities and its allies.” The winery is donating $10 from every 3-pack to the Stonewall Inn Gives Back Initiative. The release includes a chenin blanc, merlot, and barbera created by Top Chef star Maria Mazon. Since I’m a native Chicagoan, I was happy recently to read Last Call Chicago by Rich Karlin and St. Sukie de la Croix (published by Rattling Good Yarns press). It’s a treasure trove of more than 1,000 LGBTQ-friendly taverns from years past. Reading about The Bistro, Park West, Alfie’s, Le Pub, and Center Stage (where I first saw Broadway star Karen Mason) brought back many fond memories of dancing and drinking in that toddling town in the ‘70s. It should be available in the Castro at Fabulosa Books or you can get it online. We’ve been eating a lot of turkey, ham, roast beef, and more for the
holidays. So, it was nice to try out a new pasta sauce for a change. It’s from a company called The Curvy Italian and their delicious sauces are made with real San Marzano tomatoes from Italy. The company’s mastermind is April Field (dubbed “The Sauce Boss”) and she’s the real deal—a first generation ItalianAmerican. The consistency is a bit lighter than some other brands, but their meat sauce with sweet Italian sausage—coupled with your favorite spaghetti—is top notch and makes for an easy at-home meal. Azalina’s: https://www.azalinas.com/ Foreign Cinema: http://foreigncinema.com/ Quince: https://www.quincerestaurant.com/ Palm House: https://www.palmhousesf.com/ Trick Dog: https://www.trickdogbar.com/ Poesia: https://www.poesiasf.com/ Fang Restaurant: https://www.fangrestaurant.com/ Bar Sprezzatura: https://www.barsprezzatura.com/ Anomaly SF: https://anomalysf.com/ Firenze by Night: https://www.firenzebynightsf.com/ Perry’s on Union: http://tinyurl.com/mwwe92x8
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This Month at the Farmers’ Market
New Year, New Products to Try From the Farmers’ Market By Debra Morris
Do you ever get tired of making the standard, run-ofthe-mill recipes? Does your family groan when you serve the same old dinner again? Why don’t you try some unique produce the next time you cook? Uncommon and interesting produce from the farmers’ market can make your meals a veritable delight of flavors and textures. Expand your cooking horizons this year and try some new and tasty fruits and vegetables. Your resolution should be to excite the taste buds and enlighten your family about all the wonderful produce out there! This interesting produce comes from many sources, especially from farmers of different cultural backgrounds. California is especially fortunate in the availability of uncommon produce because of our immigrant culture. Most of this produce cannot be found at the grocery store, especially when it comes direct from the farm to you! Try some of these amazing fruits and vegetables this year. If you like what you see and want to try something new, ask the farmers how to choose what’s right for your recipe and how to select and prepare it for the best results. They will be happy to introduce you to the product and answer your questions. specialty greens: (year-round) Mounds of fresh bok choy, tatsoi, mustard greens, Chinese broccoli, gailan, savoy (Napa) cabbage, and more are available. There are also yam leaves, pea shoots, and chrysanthemum greens. These are grown by Hmong farmers who have come from Southeast Asia, bringing with them the produce they are familiar with. finger limes: (winter) Measuring about 2 to 3 inches long, finger limes resemble jalapeños or
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gherkins. They’re filled with tiny, juice-filled limeflavored beads (vesicles) that spill out when you slice or snap open the fruit. They are originally from Australia and the rainforests of New Guinea! sugarcane: (winter) This is the stalk from which processed sugar is derived, but eaten in its natural state. It is native to the warm temperate and tropical regions of India, Southern China, Brazil, and New Guinea. Sugarcane was brought to the Americas in the 15th century, by way of Portuguese traders. cherimoya: (winter/spring) These are heart-shaped fruits that have a scaly, greenish skin and creamy, white flesh. Each has a soft custardy flesh that tastes like a pear with hints of mango, pineapple, and coconut. This fragrant fruit is native to Central and South America. kohlrabi: (fall, winter) It looks like a little sputnik space ship with stems coming straight up from the round body. It grows in green or purple. A wild ancestor of kohlrabi is believed to have originated in Central Europe. (continued on page 28)
JEWELLE GOMEZ (continued from pg 21) was part Wampanoag and African American; her close friend, Scottie, was from Scotland and sang in a glorious tenor. They formed the core of this family of friends who endured for decades.
world hold sway over them once they slipped into their swimsuits. Their stories and their music made me feel comfortable about being a multi-ethnic lesbian who wanted to tell stories.
Spending summers in a small beach town famous since the 1930s for its progressiveness had its advantages— especially a town that had been home to celebrated artists like Robert Motherwell and Eugene O’Neill. That’s not to say it was a totally smooth ride, but gay people felt they were entwined with the prosperity of the village and so were not easily dismissed. Besides, no town fathers wanted Tennessee Williams to talk bad about them.
Each generation hopes they can make the world easier for the next and this group of mostly queer entertainers whom I got to call uncles and aunts definitely did that for me. My grandmother, Lydia, used to toast her friends with: “Birds of a feather flock together.” And, in some ways, that implied that the group of birds were all the same.
When I visited for a weekend each summer, it was where I saw queer adults who were not hiding or defensive; they were literally half naked and holding cocktails. And I got to hear their many stories like the terror of getting lost in a Canadian town’s thick fog, uncertain if it was even safe to ask for directions—and hear the songs they sang aloud to dispel their fear while they inched through the night to find their rooming house.
But the more I worked on my play and remembered who they were, I realized they were not the same at all. No matter what ethnicity, whether queer or not, the feathers they shared were their powerful love of music, dance, and theatre; and a belief that their art could help heal us. So, pretend it’s summer, huddle up in a flock, grab an umbrella drink, and think about how you can make this next year better.
The long-term advantage for me was that my grandmother’s ease with her gay friends made me comfortable with myself as a young lesbian. Her circle of pals included those who were white, Black, Latinx, bi-racial and multiethnic; an American mix that understood the dangers the outside the world posed. They’d survived traveling around the country being refused hotel rooms, being confined to certain railway cars, and denied restaurant service. But each glorious New England summer was theirs and they refused to let the bitter reality of the “square”
Unpacking in P’town March 1–31 at the New Conservatory Theatre Center https://nctcsf.org/event/unpacking-in-ptown/ Jewelle Gomez is a lesbian/feminist activist, novelist, poet, and playwright. She’s written for “The Advocate,” “Ms. Magazine,” “Black Scholar,” “The San Francisco Chronicle,” “The New York Times,” and “The Village Voice.” Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @VampyreVamp
BOOK PASSAGE (continued from pg 21) Upcoming Events Wednesday, January 17 @ 6 pm (free - Corte Madera store) Joan Gelfand, author of Outside Voices Outside Voices reports the ups and downs of finding one’s way as an artist, living with a women’s band, forging an independent Jewish identity, founding a women’s restaurant, and becoming a published writer and songwriter while exploring the limits of sexuality and spirituality. The story includes road trips to music festivals in the woods, beaches in Mexico, concerts in Southern California, and a retreat in the Pacific Northwest. Saturday, January 20 @ 3 pm (free - San Francisco store) Gemini Wahhaj, author of The Children of This Madness and Anoop Ahuja Judge, author of Mercy and Grace In The Children of This Madness, Gemini Wahhaj pens a complex tale of modern Bengalis, one that illuminates the recent histories not only of Bangladesh, but also America and Iraq. Told in multiple voices over successive eras, this
is the story of Nasir Uddin and his daughter Beena, and the intersection of their distant, vastly different lives. In Mercy and Grace the reader goes from India to America in this powerful tale by the author of No Ordinary Thursday. Sunday, January 21 @ 4 pm (free - Corte Madera store) Grace Hawthorne, author of Make Possibilities Happen Turn your vision into reality! Transform what if into what’s next! Discover how to make your ideas work for you with this transformative guide from Stanford University adjunct professor Grace Hawthorne. Possibility is the ability to see something in your imagination and materialize it in real life. You already possess (almost) everything you need to make things happen— Make Possibilities Happen helps you find your way. Discover tools and strategies for overcoming the hang-ups that prevent you from getting things done or even starting. Learn exercises for building the creative capacity of your brain. https://www.bookpassage.com/
FARMERS’ MARKET (continued from pg 26) celeriac: (summer, fall, winter) It looks like a knobby brown root and has an earthy taste with a slight hint of celery flavor. The texture is close to a turnip or potato. chayote squash: (summer) Chayote plants grow as climbing vines. Originating in Mexico, the squash is consumed in dishes throughout Central and South American cuisines. The texture is similar to an unripe pear and has a mild squash flavor.
your farmers’ market. You can find some of these products at J&M Farms out of Hollister and Jacob’s Farm in Merced.
quelites: (year-round) Many farmers grow wild Mexican greens called quelites. They are the young, tender parts of edible plants traditionally used in Latin cuisine. They are slightly bitter and herby. They include purslane, epazote, nettles, and lamb’s quarters.
The Castro Farmers’ Market is closed for the season and is scheduled to reopen on April 3, 2024. In the meantime, please visit the Divisadero Farmers’ Market at 1377 Fell Street or the Inner Sunset Farmers’ Market at 1315 8th Street. Both are in San Francisco on Sundays year-round from 9 am–1 pm. For information about additional local farmers’ markets, as well as on recipes and more, visit the Pacific Coast Farmers’ Market Association website: https://www.pcfma.org/
For 2024, turn up the edible excitement and brighten up your everyday cuisine with some unique products from
Debra Morris is a spokesperson for the Pacific Coast Farmers’ Market Association.
SISTER DANA (continued from pg 22) will be catered by Celebrity Chef Ryan Scott 2Go. Rest in power and peace, dearest Shanté! As of January 7, 2024, nearly 1,200 criminals were charged in the January 6 Capitol attack for Trump’s insurrection— with more than half pleading guilty. Former Federal Prosecutor Scott Fredericksen has boldly addressed this crime, saying, “This is not only the largest United States Department of Justice criminal investigation ever; it’s probably the most successful too. DOJ has pretty much a perfect record so far.” Meanwhile the ex-president is calling these criminals “The J6 hostages,” and promising when president to pardon all of the rioters. Of course, by then the disgraced and charged former dictator will have his own department of injustice to support him. KREWE DE KINQUE, the Mardi Gras themed social and fundraising club, will present BAL MASQUE XXI “Two Decades of Decadence” benefiting Urban Angels SF on Saturday, January 20, 6 pm–9 pm, The Café, 2369 Market. This is a fabulous opportunity to wear costumes, masks, or anything you might consider “decadent,” or just come as you 28
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are. There will be live entertainment (including BeBe Sweetbriar, Bearlesque, MissConception, Vivianne Vixen, Pup Mez, Kippy Marks, Carly Ozard, and Donna Sachet), music (Creole and other types), dancing, and Second/Line Parading around in parasols the colors of Mardi Gras (green, gold, and purple). Queen VII Sister Dana will be the official “bead bish” handing out colorful beads to attendees. This will be the official stepping down of the glorious reign of King XX Mez and Queen XX Moxie, and the revealing of the next Krewe de Kinque King and Queen. All that AND supporting the tremendous Urban Angels of SF, which helps the unhoused in so many ways. Tickets at https://rb.gy/orc0oe From the comedic mind of Tina Fey comes a new twist on the modern classic, MEAN GIRLS. New student Cady Heron (Angourie Rice) is welcomed into the top of the social food chain by the elite group of popular girls called “The Plastics,” ruled by the conniving queen bee Regina George (Reneé Rapp) and her minions Gretchen (Bebe Wood) and Karen (Avantika). However, when Cady makes the major misstep of falling for Regina’s ex-boyfriend Aaron Samuels (Christopher Briney), she finds her-
self prey in Regina’s crosshairs. And then begins the true meaning of the title. Also starring Jenna Fischer, Busy Philipps, Tina Fey, with Tim Meadows. In theaters January 12. On January 5, the eve of the infamous JANUARY 6 INSURRECTION AT THE CAPITOL, President Joe Biden gave an emotionally stirring speech in the historic backdrop of Valley Forge, Pennsylvania, where the Revolutionary War occurred. Today the war rages on as President Biden warned us democracy-loving citizens that ex-president Trump and his MAGA maniacs would destroy every last bit of democracy, inclusivity, diversity, freedom, and civil rights. Biden asked an important question: “Is democracy still America’s sacred cause?” He exhorted, “Democracy is on the ballot!” He elaborated, “We all know who Donald Trump is. The question we have to answer is: ‘Who are we?’ That’s what’s at stake!” Biden concluded, “I won the election; he was the loser!” Sister Dana sez, “Democrats are finally beginning to grow a pair—and I don’t mean the Bartlett fruit growing on a tree!”
SUPER FRIENDS NYC Behind the Scenes in Times Square for the New Year’s Eve Ball Drop Photos courtesy of Fernando Camino
San Francisco Bay Times contributor Fernando Camino, creator of the YouTube channel SuperFriends NYC, regularly livestreams from midtown Manhattan and beyond. Wearing his warm rainbow-colored scarf, Camino donned the required hard hat and safety vest for the behind the scenes visit to the top of the One Times Square Building on December 27, 2023, for an up close view of the famous New Year’s Eve Ball.
Singer/songwriter Paul Anka
Following the outdoor elevator ride to the top, he joined with press representatives for an in-person interview with Paul Anka. The legendary singer/songwriter was preparing for his upcoming live performance on New Year’s Eve of the Anka-penned song that Frank Sinatra made famous, “My Way.”
Fernando Camino with Paul Anka
The experience provided skyscraper level views of the streets and sites Camino tours each Saturday night, featuring the Times Square Midnight Moment, which begins at 8 pm Pacific/11 pm Eastern. It is the world’s largest and longest running digital art exhibition. Additionally, Camino conducted a live interview with Anka, who enjoyed the conversation and gave a personalized version of “My Way” followed by multiple hugs and shout outs to the SuperFriendsNYC audience.
Fernando Camino with Miss Universe 2023, Sheynnis Palacios of Nicaragua
Watch the video and enjoy the sparkling Times Square Ball from a perspective you have likely not seen before. Admire the new Waterford crystals created and installed for 2023, and hear numerous references to the San Francisco Bay Times during the archived livecast: http://tinyurl.com/mw35btxu
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Paul Anka performing in Times Square, December 31, 2023
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Take Me Home with You! Meet Perry, our small Chihuahua mix who charms everyone with his endearing underbite and beautiful beige short coat. He’s a cheese and chicken enthusiast, making him an eager learner during training sessions. Perry is gaining confidence daily, especially with leashing, and is ready to trust and bond with new people. Ideal for those seeking a compact companion, Perry has a small stature that makes him perfect for any family. Ready to help this delightful little guy reach his full potential? Visit our adoption center, and you could be the Perry one to guide Perry into becoming your loyal and adventurous sidekick. To meet Perry in person, visit the SF SPCA Mission Campus @ 201 Alabama Street. Visitors are welcome from 11 am–6 pm (Wednesday–Sunday) and 1 pm–6 pm on Tuesdays. The SF SPCA is closed on Mondays. For more information: https://www.sfspca.org/adoptions/
Let’s Go Home!
Here are two of the many pets now available for adoption at Oakland Animal Services (OAS):
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Three-year-old Amana will steal your heart! Amana loves treats and is a quick learner using rewards-based training. This shy, gentle girl has blossomed in her foster home and is ready for her forever home! Mikey and Marvin are a bonded pair of 6- to 8-month-old kittens looking for a forever home together. Marvin is playful and affectionate, and he has been helping Mikey to learn to be more confident. They met at the shelter and are now an inseparable pair. The OAS adoption process focuses on matching you with a pet who is a good fit for you and your family. Come by during open adoption hours Thursdays 12–7 pm and Fridays/Saturdays/Sundays 12–3 pm to adopt your new best friend, or to learn more about the OAS adoption process. Please see the OAS website to learn more about how you can help by adopting, fostering, volunteering, and donating: www.oaklandanimalservices.org
Mikey and Marvin
Fitness SF Trainer Tip “As one gets older, fitness enhances more than the way one looks. It affects their confidence, balance, strength, willpower, motivation, and so much more. Fitness becomes a form of therapy that contributes to one’s inner peace.” —David Iborra, a former personal trainer who is now the Assistant General Manager of Fitness SF Castro
Aaron Zamarron, Customer Service Manager for Fitness SF, provides monthly tips that he has learned from colleagues, professional trainers, and more. For additional information: https://fitnesssf.com/
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Two customers celebrating New Year’s Eve joined the door manager at 440 Castro for a photo featuring their top hats. A circular display of nutcrakers and holiday flowers welcomed guests to the lobby at Hotel Nikko near Union Square.
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The Cinch Saloon was a “hot spot” on Polk Street for New Year’s Eve celebrants of all ages.
A view of San Francisco City Hall at twilight during December featured as its centerpiece the decorated and lit holiday tree.
Continuing the Charitable Legacy of Tenderloin Tessie Photos courtesy of Sister Roma Sister Roma, Juan Davila of the San Francisco Bay Times, and others helped out with the 2023 Tenderloin Tessie free Christmas Dinner offered to all who came to the event, held at the First Unitarian Church (1187 Franklin Street), on December 25.
Cozy up by the “fire” with the Konwin Stove Heater! This 20-inch heater has two thermostat-controlled infrared heat settings and a log flame effect. The flame is dimmable and independently controlled so you can add a warm glow to your home whether the heat setting is on or off. $149.99
Live entertainment was provided by Vanessa Bousay, who was joined briefly onstage by The Grinch (Davila). In addition to the meal and show, free haircuts were provided by a LoveCuts barbershop pop-up. Guests also received a gift bag and clothing from St. Anthony’s, which partners with Tenderloin Tessie Holiday Dinners. “Tessie” was the drag name of Perry Spink, a local performer and bartender who began the tradition of serving free holiday meals in 1974. Although Spink died in 1984, the tradition he started has continued. The next free holiday meal will be served on Easter, followed by Thanksgiving, and full circle back to Christmas.
Who says practical cannot be beautiful? Cliff’s now has this colorful, sustainable 18”x30” Rainbow Coconut Fiber Door Mat and many other door mats available. $69.99
The Bay Times thanks all who help to continue Spink’s legacy, and especially Michael Gagne, who is President of the Tenderloin Tessie Board. http://www.tenderlointessie.com
Since our founding in 1936, Cliff’s Variety has been constantly growing and evolving in response to the needs of our customers. Our buyers strive to keep our selection fresh, on-trend, and competitive. We carry the best of everything from hardware & tools to cookware, garden supplies, toys, crafts, and gifts. We also offer re-keying and lock repair, knife sharpening, glass, acrylic & wood cutting. Light fabrication, pipe threading, and cable crimping are among the many other services we offer at Cliff’s Variety. If your project has gone a little beyond your abilities, we’re here to help. https://cliffsvariety.com/
As Heard on the Street . . . What was your first job? compiled by Rink
Al Furumoto
“Working in my family’s restaurant”
Julie Johnson “Corn detasseling”
David Delgado
“Bartending at age 9 at my father’s poker games. I have been a hard worker since then.”
Sister Guarden O’Pansies
“Babysitting, and sometimes for a family with 5 very young children”
Mario Benfield
“Serving giant Coney Island Hot Dogs with anything you wanted on them, at age 16”
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